#003: Exploring our relationship to Death as our relationship to life and healing the fear of it
*Possible Trigger Topic* Potential to feel uncomfortable too. Inviting in your curiosity to journey with me.
I understand that Death is a sensitive and tender topic. One that is not spoken about so often. One that in our Western society has a narrative of fear wrapped around it or it gets hidden in a morbid taboo box and buried as if its 6ft underground. Often our relationship to it comes from these places or from unprocessed grief and pain. That is why exploring death is so important. That is why an inner voice guided me to create this episode.
It is important to inquire into our relationship to death to:
* Walk through our ego deaths, release old parts of ourselves with more awareness and ease
* Develop a healthy non shameful, non judgemental relationship to grieving and feeling pain or discomfort
* Unlock or release our fear of the unknown and the uncertain nature of life
* Rewiring the brain from control or needing to stay safe, live in comfort zones or avoiding discomfort
* Fully surrender and accept it as an inevitable truth of life
Beyond the story or perceptions of death is a gateway to unlocking our core fears and is essential when walking a path of healing, growth and living life in our fullest expression. In order to change or heal, we must face pain, we must grieve and allow parts of ourselves to die in order to embody new versions of ourselves. That will also die. We must mourn who we were, who we thought we should be, what we attached ourselves to.
Equally, when we are leaning into new ways of living, changing habits, facing our inner most selves it all requires sitting and facing the uncomfortable and unknown. This exploration also helps us to find more ease, trust, acceptance and surrender to death and therefore to life itself. When I first realised that fearing death which is one of the only inevitable truths of life, I was in fact fearing living fully.
"From the moment we are born we are dying"
In this episode I share a deep and honest story of my own reckoning with the fear of death and how it manifested on my path and why it happened during this moment in my journey. Often whatever the fear that we face is, it's wrapped up in stories that come from the mind, that come from what we've learned, been conditioned to believe, been shown or told and it is up to us to rewrite those stories and recognise they are not real. This is the battle with the ego and this was my first invitation to experience an ego death. Reflecting on this now comes with light-heartedness and it is no longer part of my experience. Im grateful to share it with you. As it has transformed my relationship to death, life, birth and living.
NB: If you are facing a mental health crisis, having intrusive thoughts or facing the deep mental and emotional challenges of loss, bereavement or fear, please seek professional support (I did during this period of my journey) to help unpack and process the complexity of this. Ensure you resonate, trust and have no judgement with the person holding the space.
Sending all my ladybird love xox
Remember to take what resonates and leave what doesn't.
Resources: Alan Watts - Accepting Death
Morgan Freeman Documentary - Beyond Death
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