The Pattern of Self-Abandonment Fu*kery 1: Empowered Women & Projective Identification

The Pattern of Self-Abandonment Fu*kery 1: Empowered Women & Projective Identification

This is the FIRST TIME IN HUMAN HISTORY (to my knowledge) that anyone has connected all 7 concepts -  projective identification, introjection, empowered women, empaths/sensitives, just world hypothesis, nazar/curses/evil eye, & egregores. This is part 1 of a SACRED THESIS & one of the syntheses of my entire life's work & experience. In this one we tackle 2 of the many concepts that make up the pattern of self-abandonment - projective identification & women (especially empowered women). Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] I really would love to know what you think of this episode/series (your number is private & I cannot see it).  You've felt it: someone accuses you of being aggressive, difficult, selfish, a narcissist. Over time, you start behaving the exact way they accused you of behaving — even though that was never who you were. You feel like you're under a spell. What's happening is projective identification, and if you're an empowered woman, this is your constant reality. I've spent over a decade watching this pattern destroy women who are supposed to be the strongest among us. Nobody's naming what's actually happening psychologically and spiritually when a woman gets projected upon. This is the episode I wish someone had given me at 5, 15, and 25. Inside this session: 1. Why we need to recognize the pattern of why we chronically self-abandon & what both pop psychology & new age culture get wrong 2. What projective identification actually is — how it differs from regular projection and why that distinction changes how you understand yourself 3. How empowered women become containers for the collective shadow of everyone around them, leading to self-abandonment without realizing it 4. A detailed & thorough reflection ritual about how to begin recognizing the pattern Reference Episodes: * Episode 36: [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/18596588]Empowered Women, Quiet Battles: Truths No One Talks About * Episode 9: [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17419410] True Feedback or Judgmental Projection? Is It Me or Is It Them? Episodes in this Self-Abandonment Series (Coming Up Next): * The Pattern of Self-Abandonment Fu*kery 2: Sensitives, Empaths, Introjection, & Just world hypothesis * The Pattern of Self-Abandonment Fu*kery 3: Egregores, Evil Eye, & Curses * The Pattern of Self-Abandonment Fu*kery 4: The Solution is Simple https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/fan_mail/new ▼ 🌹 Join the Weekly Delicious Dignity Missives [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/newsletter]- every week receive exclusive, bite-sized, actionable intuitive insights straight to your inbox. ▼ 🌹 Questions? Requests for Future Episodes? Want to say hi? Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] (your number is private & I cannot see it).  ▼ 🌹 Please rate and/or leave a review for this podcast. I put together all the content & graphics for this show. I pay for an editor out of my own pocket. I'm not sponsored by anyone. My voice/opinions/research is not corrupted by any monetary incentive. So your reviews truly keep the podcast running & help me get the podcast out to the world. THANK YOU so much! ▼ 🌹 Want a deep dive into your situation? Book your 1:1 90 minute session here [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/soul-session] . . . This podcast is for education only and is not a replacement for therapy. We suggest you seek out the help of a trained professional for help with your specific situation.

Rose Mysticism 4 - Planting the Internal Eternal Mother

This fourth session of the Rose Podclass explores the spiritual meaning of the rose through the mother (the oldest archetype) as the source of all true strength. This is me wishing you happy Mother's Day in the most meta sense possible. Because the inner mother is the foundation everything else is built on.  Inside this session: * The episode opens with a channeled rose contemplation * The uncorrupted and corrupted qualities of the mother archetype — and how to recognize both in yourself * The mother wound across four levels: personal, cultural, spiritual, and planetary (based on Bethany Webster's framework) * A powerful three-part ritual to identify your current inner mother, define the one you need, and begin planting her within you * The episode closes with a final blessing from the rose. ▼ 20:40 Mark Correction: I said "headless figure".  I meant "disembodied head". ▼ Reference Episodes: * Episode 27 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/18091209] - Rose Mysticism 3: Unlocking the Power of the Prostitute Archetype * Episode 21 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17887649] - Rose Mysticism 2 - Reclaiming Your Sensual Divinity * Episode 14 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17515981]- Rose Mysticism 1 – Practicing Heaven on Earth https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/fan_mail/new ▼ 🌹 Join the Weekly Delicious Dignity Missives [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/newsletter]- every week receive exclusive, bite-sized, actionable intuitive insights straight to your inbox. ▼ 🌹 Questions? Requests for Future Episodes? Want to say hi? Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] (your number is private & I cannot see it).  ▼ 🌹 Please rate and/or leave a review for this podcast. I put together all the content & graphics for this show. I pay for an editor out of my own pocket. I'm not sponsored by anyone. My voice/opinions/research is not corrupted by any monetary incentive. So your reviews truly keep the podcast running & help me get the podcast out to the world. THANK YOU so much! ▼ 🌹 Want a deep dive into your situation? Book your 1:1 90 minute session here [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/soul-session] . . . This podcast is for education only and is not a replacement for therapy. We suggest you seek out the help of a trained professional for help with your specific situation.

