Stop Bothering Mediterranean Grandmas
Who gets to live la dolce vita? Have Mediterraneans cracked the code to living well? Should we all be nonna-maxxing…?
You can also listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/31zl1qMryM40bS89PZK4Hj?si=bf55a0830eb64e24] and Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/further-reading/id1888766368]! Subscribe below to get these in your inbox whenever a new one is out. Below is a loose write-up with none of the jokes.
In this week’s episode, we talk about the social media obsession with old Mediterranean people, particularly the trend “nonna-maxxing.” Combining an Italian nonna with the language of incels is already wild, but a lot of this content treats “my MEDITERRANEAN grandma” the way content creators with lots of flags in their bio treat their KOREAN boyfriends. While the whole thing sounds uniquely TikTokesque, there’s a 200-year history of Northern Europeans looking south and seeing a corrective to their own lives.
It starts with the Grand Tour in the 17th-19th centuries. Wealthy young English men travelled through Europe (notably Italy) to “complete their education” by looking at ruins and naked statues, and feeling connected to antiquity. But although these men had plenty of respect for the Ancients, they didn’t extend that respect to living locals. In 1805, a travel writer described Sardinians as “little better than savages” who “always go armed and are all thieves and robbers.” (Hot…?)
Today, rich northern Europeans and Americans are still gawking at Mediterraneans, but with a slightly different gaze. The Mediterranean still represents bygone civilisations and an older way of doing things, but there’s much more of a lifestyle focus than an artistic/cultural one. According to stressed out American influencers, Mediterranean elders have cracked the code to living well.
This idea of Mediterranean elders as lifestyle influencers dates back to the 1960s, when two American scientists coined the term “Mediterranean diet”, but it really dug its heels in during the popularisation of ‘blue zones’. Blue zones are a (contested) theory that 5 locations in the world (2 in the Mediterranean basin) hold the key to long life due to diet, community and olive oil or whatever. It’s either that or poor record keeping and pension fraud. Either way, Mediterranean grandparents are evidence of this secret health hack — if they lived this long, they’re clearly doing something right.
Some young Mediterranean people (wild generalisation, sorry) are also guilty of romanticising their own grandparents’ lifestyles, albeit usually with more nuance. Jaume talks about how there’s a common sentiment that things have modernised faster than people have been able to keep up with, and grandparents represent a nostalgia for old times. The difference is, when these people say they want to live like their grandparents, they know those grandparents lived through times of sexism and repression, or even dictatorship.
So we have American nonna-ism and European nonna-ism. The American nonna-ism is characterised by sort of the disconnect with the physical conditions that made nonnas the way they are. It’s not like they woke up in Franco’s Spain and thought, “Time to biohack.” They’re a product of their society and of their time. The idea of the American nonna-ism is one that’s very disconnected from context.
(Listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/31zl1qMryM40bS89PZK4Hj?si=bf55a0830eb64e24] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/further-reading/id1888766368])
We also dive into how nonna-ism parallels medievalism in that it’s wielded by both the Right and the Left in very different ways. Conservatives love the nonna because she’s anti-technology, Catholic, rooted in the land, and, obviously, a woman in the kitchen.
In a lot of “mediterranean aesthetic” shoots, women in headscarves are doing the laundry or the ironing, shopping for groceries at the market, or cooking and serving dinner. For a ‘holiday’ aesthetic, there’s so much domestic labour in America’s view of the Mediterranean dream. Chores are something we all do, but it hasn’t escaped us that it’s never a man pinning up the laundry in these Pinterest boards.
Also, let’s keep in mind that this view of ‘The Mediterranean™’ often completely misses the bit of it that touches North Africa. In fact, she’s distinctly European. A lot of nonna-maxxing-flavoured posts talk about how the Mediterranean grandma’s longevity has nothing to do with matcha, yoga, meditation or any other foreign tradition. The wholesome nonna is often contrasted with the matcha-drinking hipster, an emblem of modern globalisation. Could this be the Wario to Chinamaxxing?
Meanwhile, anti-capitalist leftists can love the nonna for her anti-work, community-forward lifestyle, and her rejection of beauty standards, flaunting her saggy tits on the beach. There’s surely some truth in both portrayals of the nonna, but is she really the right medium for either message? Both sides are pointing at the same old woman on the beach and seeing completely different lifestyle doctrines, while the nonna herself is probably thinking about dominoes or something.
What’s really underneath all of it, we think, is rootlessness. A lot of people who are drawn to nonna content are those most disconnected from place (remote workers who could be anywhere, city-dwellers who don’t know their neighbours, etc.) But to learn more about our thoughts on the romanticisation of Mediterranean grandparents, as well as to hear Jaume’s thoughts on his MEDITERRANEAN grandparents, please enjoy this week’s episode on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/31zl1qMryM40bS89PZK4Hj?si=bf55a0830eb64e24] or Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/further-reading/id1888766368] or wherever you like to listen!
Subscribe for more deep dives
Further reading:
* Gordon, B. M. (2003). The Mediterranean as a Tourist Destination from Classical Antiquity to Club Med. Mediterranean Studies, 12, 203–226. http://www.jstor.org/stable/41166959
* Do people in ‘Blue zones’ actually live longer? New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2024/10/24/well/live/blue-zones-longevity-aging.html
* ¿Qué es el “Nonnamaxxing”? El estilo de vida de la abuela italiana podría ser el secreto de la longevidad Glamour https://www.glamour.es/articulos/que-es-el-nonnamaxxing-el-estilo-de-vida-de-la-abuela-italiana-podria-ser-el-secreto-de-la-longevidad
We also reference this post by Angelica Frey [https://substack.com/profile/710329-angelica-frey] :
And this one by Anastasia Miari [https://substack.com/profile/498488-anastasia-miari]:
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit furtherreadingpod.substack.com [https://furtherreadingpod.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]