Introducing my Latest Human Systems Experiment.
An Invitation to an alternate 250 year Party.
Hi, for anyone new… I’m not writing this essay as Dr. Lisa and even though I included footage of the Circus, this is not a political post.
I am just being Lissette, a woman navigating the third act of her life who did everything “right” until she realized everything was not right around her. I don’t know when I started realizing that my monsters back in the day were not just in the dark, under my bed, or in my head. I know I was really observant and very little when I realized that monsters were adult people. What I did not know was that you do not automatically outgrow them because they come from the systems, not inside me. At 53 I didn’t plan on still having to deal with the adult monstering of the 1970’s but I have an idea for a social experiment to do something besides share that information.
Human Systems : Circa 1976
I actually think monster fears in kids are about their social anxieties from the day. I think I started feeling my monsters going to nursery school at four. I turned 4 the summer of this country’s bicentennial. I was four and I remember the feeling of being part of something positive and also scary. What visitors shared on social media during visits to the US World Cup cities gave me that same divide of being on the edge of something positive but also scary coming up. Yet now I can also see the monster’s of propaganda. There are decades of tuning into the collective by my gut, using big intelligence to give headaches to my head and breaking my own heart but I still can’t seem to stick my head in the sand or go play dress up in my mother’s closet like others can.
This summer I want to approach that differently.
July 4th 2026 and this country has literally thrown me back into my mother’s world and closet of 1976 but as I said, it’s not working. As I was sitting with this, I decided that rather than wait for the gas lines and alternate days at the pump, I would do a social experiment that would tune up my tools for not suffering if and when this circus tent crashes.
It’s been a roll back of 50 freaking years!!!
It might be why this hoopla over 250 years of US exceptionalism feels attached to a July 4th arrest warrant. These money grabs and gold embellishments feel like that white collar kind of domestic violence. The one that doesn’t come with the proof of an obvious punch in the gut, but it hits a brilliant woman like lady liberty down to the ground. She looks the same but is now left with a deeper wound of betrayal trauma anyway.
Last year’s July 4th felt like a federal funeral. This year is a mix of hope and grief, still entangled together.
So I am inviting my readers into this June’s Moon plan.
I was to use the Full moon cycle to look into the way, I and humans, use the suffering that comes with these realizations. So many of us are collectively wrestling with this ray of light in the peak of darkness. I would normally write out what I have been called to or learned since the New moon but this month I’m inviting people into my social experiment.
The premise: The full moon pulls on us to feel what’s happening as humans. It is a core wiRing inside our Human Systems that AI, or any tech, may attempt to mimic but will never actual hit. Just look at the waters of our world and how the ecosystem’s behaviors change in relationship with the moon’s position with the Earth, Sun and reflection angles of light. Ask anyone who works with crime, birth, or body and mental pain: it’s as if natural intelligence reminds us, at least once a month, that we humans are not exceptions to the ecosystems. That system will be running destructive, creatively and life sustaining with or without us but how we relate to that can set the tone of the process. What if we flipped the conversation from avoiding or relieving or causing pain to using the words written and spoken about suffering to our collective advantage? And if I had to pick the words that speak the most powerfully in that, they will always be words shared by women. Specifically women of color.
The problem I want to address: July 4, 2026 marks 250 painful years of US history. It also marks 27 years since I stood on my balcony facing the East River as a new first time mom, showing my baby girl the fireworks and really thinking I, and the Gen X generation, had somehow made the world a better place than it was back in the 1976 bicentennial. I keep coming back to coherence, not courage or confidence I was feeling. It was an idea that I had reset the tone and from that moment on, I have been navigating having the capacity to raises expectations around human behaviors both by me and those who impact me, and the health of all required connections.
Now, in my whole being, and after realizing the best of plans might not work out, I keep saying the USA I was born into, that covenant died last year.
I also know something else was born over the last year and I want to care for it.
