Reclaiming Yourself in Marriage and Motherhood with Bansari

PILLOWTALK: attention is not intention

Welcome to the first official Pillow Talk episode! we’re unpacking the talking stage, also known as the emotionally confusing pre-relationship group project no one asked for. In this episode, we’re talking about the texts you reread, the “what are we?” conversations you avoid, the attachment styles that start acting up, and why someone can have access to your nervous system before they’ve even earned a label. We’ll get into what the talking stage actually is, how anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant attachment styles show up early on, what to look out for, how to stop wasting time, and the big question: can we prevent situationships before they become a full-time unpaid internship? This one is for anyone who has ever checked their phone 57x a day, confused chemistry with clarity, or convinced themselves they were “being chill” while actively spiraling. Follow along on Instagram: @emotionallyexpensivemedia

Reclaiming Yourself in Marriage and Motherhood with Bansari

Welcome to Season 2 of Emotionally Expensive! Bansari Shah is many things - a teacher who trained at Columbia University, the top teaching institute in the USA, a strong women's advocate, a voracious reader, married for 14 years and a mother of two, and a life coach for South Asian women for the last 4 years.  She has a unique way of coaching - through daily voice notes, so it's like having a life coach in your back pocket.  She helps South Asian moms overcome marital conflict, even when their husband won't agree to relationship therapy. You can follow her on social media at @coachingbybms, and she has a marriage audio course and free marital resources you can download at her website coachingbybms.com [http://coachingbybms.com/]. Follow us on @emotionallyexpensive today.

Behind Closed Doors: Breaking the Silence on Abuse with Madhuri Govindu

Meet our Guest: With over 20 years of experience in employee wellbeing,Madhuri Govindu has worked with leading global organizations including HSBC, Google, Accenture, and Cisco. She holds a Bachelor's in Business Management, an Associate's in Psychology, and a Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. A certified EMDR therapist, ADHD-CCSP, certified sex therapist (CSTIP), and CBT-TF certified and Mental Resilience specialist (Harvard), she is passionate about helping South Asian women in Texas heal from trauma and thrive. As a speaker for the American Counseling Association, author, and contributor, her recent book Thank You for Your Service: Learning to Honor with Heart to Bridge the Gap addresses the unique experiences of veterans. Her mission is to empower South Asian men/women by breaking stigmas, building resilience, and creating space for healing.   This conversation delves into the complexities of domestic violence and intimate partner violence, exploring various types of abuse, the cycle of abuse, and the cultural perspectives surrounding these issues. Madhuri Govindu, a licensed professional counselor, shares her insights on recognizing red flags, understanding the impact of gaslighting, and the importance of seeking help. The discussion also highlights the resources available for victims and the challenges of rehabilitating abusers. Takeaways Domestic violence can be physical, verbal, sexual, financial, and emotional. The cycle of abuse includes tension building, acts of abuse, and reconciliation. Gaslighting is a significant form of emotional abuse that leads to self-doubt. Cultural factors play a crucial role in how domestic violence is perceived and addressed. Financial abuse can be subtle but is a form of control over a partner's independence. Digital abuse involves monitoring and controlling a partner's online presence. Recognizing red flags early can prevent escalation into severe abuse. Rehabilitation of abusers is possible but requires sustained effort and accountability. Support resources are available, but awareness and access can vary by region. Understanding the cultural context is essential for addressing domestic violence effectively. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Domestic Violence and Intimate Partner Violence 10:26 Types of Domestic Violence: Physical, Emotional, and Financial Abuse 21:23 The Impact of Gaslighting and Verbal Abuse 25:23 Understanding Financial and Digital Abuse 29:47 Cultural and Spiritual Dimensions of Abuse 34:06 The Cycle of Abuse Explained 39:51 Domestic Violence: East vs. West Perspectives 43:57 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 47:15 Rehabilitation of Abusers: Is Change Possible? 50:10 Resources and Support for Victims of Abuse

