Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

What Women Actually Want From Men (it's not what it used to be)

Most men are walking around with a totally wrong idea of what women actually want. Height, money, abs. Turns out the bar is somewhere else entirely. The rules have quietly shifted in a way a lot of guys haven't caught up to yet. This week we sit down with Dr. Sarah Oreck, a psychiatrist who treats mostly women and has a front row seat to what they're actually dealing with in dating, relationships, and life. We get into why "boyfriends are embarrassing" right now, what safety actually means to a woman, the type you swear is yours until you meet someone who isn't, and why doing the work on yourself beats finding someone to fill the hole. We also talk about the incel pipeline, what's broken about how guys connect with each other, and the one thing Sarah thinks would change more men's lives than any app, hack, or supplement. If you've ever felt like the dating world is rigged against you, or quietly suspected you might be getting in your own way, this one's for you. Sarah's the kind of voice you want in your corner. 0:00 — Sarah's honest take on men today 2:24 — The masculinity problem right now 6:17 — Are you confident or arrogant? 7:21 — Being strong and vulnerable at once 17:25 — Porn vs. intimacy explained 19:13 — What "feeling safe" really means 20:24 — Are boyfriends embarrassing right now? 24:43 — What if "your type" is wrong? 29:41 — Stop looking for your other half 33:49 — How to be vulnerable with friends See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Why Is Dating So Difficult (especially when you have your sh*t together)

Dating is hard. But when you have your life together, somehow, it gets harder. Therapist Dani Lewin explains why, and what to actually do about it. She gets into why dating gets more complicated the older and more established you become, what your checklist is actually telling you, and how to rethink what "settling" really means. We also talk about non-negotiables, the ick, and what women actually find emotionally attractive in men. If the relationship piece feels like the one thing you can't solve, we think Dani can help. New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 0:00 – Why dating feels impossible 2:13 – Love is a merger, not a startup 5:10 – How to find your real non-negotiables 9:14 – The ick is actually about you 12:03 – The operating system you should break 19:44 – You're not settling, you're choosing 25:25 – Masculinity and strength relationships 33:28 – Should relationships feel ‘good’? 37:44 – Why you're addicted to highs and lows 41:36 – What Ben & Kevin need to work on See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Why You Get Triggered (and what to do about it)

In this episode, we dig into family dynamics and why the people closest to us are the ones who trigger us the most. Therapist Alexa Silvaggio explains what's really going on, and how to start breaking out of those cycles. She uses parts work, or Internal Family Systems (IFS), to help you meet the younger versions of yourself that are still quietly running your adult life. We get into people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and why setting boundaries with the people you love is so hard. If there are patterns you keep trying to change but can't figure out why they stick, we think Alexa can help. New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 0:00 – Why family triggers us the most 6:58 – What to do when you're triggered 10:51 – Internal Family Systems explained 13:58 – Kevin's live parts work session 20:16 – Different types of parts 29:07 – Stop fighting your own mind 33:29 – Your problems are the curriculum 45:53 – Setting boundaries without walls See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The World Needs Free Therapy (meet Ben and Kevin)

Introducing Free Therapy. We're Ben and Kevin. Best friends of 15 years.  Every week, we sit down with a different expert therapist to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but nobody says out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth. We're going to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man in today's world. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere). We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). This show is for men trying to figure out life, women trying to figure out men, and anyone who wants more of the real stuff. The world needs free therapy <3 New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on IG at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 0:00 – Why the world needs free therapy 2:02 – Meet Ben 5:47 – Meet Kevin 11:31 – How Free Therapy was born 17:20 – Being a man today 18:39 – The biggest thing therapy taught us 23:18 – Our hope for the podcast See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Introducing: Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

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