Girl, Choose Yourself!

The Good Girl Hangover

Have you ever followed all the rules and still felt vaguely hollow? Ever done everything right and wondered why it doesn't feel like yours? Ever woken up somewhere in midlife and realised the map you've been navigating by was never actually yours to begin with? Have you ever felt the exhaustion of being so easy to be around — and not been able to explain why that exhausts you? If any of that lands, this episode is for you. This week, I'm exploring one of the oldest and most quietly costly patterns in women's lives. The good girl script. Where it comes from, what it costs, and what happens in that disorienting in-between space when it starts to crack. We go deep on this one. To Sylvia Plath and the fig tree. To Kate Chopin, writing in 1899, about a woman daring to want her own life. To an instruction carved above the entrance to the Oracle at Delphi 2,500 years ago that we are still, somehow, only beginning to heed. This episode is also drawn from Chapter 3 of my book Choose Yourself — The Trouble with Being Good. Come for a walk with me on this one. Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363172/fan_mail/new] CONNECT WITH EIMEAR  Free Resources and More: https://stan.store/eimearzone Explore Working With Eimear:  Book a Call: https://eimearzone.as.me/breakthrough 📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach [https://www.instagram.com/eimearzonecoach/]  💻 Website: eimearzone.com [http://eimearzone.com/] 📧  Email: hello@eimearzone.com  Subscribe to Girl, Choose Yourself on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.  © 2025 Eimear Zone Coaching. All rights reserved.

The Comparison Trap: Why Nothing You Do Ever Feels Like Enough

You achieved the thing, hit the goal, but somehow it still didn't feel quite enough. Meanwhile, someone else's success lands like a small deflation you can't quite explain, and you feel vaguely ashamed of both. This is one of the most raw and personal episodes I've recorded. That's because I lived this one deeply, and for a long time. In this episode, I get honest about where the comparison trap really comes from — long before social media handed it a megaphone — what it quietly costs you, and the only thing that has ever truly freed me from it. If nothing you do ever feels quite enough, then this one is for you. Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363172/fan_mail/new] CONNECT WITH EIMEAR  Free Resources and More: https://stan.store/eimearzone Explore Working With Eimear:  Book a Call: https://eimearzone.as.me/breakthrough 📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach [https://www.instagram.com/eimearzonecoach/]  💻 Website: eimearzone.com [http://eimearzone.com/] 📧  Email: hello@eimearzone.com  Subscribe to Girl, Choose Yourself on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.  © 2025 Eimear Zone Coaching. All rights reserved.

Strive If That's Your Thing — But What If It Didn't Have to Be So Hard?

You're doing everything right. The work, the discipline, the showing up. And yet somewhere underneath all of it is a tiredness that a good night's sleep doesn't touch. A sense that you're pushing against something that shouldn't require quite this much pushing. What if it didn't? This week I've been revisiting the teachings of Neville Goddard — a mid-twentieth-century mystic whose work found me through Wayne Dyer's Wishes Fulfilled and has never really left. What he teaches is quietly radical. Not a productivity system. Not a manifestation formula. Something older and stranger and more hopeful than either of those things. This episode is an invitation to consider a different relationship with what you want. One that doesn't require you to earn it through suffering first. One that starts not with doing, but with feeling. I'm also in the middle of a small personal experiment this week. I'll tell you about it. Bring a cup of something and come for a walk with me on this one. Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363172/fan_mail/new] CONNECT WITH EIMEAR  Free Resources and More: https://stan.store/eimearzone Explore Working With Eimear:  Book a Call: https://eimearzone.as.me/breakthrough 📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach [https://www.instagram.com/eimearzonecoach/]  💻 Website: eimearzone.com [http://eimearzone.com/] 📧  Email: hello@eimearzone.com  Subscribe to Girl, Choose Yourself on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.  © 2025 Eimear Zone Coaching. All rights reserved.

Anxious, Exhausted, Always People Pleasing? The One Root Cause.

We spend our lives building elaborate systems to avoid feeling certain things. And we don't even realise we're doing it. We call it being organised, being responsible, being careful. We call it managing. But underneath all that managing is something much simpler — pain we decided a long time ago we couldn't afford to feel. And it costs us everything. Our energy, our relationships, our sense of aliveness. We were not put here to protect ourselves from feeling. We were put here to live. I re-read Michael Singer's The Untethered Soul this week, and I'm sharing one of the most powerful lessons that has stayed with me since I first encountered it. If something in you recognises what I just described — this episode is for you. The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer is widely available wherever you buy books. Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363172/fan_mail/new] CONNECT WITH EIMEAR  Free Resources and More: https://stan.store/eimearzone Explore Working With Eimear:  Book a Call: https://eimearzone.as.me/breakthrough 📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach [https://www.instagram.com/eimearzonecoach/]  💻 Website: eimearzone.com [http://eimearzone.com/] 📧  Email: hello@eimearzone.com  Subscribe to Girl, Choose Yourself on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.  © 2025 Eimear Zone Coaching. All rights reserved.

From Cloudy to Clarity: One Woman's Journey to an Alcohol-Free Life

Maybe it's the Tuesday night drink that became two. Maybe it's the glass you pour before you've even thought about it. Maybe it's the question you push away before it fully forms - Is this still serving me? Nia Thomas used to be the woman with the glass of bubbles in her hand. It was part of her identity, the glue she believed held connection and celebration together. Until it wasn't. In this conversation, Nia and I - two old friends, two former drinking buddies, both now alcohol-free - talk honestly about what it really looks like to quietly put the glass down. Not from rock bottom. Not with a dramatic intervention. But from an ordinary Tuesday night, a question you can no longer ignore. We talk about what you actually grieve when you stop. About perimenopause and why midlife women are the highest-risk group nobody's discussing. We talk about the shame carried in silence, and what becomes possible when you finally set it down. Nia is now a certified sober coach and founder of Cloudy to Clarity, where she works with women who are drinking more than they want to, and who deserve a safe, judgment-free space to figure out what comes next. If you've ever looked at your glass and wondered, then this one's for you. Connect with Nia: On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cloudytoclarity/ Visit her website: https://www.niathomas.co.uk/ Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2363172/fan_mail/new] CONNECT WITH EIMEAR  Free Resources and More: https://stan.store/eimearzone Explore Working With Eimear:  Book a Call: https://eimearzone.as.me/breakthrough 📱 Instagram: @eimearzonecoach [https://www.instagram.com/eimearzonecoach/]  💻 Website: eimearzone.com [http://eimearzone.com/] 📧  Email: hello@eimearzone.com  Subscribe to Girl, Choose Yourself on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.  © 2025 Eimear Zone Coaching. All rights reserved.