Happy Slut

Women Have Out-Menned Men with Mila Jam

Mila Jam is an international pop sensation, an artivist (activist + artist), a trans icon, a rising star, and somehow magically also my friend?!?!? How did life get so cool? Mila and I go deep in this conversation. We talk about gender, womanhood, dating, celibacy, the “boyfriend show,” patriarchal conditioning, trans visibility, intimacy, emotional labor, and why so many modern women are just…tired. Also: men will apparently fuck couches. In this episode: * Mila’s journey from Southern Baptist kid to trans icon * How “the boyfriend show” can last years * The surprising freedom of celibacy * Why modern women are exhausted by men * Dating while trans in pre-social media NYC * The difference between being desired and being valued * Ghosting, emotional cowardice, and modern dating culture * How “women have out-menned men” * Patriarchy, power, and emotional labor * What women actually want from men * How to stop accepting breadcrumb relationships * Trans womanhood, safety, intimacy, and visibility * The healing power of women supporting women * Why good treatment matters more than chemistry alone For ALL THINGS Mila: https://www.milajam.com/ [https://www.milajam.com/] Listen to Mila's music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6m7wJXzvVyE0j6eef6pj1a?si=li_LtmpJSHaHoC99v78yIQ&nd=1&dlsi=8ce32e81b47b4973 [https://open.spotify.com/artist/6m7wJXzvVyE0j6eef6pj1a?si=li_LtmpJSHaHoC99v78yIQ&nd=1&dlsi=8ce32e81b47b4973] Watch Mila's iconic music videos: https://www.youtube.com/user/milajammusic [https://www.youtube.com/user/milajammusic] FOLLOW MILA ON SOCIALS: https://www.instagram.com/themilajam/ [https://www.instagram.com/themilajam/] https://www.tiktok.com/@themilajam [https://www.tiktok.com/@themilajam] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Email me your thoughts or pitches at happyslutcast@gmail.com. I read every email! Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

What If Queerness Was Infinite? with James Patrick Nelson

What if queerness was infinite, instead of limited by the strict rules and norms of our patriarchal world? What if we abandoned the binary of tops and bottoms, gays and straights, women and men, and embraced the idea--nay, the reality!--that all of us are fluid, ever-changing beings with deep wellsprings of desire and turn-on we would never know about if we didn't get curious and explore? I talk about all this and more with my guest this week, James Patrick Nelson, or as I call him, Jamie. In this episode: * Why Jamie thinks the world would be better if more straight men got fucked in the ass * The surprising emotional power of being sexually receptive * Jamie’s chaotic, joyful anal debut story (yes, it involved a threesome) * Why “top” and “bottom” are wildly insufficient ways to describe human desire * The queer loneliness of trying to fit into tiny little boxes * How the pandemic changed Jamie’s understanding of intimacy, beauty, and self-worth * Why joyful, consensual anal sex is still almost absent from mainstream media * The difference between humiliation and vulnerability—and why patriarchy confuses the two * Jamie’s very horny origin story for wanting a tattoo * A sexy game for exes that honestly might fix modern dating * Why the best sex is often about feeling truly seen and worshipped * The making of Jamie’s sensual new indie film Something to Surprise Me * How queer people are reclaiming sexuality from shame, binaries, and bad storytelling * Ass worship, emotional intimacy, and the radical act of yielding with joy SUPPORT SOMETHING TO SURPRISE ME ON SEED & SPARK: https://seedandspark.com/fund/something-to-surprise-me?token=4de1630be7d5a70c7cd806c60339bcf9a171bb0ac77ec1d99238fc1dbd4bc803#story [https://seedandspark.com/fund/something-to-surprise-me?token=4de1630be7d5a70c7cd806c60339bcf9a171bb0ac77ec1d99238fc1dbd4bc803#story] WATCH FOR YEARS TO COME: https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=-Tu7iceWO2px5pPU&v=jMrHzo03fxE&feature=youtu.be [https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=-Tu7iceWO2px5pPU&v=jMrHzo03fxE&feature=youtu.be] ALL THINGS JAMIE: https://www.james-patrick-nelson.com/ [https://www.james-patrick-nelson.com/] SUPPORT THE SHOW, CUTIE PATOOT! Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

Why Am I So Weird with Women?

In this episode, I ask myself why, oh whyyy, am I so weird with women? I love them, I've known I'm attracted to them both sexually and romantically since I was a kid, and yet I've only managed to have one relationship with a woman that only lasted six weeks in college and otherwise have been a massive failure in the lady-dating department. And I'm not alone. I've heard lots of bisexual girlies talking about how they don't even feel like they can claim the bisexual label because they almost exclusively date and sleep with men. Most of the bi women I know feel they aren't "bi enough." In this episode: * I’ve wanted women my whole life—and stayed silent * One intense, six-week relationship that blew me open…and shut me down * Why men feel “easier” (and what that says about me) * The part I hate admitting: I’m the one getting in my own way * Is this a me problem…or a bi girl problem? * And the twist I did NOT see coming Read the original essay on my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/p/why-am-i-so-weird-with-women [https://samiamounts.substack.com/p/why-am-i-so-weird-with-women] Screen For Years to Come: https://james-patrick-nelson.com/for-years-to-come SUPPORT THE SHOW, CUTIE PATOOT! Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Happily Married? Check. Kink With Friends? Also Check.

