Comin' Out Swinging

Spice Without the Swap

Think the only way to heat things up is to swap partners? Not even close. In this episode, Vic and I break down all the hot, non-monogamy-adjacent fun—voyeurism, exhibitionism, and same-room play—that keeps the spice alive without ever crossing into full swap.

From Overlooked to Overbooked in the Lifestyle

We spent our teens in the friend zone—good enough to listen to everyone’s drama, never the ones they wanted. In this episode, Vic and I unpack how that shaped us, how those voices still live in our heads, and what it feels like to flip the script in the lifestyle.

The Truth About Performance Enhancers

In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the importance of communication between partners. The discussion also covers the use of medication to enhance experiences and the emotional aspects of intimacy when things don't go as planned. Key Takeaways: * Performance enhancers are not just for men; they can benefit couples. * The 'puppy reaction' describes excitement leading to performance issues. * Environmental distractions can significantly impact intimacy. * It's important to communicate openly about performance issues. * Disappointment in intimacy is common and can be navigated positively. * Medication can enhance experiences but is not a cure-all. * Women often feel it's their fault when performance issues arise, but it's usually not. * The right mindset can turn a disappointing experience into a positive one. * Choosing the right time to take performance enhancers is crucial. * Open discussions about sexual health can improve relationships.

From Fun To Felony: Lifestyle Rules You Shouldn't Break

In today’s episode, we’re giving you a crash course in lifestyle club and event survival. From awkward ‘cash-for-play’ offers to phones popping up in places they shouldn’t—let’s talk security, safety, and how not to wreck the vibe (or go to jail).

Shut the F*ck Up!

We love that you’re excited to be at the sex club. We really do. But if you're in the play area talking about your colonoscopy or your kids’ soccer schedule while people are trying to fuck—you’re doing it wrong. In this episode, we tackle one of the biggest vibe-killers at lifestyle clubs: loud-ass people treating the play area like it’s happy hour at Chili’s. From awkward overshares to unsolicited porn-director commentary, we’ve seen—and heard—it all. This episode is a love letter from your fellow swingers trying to get off in peace.