Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

You’re About to Be Alone With Someone You Don’t Know | Ep 56

You built a life together. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, the two of you quietly stopped connecting. Not dramatically. Not with one defining moment. Just a slow drift that neither of you fully named. If you are in your late forties or fifties and the kids are older or almost gone, this episode is going to land somewhere specific. In this episode, we cover: * How disconnection starts long before it is visible, and what keeps it hidden * What busyness has been protecting you from noticing * The stories men tell themselves that keep the distance in place * What she has been experiencing while you were managing and providing * Why this particular moment in life feels so heavy when the marriage has thinned out * What is actually possible from here, and what it honestly requires This is episode 56 in the Create More Intimacy podcast for men. Part of a four-part series on the deeper patterns underneath intimacy and connection. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

You Don't Know If It's Over. You Just Know You Can't Keep Going Like This | Ep 55

Most men don't say it directly. But somewhere underneath the exhaustion and the distance, there's a question that keeps coming back at 2am: is this actually over? In this episode, we go into what that question is really asking - and why the answer looks very different once the tunnel opens up. What you'll hear: * Why "is this over?" is almost never just about the marriage * What the phrase "I can't keep going like this" is actually telling you * Why wanting to go back to how things were leads to the same painful place * What looking honestly at leaving can reveal about the options you stopped seeing * The fear of infidelity, in both directions, and what it signals * What comes before the question gets answered The path forward isn't backwards. It's through something you haven't done yet. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

She Doesn’t Want More From You. She Wants Something Different | Ep 54

You are doing a lot. You provide, you handle things, you show up. And somehow the marriage still feels empty. In this episode, we break down why effort alone doesn’t create emotional connection - and what your wife has actually been waiting for that has nothing to do with how much you do. You will hear about: * Why so many men unknowingly run their marriage like a transaction * Why doing more, giving more, and completing her list doesn’t produce closeness * What she experiences when effort keeps arriving but presence doesn’t * Why grand gestures and gifts fall flat even when they’re genuinely meant * What actually shifts when a man stops transacting and starts being present * Why the fear of not being enough keeps men stuck in the doing  If you have been giving everything and still feeling invisible, this one is going to name something you have been carrying for a long time. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

Men and Vulnerability: Why Admitting You Don't Have It All Together Makes You a Better Partner | Ep 53

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but your partner still feels distant, this episode will likely land closer than you expect. Because the issue usually isn't effort. It's what you've been hiding - from her, and probably from yourself. In this episode, we break down why men learn to conceal their struggles, doubts, and uncertainty, and why that habit quietly destroys the intimacy they're working so hard to protect. You'll start to see how performing strength is read as emotional distance, why high-achieving men are especially prone to using accomplishment as armor, and what actually shifts in a marriage when a man stops managing his image and starts letting himself be known. If you're already recognizing yourself in this and know this pattern is affecting your relationship, there's a link below where you can book a call with me. We'll look at your specific situation and what it would take to actually change this - not just understand it. Inside this episode: * Why hiding your struggles doesn't protect your relationship - it hollows it out * How emotional guardedness shuts down safety, connection, and desire * The shame underneath the performance most men don't name * Why successful men are most at risk for this pattern * What becomes possible when you stop performing strength and start showing up honestly If this is something you're ready to work on more directly, you can book a call through the link below. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]

Why You Keep Losing Control in Conversations (And What’s Really Driving It) | Ep 52

If you’ve ever been told you’re “angry all the time,” but it doesn’t feel that simple to you, this episode will likely hit closer than you expect. Because the issue usually isn’t just anger. It’s what’s happening underneath it. In this episode, we break down why you keep losing control in certain conversations, even when you don’t want to, and why trying to “stay calm” hasn’t actually solved it. You’ll start to see how these reactions are tied to something deeper, how you’re being perceived, how you handle pressure, and what you’re unconsciously trying to avoid in those moments. If you’re already recognizing yourself in this and know this pattern is affecting your relationship, there’s a link below where you can book a call with me. We’ll look at your specific situation and what it would take to actually change this, not just manage it. More importantly, you’ll understand the pattern driving it, so you’re not just reacting differently, but actually changing how you show up when things get tense. Inside this episode: * Why anger is often a strategy, not just a reaction * The hidden pattern behind control, perception, and emotional triggers * What you’re actually avoiding in difficult conversations * Why “staying calm” doesn’t fix the real issue * The one shift that changes how you handle these moments in real time If this is something you’re ready to work on more directly, you can book a call through the link below. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast [https://alisastoddard.com/podcast] 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in] Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page [https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page] Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/ [https://alisastoddard.com/]