Fox is a happily married parent with a normal work and home life...and a spicy social life with his kinky friends. Ooh la la! In this audio-only episode with Happy Slut's very first anonymous guest, we get into what happens when a self-described “regular Joe” follows his curiosity into the world of kink play and wildly honest connection—and finds out it sets him free. We talk about: * The super-slow, podcast-fueled awakening that led him into kink * How rope nights and kink clubs can foster community * The surprisingly complex question: what even counts as sex? * How he navigated opening things up with his wife (without blowing up his marriage) * Why “you don’t have to have sex” was the gateway that made everything possible * The ethics of play: communication, consent, and not being an absolute menace * Having multiple play partners…and realizing you can actually do something about your crushes * The joy of helping people live out fantasies they never thought they’d get to experience * Why exploration, curiosity, and emotional safety matter way more than labels This one is funny, thoughtful, unexpectedly wholesome, and just the right amount of chaotic. Basically: what if you could look like a regular person on the outside…and still be out here living your weird little dream life? Oh wait...that's you? Yeah, baby pinecone, that's ALL of us. Mentioned in this episode: Pink Kink Podcast: https://pinkkinkpodcast.com/ [https://pinkkinkpodcast.com/] The Kink Consultant Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to Samia's Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com [https://samiamounts.substack.com] Venmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts [https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-Mounts] CashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/$SamiaMounts] I love you with the power of a thousand magic wands! xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

A Buffet of Delicious Slutty Behavior with Callie Little

Callie Little is a polyamorous, pansexual witch who illustrated and co-authored my favorite tarot deck, Every Little Thing You Do is Magic, and its incredible companion book, which offers readers the opportunity to deepen their relationship with the cards and their own intuition. I reached out to them to replace two cards my dog had chewed up and they responded saying they checked out the pod and wanted to come on if I'd have them. IF I'D HAVE THEM?! I melted and exploded and said absolutely yes, thank you, Universe, and the results were glorious. IN THIS EPISODE: * going from “I’ll try anything once” to… wait, I actually have standards now?? * why you don’t have to earn your desires or make them make sense to anyone else * the difference between real connection and just doing what you think you’re supposed to do * the subtle ways patriarchy trains you to give up your autonomy and call it love * that moment when something clicks and you’re like… oh, this isn’t a choice, this is a cage * how to stay open without ignoring every red flag in front of your face * a definition of cheating that might rearrange your brain a little * what it actually looks like to be yourself first, even in a long-term relationship * how to stop spiraling in shame and start getting curious instead * why you keep wanting people who aren’t that great for you (and what that’s really about) * building relationships based on choice instead of fear, obligation, or habit * a recurring theme: you’re allowed to want what you want. yes, even that. ALSO: * tarot as a tool for figuring your shit out (more useful than you think) * book recs that will absolutely mess with your understanding of love in a good way It's SO GOOD, pinecones! FOLLOW CALLIE: Callie's Instagram: @goshcallie [https://www.instagram.com/goshcallie] Callie's Substack: The Village Witch [https://thevillagewitchperiodical.substack.com/] Callie's podcast: The Pocket Coven [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-pocket-coven/id1534021543] (apologies for calling it the Pocket Oracle in the episode!) Purchase the Every Little Thing You Do is Magic Tarot Deck [https://bookshop.org/p/books/every-little-thing-you-do-is-magic-tarot-a-78-card-deck-and-guidebook-callie-little/375da5ca77564095?ean=9780593580295&next=t] and Companion Book [https://bookshop.org/p/books/every-little-thing-you-do-is-magic-an-interactive-guide-to-tarot-ritual-and-personal-growth-a-tarot-workbook-callie-little/ddaaaa77f5ce8ef1?ean=9780593580301&next=t] Book Callie for tattoo work [https://www.callielittle.com/tattoos] All things Callie: www.callielittle.com [https://www.callielittle.com/] Book & Substack recommendations in this episode: The Ethical Slut [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-ethical-slut-workbook-an-adventurer-s-companion-to-joyous-sustainable-relationships-of-all-kinds-dossie-easton/2393f0252e4acf86?ean=9780593798775&next=t&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%7Bcampaignname%7D&utm_content=6443417794&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=16235479093&gbraid=0AAAAACfld43vcmPtMl__amhasJdk-JfAo&gclid=CjwKCAjwnZfPBhAGEiwAzg-VzIXNAExPCb-5JmT3H_TgMAMP3wnEAcCL35bQlxyzpIsD0Q5ezqmynhoC7KsQAvD_BwE] by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Matriarchal Blessing on Substack [https://celestemdavis.substack.com/] by Celeste Davis Spells for Transmuting Limerence Into Liberation [https://www.yumisakugawa.com/store/p/spells-for-transmuting-limerence-into-liberation-ebook] by Yumi Sakugawa Love in a F*cked Up World [https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-in-a-f-cked-up-world-how-to-build-relationships-hook-up-and-raise-hell-together-dean-spade/ddff896c26e4cccf?ean=9781643756462&next=t] by Dean Spade Polysecure [https://bookshop.org/p/books/polysecure-attachment-trauma-and-consensual-nonmonogamy-jessica-fern/3871723b9baf49f9?ean=9781944934989&next=t] by Jessica Fern Polywise [https://bookshop.org/p/books/polywise-a-deeper-dive-into-navigating-open-relationships-david-cooley/ef21d822b3d9bd9a?ean=9781990869143&next=t] by Jessica Fern Open Deeply [https://bookshop.org/p/books/open-deeply-a-guide-to-building-conscious-compassionate-open-relationships-kate-loree-lmft/175e4be5a9d635be?ean=9781647423353&next=t] by Kate Loree Adult Braces [https://bookshop.org/p/books/adult-braces-driving-myself-sane-lindy-west/0870b710f235c1b9?ean=9780306831836&next=t] by Lindy West SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to Samia's Substack [https://samiamounts.substack.com/] Venmo: @Samia-Mounts [https://venmo.com/samia-mounts] CashApp: $SamiaMounts [https://cash.app/samiamounts] Love ya, pinecones! xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.