Bottled Up: Help for families of alcoholics and those struggling with alcoholism

Parenting - a conversation

This episode explores one of the hardest aspects of living with a problem drinker: trying to protect your children. Drawing on their own family experiences, Lou once again talks with Ben and they discuss the fear, guilt and uncertainty of raising children alongside a problem drinker, balancing honesty with protection, and deciding when and how to explain addiction. They reflect on shielding children from trauma, preserving healthy relationships with both parents where possible, and the importance of kindness towards yourself when there are no perfect decisions. They discuss getting help as early as possible, resilience, compassion and using painful experiences to help others. For 1-2-1 counselling with John visit: https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/ [https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/] Please be very clear that, at Bottled Up we strongly advise people not to remain in violent or abusive relationships. We understand fully that in many cases circumstances can become untenable. We discuss this fully in our Podcast "Should I Stay or Should I Go". For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years. Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life. The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you. For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com For advertising and sponsorship opportunities email info@snapper-films.com ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

A father's story - living with a drinker - part 2

In this second part, Lou and John talk to Ben about children, recovery and the lasting impact of addiction. Ben discusses protecting his children and deciding when to talk to them about their mother's drinking, and the difficult balance between shielding loved ones and confronting reality. He reflects on his wife's unexpected sobriety, his own struggles with anxiety, depression and complex PTSD, and the challenge of recovering when trust and communication remain damaged. Lou, John and Ben explore shame, hope, healing and the importance of seeking help early. For 1-2-1 counselling with John visit: https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/ [https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/] Please be very clear that, at Bottled Up we strongly advise people not to remain in violent or abusive relationships. We understand fully that in many cases circumstances can become untenable. We discuss this fully in our Podcast "Should I Stay or Should I Go". For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years. Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life. The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you. For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com For advertising and sponsorship opportunities email info@snapper-films.com ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

A father's story - living with a drinker - part 1

In the first of a two-part special, Lou and John interview Bottled Up producer Ben about the early years of living with a partner's alcohol addiction. Ben describes the gradual realisation that something was wrong, the shock of discovering hidden alcohol, the confusion, fear and denial that followed. The conversation explores secrecy, broken trust, emotional isolation and trying to understand addiction. Ben reflects on finding support through Bottled Up and counselling, and learning that he could not control another person's drinking. Lou and John also talk about the importance of self-care, friendship, exercise and maintaining hope during the chaos. For 1-2-1 counselling with John visit: https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/ [https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/] Please be very clear that, at Bottled Up we strongly advise people not to remain in violent or abusive relationships. We understand fully that in many cases circumstances can become untenable. We discuss this fully in our Podcast "Should I Stay or Should I Go". For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years. Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life. The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you. For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com For advertising and sponsorship opportunities email info@snapper-films.com ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Lies & Denial

In this episode, Lou and John discuss one of the most painful aspects of alcoholism for families: denial, lies and broken trust. John explains that denial is not simply dishonesty but a genuine belief that alcohol is a solution rather than a problem and reflects on how he genuinely believed alcohol was helping him cope with anxiety, low self-esteem and emotional pain, making it difficult to recognise the damage it was causing. The discussion highlights how drinkers often lie both to others and to themselves, protecting the addiction and avoiding shame. The conversation offers reassurance to partners and families, helping them understand that much of the deception is driven by shame, fear and addiction rather than a lack of love. This episode will be followed soon by another episode in which we talk to people about their experience of having to cope with the lies and denial. For 1-2-1 counselling with John visit: https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/ [https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/] Please be very clear that, at Bottled Up we strongly advise people not to remain in violent or abusive relationships. We understand fully that in many cases circumstances can become untenable. We discuss this fully in our Podcast "Should I Stay or Should I Go". For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years. Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life. The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you. For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com For advertising and sponsorship opportunities email info@snapper-films.com ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

ANXIETY

In this episode, John and Lou talk about anxiety when living with a problem drinker. They explain how the constant uncertainty drives hyper-vigilance, exhaustion and fear. Lou and John talk about practical ways to manage anxiety, including relaxation, exercise, nature, meditation, counselling and building supportive routines. John shares how the serenity prayer helped him cope with overwhelming anxiety and Lou encourages listeners to acknowledge and comfort their fears rather than suppress them. The episode puts the emphasis on self-care, recognising that anxiety is a normal response to a very difficult and abnormal situation. For 1-2-1 counselling with John visit: https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/ [https://bottled-up.com/1-to-1/] Please be very clear that, at Bottled Up we strongly advise people not to remain in violent or abusive relationships. We understand fully that in many cases circumstances can become untenable. We discuss this fully in our Podcast "Should I Stay or Should I Go". For more information on the service Bottled Up provides, visit: www.bottled-up.com Dr John McMahon is a professor and was the senior lecturer for addiction counsellors at the University of the West of Scotland. He has led prominent studies into alcohol addiction for more than 15 years. Before this, for many years, John had an addiction to alcohol. He has been sober for over 40 years. Lou Lewis is a professional counsellor and the co-founder of Bottled Up with John. Lou's first husband had an addiction to alcohol for many years, from that experience and her counselling Lou has a deep understanding of the difficulties of living with problem drinkers. John and Lou are married and live in England. They founded Bottled Up in the hope that it would help change your life. The Bottled Up program is innovative and advocates that the partners of alcoholics can introduce changes to their lives, which will empower them and influence their drinkers to change. If you live with an alcoholic partner, or are looking for help to quit drinking, then Bottled Up is for you. For more help and advice visit www.bottled-up.com For advertising and sponsorship opportunities email info@snapper-films.com ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.