Beyond Stigma: South Asian Mental Health with Nikita

In this conversation, Nikita, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares her insights on therapy, particularly within the South Asian community. She discusses her journey to becoming a therapist, the unique challenges faced by her clients, including perfectionism, anxiety, and cultural stigma. Nikita emphasizes the importance of self-care for therapists, the role of family dynamics in mental health, and the significance of community support. The conversation also touches on grief, identity, and the evolving landscape of mental health awareness among South Asians. Takeaways Nikita specializes in anxiety, grief, chronic illness, and self-esteem. Cultural stigma around mental health is prevalent in South Asian communities. Perfectionism often stems from self-expectations rather than external pressures. Younger clients are more self-aware and articulate about their emotions. Shame and secrecy can hinder mental health discussions in families. Group therapy can help reduce feelings of isolation among clients. The geriatric population is often underestimated in their receptiveness to therapy. Family dynamics play a crucial role in shaping individual mental health. Setting boundaries is essential for self-care and mental well-being. Community support among South Asian therapists is growing and vital. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Therapy and Cultural Perspectives 02:32 Navigating Perfectionism and Anxiety in South Asian Clients 05:26 The Role of Shame and Secrecy in Mental Health 08:21 Group Therapy Dynamics and Geriatric Experiences 10:52 Cultural Strengths and Family Support in Therapy 13:38 Self-Care Strategies for Therapists 16:46 Grief Beyond Death: Identity and Cultural Expectations 19:43 Setting Boundaries: Time and Energy Management 22:50 The Impact of Family Dynamics on Therapy 25:39 Family of Origin Work: Understanding Patterns 28:30 The Rewards of Therapy: Connection and Growth 31:32 The Rise of South Asian Therapists and Community Building 34:48 Self-Soothing Techniques and Practical Strategies Keywords: therapy, South Asian mental health, perfectionism, anxiety, shame, geriatric therapy, self-care, grief, identity, boundaries

Pray, Talk, Heal: Mental Health Beyond Stigma with Jessica Abraham

Meet our Guest: Jessica Abraham is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and South Asian therapist based in Rockwall, Texas, who works with clients for high-functioning anxiety as well as navigating family dynamics, relational conflicts, and major life transitions. With an understanding of both cultural and faith-based perspectives, Jessica creates a compassionate space where clients can explore their struggles, gain clarity, and move toward lasting change. Jessica is passionate about seeing individuals become healed and whole while walking in their full potential and purpose. In her free time, Jessica enjoys finding new food spots in Dallas with her husband and playing pickleball. Connect with Jessica: https://www.facebook.com/share/1BDyMBtGgz/?mibextid=LQQJ4d [https://www.facebook.com/share/1BDyMBtGgz/?mibextid=LQQJ4d] In this episode of Healing Hunnies , Ayushi Sanjay Acharya sits down with Jessica Abraham, a licensed clinical social worker, to discuss the intersection of mental health, faith, and culture, particularly within South Asian and Christian communities. They explore the stigmas surrounding mental health, the cultural pressures that inhibit open discussions about emotions, and the biblical parallels that support counseling practices. Jessica shares her journey into counseling, the importance of validation, and how therapy can coexist with faith. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about mental health and encourages listeners to seek help without shame. Takeaways Mental health stigma is prevalent in South Asian and Christian communities. Cultural pressures often prevent open discussions about emotions. Validation is crucial in counseling and healing. Therapy can coexist with faith; they are not opposing forces. It's okay to seek help and ask for support. Healing is a journey that requires community and connection. Biblical principles can align with therapeutic practices. Breaking the stigma starts with open conversations. Counseling can be a resource for emotional and spiritual growth. Therapy is not just for crises; it can be for maintenance. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Healing and Mental Health 02:32 Jessica's Journey into Counseling 05:21 Stigmas in South Asian and Christian Communities 08:20 Cultural and Religious Influences on Emotions 11:04 The Role of Church in Shaping Perspectives 14:19 Biblical Parallels to Counseling Practices 17:18 The Importance of Validation and Vulnerability 20:04 Encouraging Mental Health Care in Faith Communities 22:50 The Power of Faith and Action 25:42 Understanding Christian Counseling 30:13 Navigating Faith and Mental Health 34:43 Breaking Stigmas in South Asian Communities 38:15 The Journey of Healing and Faith