The problem is, I feel like a new mom again like that summer pre Y2K holding a 2 week old baby. This time my name is Lady Liberty and I am crying into my hands in the middle of a full year of dealing with an infant with colic, now having their millionth temper tantrum. Even though I am a full grown adult with all this responsibility, and some help to periodically leave, this screaming baby is all consuming of my body for food and needs attention.
I really can’t explain it better than that.
Other than when I came across Author and Activist, Alice Walker’s words…
When asked back in 2024 how it feels to live in America by the same people who gave her decades of popularity and industry awards, at the time being villainized for her activism over Gaza:
It feels like trying to grow grass in concrete
Image source: Tik Tok
I felt that.
Never did I ever think 2026 could be so sad of a state of mind that it is radical to want my babies born in between 1999 and 2003, one more brown than the other, to live two different realities than even I did, and not for the better in the near future.
Even after the disappointments of several years now, my dive into human suffering this week took me back into how I used to train my yoga students in the mind and body suffering tools and thoughts of Raja and Jnana yogas 2009-2019 while on my deepening path of spiritual development. It also reminded me how raw that development left me after the 2016 election but well prepared to deal with a divorce and complete relational implosion 2018-2021.
Still, no woman of color in 2026 is surprised that those most accountable for the repair in any of these experiences would rather erase or replace HER, HER past and deny any empathy in the ongoing straining relationship. It is from there that I constructed this social experiment. We are going to celebrate building a new nation from HER words and intentions, not the words and the country that died already.
I think I am finally ready to move forward. We are ready to move forward and get some new behaviors out of this screaming baby.
The hypothesis: The tone of the Union would change just by opening that feared Pandora’s box of Colorful cultural woman’s wisdom.
Women of color have passed on this rainbow of spirit through oral wisdom, song and dance for ages. When my ancestors learned to write they wrote some down, but often in symbolism and analogy to protect it from outside invaders. There are ancestral words still said from the people of the Caribbean who kept their held intent in these hidden ways while their language was beat out of them. Using beauty and arts to replace the suffering with joy is something I noticed was more prevalent in women while focusing on the health of women. When we learn a craft as girls, even today, with all the technologies, we tend to use it to adorn ourselves, our dolls, or another friend or younger sibling as a way to transfer that information. We will decorate ourselves or our homes and workSpaces showing relationship models and the lessons learned in the process. We bake them into our children’s food choices, playtime and bedtime stories.
Upon going down a recent rabbit hole of this , I ended up at the work of Author activist Alice Walker. I now conclude, the globe will feel a measurable shift within six months if everyone reading this commits to hearing and sharing something spoken by a woman of color, every day, for the next year.
They do not need to be a Pulitzer Prize winner like Ms. Walker. They do not need to have three degrees like me. The women’s words picked to hear and read from just need to not come from a woman of color who left the resistance and is now an energy vampire. She can’t be working towards the same silencing outcomes of the energy vampires. The words to read can’t advise on making the same non relational extractions of time, energy and labor with a unicorn twist.
So much of US history (and its threads through world history and where we stand now) lives in words shared by the often overlooked women of color who lived it and heard it from their mothers and grandmothers who intended them to learn to live from it.
The WISE methods we will use: Under my frameworks for transitional intent, I speak to women being W.I.S.E. My acronym is a reminder to embrace the identity of woman, influencer, sacred and engineer. I remind them that one of the most threatening parts of a WISE woman is her ability to extend that identity into a new. Not only that but she is constantly creating adaptable yet strong human infrastructure. I have found this by being both inside those circles that have contextual, sustaining and brilliant culture and rhythm for this, as well as being in circles of high praise for performance where those who hold authority don’t have this. They tend to return to a coherence level of manipulation and disempowerment instead of enrolling in trusted connection or collaboration. It may look heroic but it is a much different and draining way to use the power of intention.
