Bound for Change

Boundaries for Doctors and Professionals with Shola Ezeokoli

Can setting boundaries can be a time-saving tool? How many times do we say: "I don't have time". In some cases, a more truthful response might be "I don't have boundaries!" In this interview with Dr. Shola Ezeokoli, physician, speaker, coach and author, you'll here one of the most important questions that doctors, lawyers, accountants and other professionals on the brink can ask themselves: "What do you want?" A simple question, but so difficult to answer when we've spread ourselves thin and are merely trying to get through the day, let alone manage our time in a way that takes care of ourselves.  Dr. Shola Ezeokoli is the multi-talented founder and CEO of Balance with Dr. Shola LLC and the Physician Heal Yourself brand. Known for her vibrant personality and innovative approach to physician coaching, Dr. Shola is passionate about helping early to mid-career physicians create lives of more wealth, autonomy, freedom, and fun through her work as a professional coach, speaker, and author. You can reach out to Dr. Shola here: Website [https://sholaezeokoli.com/] Facebook  [https://www.facebook.com/shola.shade] Book: Physician Heal Yourself [https://sholaezeokoli.com/product/physician-heal-yourself/] To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com [podcast@talktomycoach.com]. Timestamps: 5:23 Shola's story with burnout while working as a physician 7:24 How the stigmatization of mental health challenges interferes with getting help 8:34 What topic did the media NOT want to hear Dr. Shola speak about with them? 9:26 Doctors are not heroes 13:28 How Dr. Shola helps her physician clients heal from burnout 19:03 Dr. Shola is not a fixer 20:20 Not everything is your business, so stay in your own lane 22:58 Why Dr. Shola won't help everyone 26:36 The KEY question Dr Shola asks her clients 28:13 We can't donate to every cause, so choose what makes most sense

Setting Boundaries with Money with Candice Bakx-Friesen

I'd like to introduce you to Candice Bakx-Friesen. She is a Canadian woman entrepreneur, real estate agent, sales trainer and certified money coach. Candice is passionate about helping people reach their financial dreams. She is a highly motivated woman who has a passion for helping others succeed in life and business. She is a mother of 4, top performing realtor, entrepreneur, money coach, and speaker. Candice has been a real estate investor since 2001. Candice’s candid approach to business and affinity for getting past the fluff and getting to the root of each challenge for her clients so that they get a lot done, has led to her becoming a highly sought after coach within the finance and real estate industries. Candice also provides sales coaching to fellow real estate agents but her passion lies in the finance industry. She coaches / trains / mentors on money topics, anything from basic budgeting to real estate investing. Candice has had many opportunities to speak in front of large crowds and enjoys teaching others and helping people reach their financial dreams. In this episode, we discuss how each of Candice's clients a different need and a different want when it comes to money.  We also talk about how to set financial boundaries, and how sometimes our boundaries can be too rigid, and what we can do when we run into that problem. I also asked her for a few little tips and tricks for people who want to improve their relationship with money.  You can reach out to Candice here: Candice Bakx-Friesen website [https://www.candicebakxfriesen.com] Investor Smarts [https://www.facebook.com/InvestorSmarts] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/bakxfriesen] Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/investorsmarts] (Investor Smarts) LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/candice-bakx-friesen-68104031] Twitter [https://twitter.com/CandiceatRLP] To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com [podcast@talktomycoach.com]. Timestamps: 3:59 Candice's definition of boundaries 5:57 Strict boundaries and cancel culture: Are we too strict with our boundaries these days? 7:48 The number one issue in relationships when it comes to money 10:48 Candice's approach to supporting her financial coaching clients  14:38 The pandemic's effects on people's spending habits and financial boundaries 16:36 Budget: The word that everybody hates  18:19 Candice's words of advice to people who are feeling the financial effects of the pandemic 25:52 Tips for people who are starting to live within a budget and feel social pressure that would result in over-spending 32:49 How to work with Candice

Setting Boundaries at Work with Palash Sanyal

In this episode you'll meet Palash Sanyal, emotional intelligence coach and conflict resolution specialist. Our conversation quickly dials into how employees and managers navigate setting boundaries in the workplace. We brainstorm ways in which managers can support new employees so they feel comfortable communicating boundaries, and we delve into the various types of boundaries - which is a completely different conversation that will surprise you.  Palash was born and raised in Bangladesh and moved to Canada in 2017. He's currently based in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, and his education and background have been tied to water, so he often dares to call himself a water security expert. And as an aside, he also has an engineering degree, and he's going for his CPA in accountancy.  You can reach out to Palash here: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/palashsanyal/] Cedar Aspen Coaching Aspen [https://cedaraspen.com/] To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com [podcast@talktomycoach.com]. Timestamps: 4:43 Palash's definitions of boundaries, including the fluidity of boundaries depending on the context, and the definition of loose boundaries 10:41 Should "Setting Boundaries" be a dedicated section in Employee Orientations? 15:36 The relationship between policies and setting and maintaining boundaries in the workplace 19:50 How emotional intelligence will help individuals navigate uncomfortable situations that arise from unclear boundaries 25:12 Remote and cooperative spaces can be born out of new boundaries being set by management 31:21 Overcommunicating: Is it a help or hindrance in the workplace 35:36 "Button in the shirt factory" analogy: The trend of executives continuing to work on the ground floor to keep in touch with their employees 41:31 Is it appropriate for CEOs to do all the jobs, or should they focus on just doing what they know and have expertise in? 43:47 There should be a class that teaches us how to ask questions 51:52 How you minimize the impact or minimize the loss and make something good out of those situations and people used to do that all the time.