Accidentally On Purpose: Building Beloved Local Businesses with Makenzie Sulfaro

I learned so much from this episode! Makenzie Sulfaro had a couch, a draining job, a best friend who said "just do it" &.....she listened. This episode is for women who are sitting on a dream they keep waiting to perfect before they start. From child psychiatry to being a multiple fitness studio owner, she did all of this during covid with a newborn. Makenzie now owns three Pilates studios and a gym in Arizona, and almost none of it was planned. Makenzie embodies 'going with the flow' in a way that's rare, and I love how this episode mirrors that! We start off talking about intentional bathroom amenities and then we ended with her gushing about her husband. Ha! Inside this session: 1. On Right Standards: Why "good enough" is the wrong standard & what standards to aim for instead when starting a local business from scratch (excellent wisdom for recovering perfectionists!) 2. On Integrity & Compromise: How to know when you're forcing something vs when it's actually meant to be. Brick and mortar business tips for women nobody talks about.  3. On Business Strategies & Being Prolific: What it takes to build a physical business with no experience & no grand master plan - including boundaries with customers and putting community first 4. On AI & Online Businesses: The role tech currently plays and will play in the future in Makenzie's businesses 5. On Having a Kind (& Hot) Husband: After being twice divorced, Makenzie describes a real & raw unfolding of her finding her partner who builds her up rather than makes her feel small ▼ * Sultivate Website [https://sultivate.com/] * Makenzie's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/makenzie.pilates/] * Sultivate Studio Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sultivate/] ▼ Go Deeper in Your Listening: 1. Episode 14 - [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17515981] Rose Mysticism 1 – Practicing Heaven on Earth 2. Episode 18 - [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17768134] A Unique Branding Strategy That Feels Good, Unlocks Your Strengths, & Expands Your Dignity 3. Episode 9 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/17419410]- True Feedback or Judgmental Projection? Is It Me or Is It Them? https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/fan_mail/new ▼ 🌹 Join the Weekly Delicious Dignity Missives [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/newsletter]- every week receive exclusive, bite-sized, actionable intuitive insights straight to your inbox. ▼ 🌹 Questions? Requests for Future Episodes? Want to say hi? Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] (your number is private & I cannot see it).  ▼ 🌹 Please rate and/or leave a review for this podcast. I put together all the content & graphics for this show. I pay for an editor out of my own pocket. I'm not sponsored by anyone. My voice/opinions/research is not corrupted by any monetary incentive. So your reviews truly keep the podcast running & help me get the podcast out to the world. THANK YOU so much! ▼ 🌹 Want a deep dive into your situation? Book your 1:1 90 minute session here [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/soul-session] . . . This podcast is for education only and is not a replacement for therapy. We suggest you seek out the help of a trained professional for help with your specific situation.

Do You Feel Like You Have to Earn Love?

It took a virtual pet app to show me how exhausted I was from trying to deserve love. This episode is for the high-achieving woman who has been dangling the carrot in front of her own face for too long. I share how rewarding yourself for just existing (before the task, before the finish line) can dissolve the internal critic and restore your motivation from the inside out. Inside this session: 1. Maslow's hierarchy of needs — and the one rung most high-achieving women skip entirely on their way to the top 2. How five dysfunctional forces (hustle culture, the internal critical mother, scarcity mindset, patriarchy, & ancestral generational trauma) keep women locked in the cycle of trying to deserve love 3. A simple, private ritual to identify where you've been earning love and how to gently pull back ▼ Reference Episodes:  Episode 38 — What I'm Loving Right Now: Real Self-Care, Money, and Dignity [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/18630368] ▼ Reference App - Finch App. Friend code - CNLPF24ZLY https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/fan_mail/new ▼ 🌹 Join the Weekly Delicious Dignity Missives [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/newsletter]- every week receive exclusive, bite-sized, actionable intuitive insights straight to your inbox. ▼ 🌹 Questions? Requests for Future Episodes? Want to say hi? Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] (your number is private & I cannot see it).  ▼ 🌹 Please rate and/or leave a review for this podcast. I put together all the content & graphics for this show. I pay for an editor out of my own pocket. I'm not sponsored by anyone. My voice/opinions/research is not corrupted by any monetary incentive. So your reviews truly keep the podcast running & help me get the podcast out to the world. THANK YOU so much! ▼ 🌹 Want a deep dive into your situation? Book your 1:1 90 minute session here [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/soul-session] . . . This podcast is for education only and is not a replacement for therapy. We suggest you seek out the help of a trained professional for help with your specific situation.

The Art of Being Visible: Slowly, gently, peacefully healing the visibility wound

We've done the vision boards, lit the candles, pulled the cards — and still never showed up to the table to play. This episode is for those who are ready to step into the dignity of being seen, while knowing that you don't owe anyone your presence. The visibility wound is one of the most quietly devastating & self-sabotaging things I witness. Inside this session: 1.Why comfort is not your intuition or an indication of being right — it's just habit, and how mistaking the two keeps you invisible 2. 6 real fears driving the visibility wound — from fear of judgment and being mis-associated to the pain of not being loved as you truly are 3. A gentle, gradual, practical progression for building visibility across body, mind, spirit, and emotions — at your own pace | Reference Episodes: * Episode 35 - When You Can't Believe In Your Own Dreams [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/episodes/18528562] https://www.buzzsprout.com/2463564/fan_mail/new ▼ 🌹 Join the Weekly Delicious Dignity Missives [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/newsletter]- every week receive exclusive, bite-sized, actionable intuitive insights straight to your inbox. ▼ 🌹 Questions? Requests for Future Episodes? Want to say hi? Send me a text or voicemail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2463564/open_sms] (your number is private & I cannot see it).  ▼ 🌹 Please rate and/or leave a review for this podcast. I put together all the content & graphics for this show. I pay for an editor out of my own pocket. I'm not sponsored by anyone. My voice/opinions/research is not corrupted by any monetary incentive. So your reviews truly keep the podcast running & help me get the podcast out to the world. THANK YOU so much! ▼ 🌹 Want a deep dive into your situation? Book your 1:1 90 minute session here [https://www.dilshadmehta.com/soul-session] . . . This podcast is for education only and is not a replacement for therapy. We suggest you seek out the help of a trained professional for help with your specific situation.