Intervention: Using a trustworthy power of intentional approach, participants of this social experiment will intentionally exposure themselves and at least one other person to a woman of color’s POV. For one year, you will be moving awareness towards the labor, care and wisdom already given by women of color all over the world. Note, if they were financially poor, physically threatened and emotionally challenged, yet not one of them lazy or weak victims of their less than loving circumstances. Note the outcomes.
Then you will be journaling with the intent of accepting where there is any shame, vision, abuse of power in what you participated in that day. Sharing that woman’s story or art along side your own discoveries on social media is an optional and encouraged add on. This is where we collectively move the dial on this generation’s sense of taking some space with ownership.
That is the real flex. I am using exposure to Black and Brown womens’ thoughts as the catalytic agent but then I am asking participants to relate to it and own what ever that relationship is, publicly if possible.
The possible impact: As always, the walking dead are trying to control their emotional experience by confusing the narrative of the collective. This is akin to adding several contributing variables to a scientific experiment so that it fails since reading the outcomes becomes useless for cause and effect.
But you my lovely are alive.
Erasing the experience of being a woman, especially a woman of color is the oldest tool used to disorient the majority. It is the number one way to project blame when people sense inferiority or incapable self agency to be accountable and are angry about it.
So they buy the lead from their wallets, and keep the silver arrow through their heart intact.
But here is where reductionist science fails and we won’t. The stories and experiences transmitted by women of color are holy. Their messengers are beautiful models. The impact on listeners is empathetic, holistic, authentically ecologic, competently economic, and universally coherent. The community trust driven infrastructure after that is organic and automatic.
That social experiment is both subtle and powerful.
Every projection of this excellence without violence that gets met with some push for violence back should be considered a success. We are going to create a different narrative their ego can’t accept.
This social experiment is regenerative.
We are reconfirming the presence of past outcomes. Shining that full moon light on the obvious but ignored. That will be painful to see and hear but we will be spending the year integrating, metabolizing and then repurposing our collective suffering.
The commitment: Commitment is not in time. It is in presence and attention to this outlined process of excellence via transference. The work required to participate in this social experiment this year will vary depend on the art you wish to use.
During this one year experiment, you are expected to use your role of being the witness of this process as you hear and read the words chosen by a woman of color every day. No perfection needed but strong intent to commit to the process.
* You are asked to journal each day you read or hear these women’s words. You are specifically asked to write down what you learned about pain and suffering and then anything else you want to add is the icing.
* You must intend to search for your own empathy, competence, and authenticity in relationship to HER art and information. These are 3 core elements of trust building. Trust is the outcome intended. You are challenged to build those three drivers in yourself over the next year without exploring them turning into a weapon to avoid the discomfort of sitting with what ever comes up. Note: It may range from a sudden lack of discipline and interest in the process to the joy of realizing new insight that you can apply to your advantages. Note any suffering accompanies it and how you can process and repurpose it.
I will warn you. This is a path into individual deconstructing, decolonizing and disconnecting your IV as a supplier. The power is in a collective effort of maintaining your participation. We want one unified intentional process, the results of which are hopefully the revolution’s way to quiet quit the establishment. We are nursing a new nation while dismantling the food supply of the old institution.
Conclusion: I’ve spent years researching what is in the context of suffering because when someone finally found or listened to me, 90% of the time they were already past the pain point and into the process of suffering. Since 2000, I have been comparing the methods, gifts, and skills various people use to address it as a human systems condition around the globe rather than a personal disfunctional condition.
After decades studying pain and suffering as a human, a mother, in a few titles of a health career, then a peer model and then an executive advisor, I know how complex it is to separate them but it really is us that keep it complicated.
Want to do this?
Let me know in the comments.
I will be starting my intentional share of these womb wisdoms now with this essay invite. I would love you to share this to reach more with me by this Full moon.
Dr. Lissette Alvarez-Holland spent the past three decades working across healthcare, entrepreneurship, and human development. Today she aims to help leading women navigate the complexity of modern life by integrating health, leadership, relationships, and purpose into a more coherent and healthy way of living and contributing.
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