When Nice Girls Set Boundaries with Seryna Myers

In this episode you'll meet sacred transformation mentor Seryna Myers, who helps us understand the sacredness of anger. In our culture, we try to either push down our own anger, or we try to help other people not feel anger. But the truth is if we can feel anger and move through that that's actually incredibly helpful to ourselves, and to the people that we share spaces with. This interview is so powerful: Seryna brings such a calm to any space she's in. We talk about energetic sovereignty, and also how curiosity can save us. Seryna is a sacred transformation mentor and author of the book Sacred Anger [https://seryna.ca/sacredanger/]. Her divinely guided coaching guides recovering people pleasers. Seryna has personal and professional commitment to exploring the shadow side of light work in safe and sacred spaces are what make her coaching programs have deep and lasting impact.   You can connect with Seryna here: Instagram [https://instagram.com/serynamyers] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/reallybeingyou] The Nice Girl's Guide to Luscious Living: the secrets behind getting more of what you want [https://seryna.ca/nice-girls-guide] To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com [podcast@talktomycoach.com]. Timestamps: 4:24 Seryna's definitions of boundaries 6:21 How being a nice girl is built into the social construct of being a woman and how that impedes our ability to set boundaries 7:51 How the pandemic has brought a positive change and wiped the slate clean for folks who want to set new boundaries 12:39 Setting new boundaries and not letting everyone in on shifts and growth that is happening in Seryna's personal life 15:45 Media and advertisers' ability to take advantage of the fact that their audiences have "checked out" and struggle with  their mind body connection 17:15 Seryna's personal experience in setting boundaries, which began with a sad event at the age of 17 20:47 The uncomfortable truth of being a people pleaser / nice girl 24:06 Energetic sovereignty and denying others the experience of allowing them to navigate life themselves by doing it with them 28:57 The relationship between capacity and boundaries; how do you KNOW what your capacity is? 33:14 The way to discover your energetic baseline and thus your boundaries 35:13 The benefits of just saying "No" 38:57 How empaths respond to emails in an efficient and respectful way 44:53: TicTok and Schitt's Creek: How we manage our personal boundaries around media and tech

Art of Boundaries in Relationships with Cathleen and Ryan McMahon

One of the hardest-hit sectors during the pandemic has been arts and culture, and touring musician Ryan McMahon and former musician manager Cathleen McMahon desribe their journey over the past two years that took them from being partners in business to Cathleen resigning from her role as Ryan's manager and finding a new path that better suited her personal growth and desires. This wasn't easy, but the effects of this change have provided remarkable growth for both Cathleen and Ryan, as you'll hear in this interview.  We talk about fact-checking ourselves, how to maintain boundaries with spouses who are also business partners during non-work time, and the idea of "emotional prenups" for musicians and artists who are collaborating on projects.  Ryan McMahon has played solo for over 20 years. He has a number of albums under his belt. He was also in the group Lion Bear Fox. You can hear his music and learn more about Ryan here [https://ryanmcmahon.com/].  Cathleen McMahon has spent most of her career as a music industry professional, and she's blended her music and communications knowledge into charitable organization campaigns to increase awareness for childhood cancer, and our veteran community. She holds a bachelor's degree in professional communication, and she's also currently enrolled in a master's in professional communication. Cathleen's focus for her research is the influence that music and pop culture have on the human mindset. To reach out to Merideth Bisiker, host of the Bound for Change podcast, you can email podcast@talktomycoach.com [podcast@talktomycoach.com]. Timestamps: 6:29 Cathleen's defition of boundaries: An open instruction list on how to deal with Cathleen 11:29 Ryan's definition of boundaries: Doesn't want to try to define them 12:48 How shifting social rules and conventions cause us to sometimes slip up and cross others' boundaries 14:13 "Updating your shit" and being called out when we jokes about subject matter related to members of marginalized groups 18:09 Calling people safely into conversations about why some things we say aren't appropriate 19:52 The burdens of working together and how difficult it was to separate work from home life 25:54 How Ryan took on the role of manager after Cathleen stepped away from that role, and the personal and business successes that came from that 26:59 How Cathleen delivered the news to Ryan that she was resigning from the role of being his manager 33:09 Ryan's tenacity that helps him push past the "I'm to old for this industry" story and continue to meet more and more success 39:20 The challenges that come from collaborating with other musicians 46:20 Emotional prenups for artist collaborations