Betrayed & Stayed

11: How to Stop Obsessing Over the Affair Partner

We all do it. It's hard not to. We stalk their social media. We ruminate over their looks, their photos, who they are with, and what it was about them that attracted our partner. This is normal after infidelity, but can quickly become an obsession. Let's try to break that obsessive habit together. Click HERE [https://app.delenta.com/ta/@monicahumpal] to schedule a free consultation with me. Let's walk this journey together. Click HERE [https://monicahumpal.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Pain_Shopping_Guide_with_Logo.pdf] to access the free downloadable STOP worksheet

10: Smart Steps to Follow Before Reconciling After Infidelity

Should you reconcile after discovering betrayal? You may want to, but should you? It's oftentimes a scary situation to navigate because there are no guarantees that reconciliation will ultimately end in a healthy, happy marriage. It may very well end in further betrayal. As we deal with the fallout of devastation and obliterated trust we are left with not knowing what to do. We love them. We want to believe them when they seem so remorseful. But is reconciliation the right choice? There are no black and white answers to this as every situation is unique. BUT there are smart steps you can follow to help you navigate your decision making process. The key is to be intentional about your choice. Take smart, intentional steps. I hope this episode will help you as you work your way through this.

9: Inside the Mind of An Unfaithful Man (Part 2)

This is a PART 2 of a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a conversation such as this was challenging, but the wait was worth it to have Eric join us and share his story and insights. This was a two hour interview that has beens split into two parts so be sure to listen to part 2 (released one week after this episode is published). Be sure to check out Eric's info below and reach out if you or someone you know is an unfaithful man seeking support. GUEST INFO Eric Lintz: Coach, Mentor Enlifted Level 2 Coach, Assistant Coach with Man2Man, Founder of OnceACheater Eric's life unraveled after betraying his wife and blowing up his marriage and family. As the fallout intensified, shame and despair took hold, and he began to believe suicide was the only way to end the pain. A friend stepped in and urged him to attend an intensive workshop. It was there Eric took ownership of his healing and began the slow, painful process of rebuilding his life, his marriage, and his family. Over time, he developed the durability needed to face himself honestly and change. Today, Eric helps men rebuild after betrayal, secrecy, and relational damage. He guides them through ownership, honesty, and consistent change, helping them build the emotional durability needed for lasting transformation. His work is anchored in a simple truth: if you change, everything will change for you. Connect with Eric at: https://onceacheater.com [https://onceacheater.com] **Are you a betrayed spouse looking for support? I give free consultations and would love to show you how coaching can help. Schedule with me today at https://monicahumpal.com/appointments/ [https://monicahumpal.com/appointments/] #unfaithful #betrayed #betrayal #affairrecovery #affair #cheating #betrayaltrauma #podcast #affairrecoveryforthebetrayed #marriage #healingafterbetrayal #reconciliation

8: Inside the Mind of An Unfaithful Man (Part 1)

This is a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a conversation such as this was challenging, but the wait was worth it to have Eric join us and share his story and insights. This was a two hour interview that has beens split into two parts so be sure to listen to part 2 (released one week after this episode is published). Be sure to check out Eric's info below and reach out if you or someone you know is an unfaithful man seeking support. Guest Info Eric Lintz: Coach, Mentor Enlifted Level 2 Coach, Assistant Coach with Man2Man, Founder of OnceACheater Eric's life unraveled after betraying his wife and blowing up his marriage and family. As the fallout intensified, shame and despair took hold, and he began to believe suicide was the only way to end the pain. A friend stepped in and urged him to attend an intensive workshop. It was there Eric took ownership of his healing and began the slow, painful process of rebuilding his life, his marriage, and his family. Over time, he developed the durability needed to face himself honestly and change. Today, Eric helps men rebuild after betrayal, secrecy, and relational damage. He guides them through ownership, honesty, and consistent change, helping them build the emotional durability needed for lasting transformation. His work is anchored in a simple truth: if you change, everything will change for you. Connect with Eric at: https://onceacheater.com [https://onceacheater.com/]

7: Stop Doing the "Pick Me" Dance During Affair Recovery

After infidelity, it's easy to slip into what I call the "pick me" dance… trying harder, giving more, being easier to love, all in an effort to feel chosen again. In this episode, we're not talking about why you do it. You already know. We're talking about how to stop. You'll learn how to recognize when you're over-functioning in the relationship, how to meet your partner's needs without abandoning yourself, and how to shift out of anxious, approval-seeking behavior into something much more grounded and powerful. Because here's the truth: You don't rebuild a relationship by competing for your place in it. We'll walk through: * What "pick me" behavior actually looks like in real life * How to catch yourself in the moment before you self-abandon * The difference between healthy effort and fear-based over-giving * How to stay rooted in your self-respect while the relationship is being rebuilt If you're tired of feeling like you're the one doing all the emotional work… this episode will help you reset. You are not here to win them back. You are here to decide if this relationship is still worthy of you. I can help you with this and more challenges you may be experiencing through affair recovery. Book a free consultation: https://app.delenta.com/ta/@monicahumpal [https://app.delenta.com/ta/@monicahumpal]