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Career Pauses Aren’t Gaps: Returning to Engineering After 12 Years at Home | Leah Tilstra, Ep. 9

1 h 0 min · 12. maj 2026
episode Career Pauses Aren’t Gaps: Returning to Engineering After 12 Years at Home | Leah Tilstra, Ep. 9 cover

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Returning to work after a career break? Here's what stay-at-home moms get told: the years home don't count, you'll come back at a lower title, and you should take whatever salary is offered. Leah Tilstra rejected all three — and walked back into engineering at Abbott with a senior title and a sign-on bonus after twelve years raising four kids. How did she pull it off? She refused the apologetic part-time re-entry, used one old work relationship to land the right R&D team at Abbott, and walked into salary negotiations with a clear number and the willingness to be told no. The mantra she carries into every high-stakes interview: "They didn't know me yesterday, but they'll remember me tomorrow." ABOUT GUEST: Leah Tilstra is a mechanical engineer and senior R&D engineer at Abbott, working on artificial heart valves in the TAVI space. Early in her career, she climbed quickly through medical device roles then made the intentional decision to step away for twelve years to raise her four children and support her family's move from Texas to Minnesota. During her career pause, she didn't just stay at home. Leah ran a nonprofit preschool, built a sewing business, coached middle school athletes, and led a moms' community group. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: * [00:14:10] The pharmacy wake-up moment that pushed Leah from "testing the waters" to returning to work full-time * [00:21:29] The networking move that helped a stay-at-home mom return to engineering after a 12-year career break * [00:37:13] How to negotiate salary and a sign-on bonus after a long career pause — even when the company offers less * [00:38:57] The one-line confidence script she repeats before any high-stakes room or interview * [00:27:10] The "Sift My Wife Does" Google Doc that names the mental load every working mom is carrying GUEST LINKS * Instagram: @illegallyblondie [https://www.instagram.com/illegallyblondie/] * Facebook: @illegallyblond [https://www.facebook.com/illegallyblond] * LinkedIn: Leah Tilstra [https://www.linkedin.com/in/leah-tilstra/] CONNECT WITH HIR * Instagram @ herintentionalreset.co [https://www.instagram.com/herintentionalreset.co/] * Facebook @ Her Intentional Reset.co [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587329908947] * Website: www.herintentionalreset.com [https://herintentionalreset.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGntCEey4YretrZ39A7mINUiy-Dmz7iRv0BDLhY2OcDQkfqMmMGK8--zTX20RE_aem_d_YskQDM9KyDWyA-8dxVVw] If HIR has been valuable to you, you can support the show here: Kofi Support The Show [https://ko-fi.com/herintentionalreset] * No pressure — just making it easy for listeners who want to say so. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): * https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward [https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward] * License code: RVGOVVHKDJFBKVJC

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The Artist's Way at 40: One Woman's Unexpected Second Act | Calleen De Oliveira, Ep. 12

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episode Curating a Career Pivot and a Life That Fits | Jennifer Conrad, Founder & President Twigs, Ep. 11 artwork

Curating a Career Pivot and a Life That Fits | Jennifer Conrad, Founder & President Twigs, Ep. 11

From Wall Street trader to fashion entrepreneur, Jennifer Conrad moved from New York to Madison, WI, on September 11, 2001. While coping with the events of that day, Jennifer identified a need in her new city — and a vision for what to do next. So she did what a former day trader would do: she trusted her gut, moved quickly, and built it herself. Jennifer, Founder & President of Twigs, an elevated, fashion boutique, will discuss how she built this career pivot on instinct and discipline, how she's kept the business strong through pandemics and recessions for two decades, the importance of prioritizing your people, and what she's learned about building both a career and a life that fit. ABOUT THE GUEST: Twigs is an independent women's fashion boutique with locations in Madison and Brookfield, WI, with a nationwide online presence at shoptwigs.com. Jennifer opened Twigs on January 2002, drawing on the economics degree she earned at Columbia and a career as a money market trader at Citigroup. In 2012, Elle Magazine recognized Twigs as one of the best boutiques in America. What make’s Twigs stand the test of time is Jennifer’s approach to curation: a thoughtful mix of contemporary clothing, jewelry, and accessories for three generations of women — carefully pulling together pieces that are worth your time and attention. What keeps customers coming back is the Twigs team's ability to cultivate a community while providing exceptional customer service and attention to the little details. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: * 08:49 — Spotting a need in a field you didn't come from — and deciding to act on it * 11:52 — How Jennifer uses her background as a trader to assess risk and make fast decisions when the business needs to pivot * 13:32 — The "big enough and small enough" philosophy that has shaped how she's grown — staying nimble while building real durability through a pandemic and a recession * 24:04 — When to take the leap to expansion — and how a candid conversation with another retailer helped her say yes to a second store * 34:25 — Jennifer's leadership style and why appreciating her team is the foundation of everything * 39:13 — The art and joy of curating — how Jennifer finds designers, edits a collection, and curates for three generations of women * 49:08 — What it takes to keep a business healthy over the long haul, including the team and the benefits that have kept her people with her * 50:55 — Jennifer's honest advice for any woman thinking about a real industry jump * 56:11 — Learning to take care of yourself in order to be there for others GUEST LINKS: * Website: www.shoptwigs.com [https://shoptwigs.com/] * Instagram: @shoptwigs [https://www.instagram.com/shoptwigs/] * Email: info@shoptwigs.com ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: * "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron, Amazon link here. [https://amzn.to/4v0RiUa] * Note, by using the link HIR will receive a small affiliate link compensation. CONNECT WITH SPONSOR: Roots & Bloom * Instagram @ [https://www.instagram.com/rootsbloom_studio/]rootsandbloom_studio [http://@rootsandbloom_studio] * Listener promotion: Roots & Bloom 20% off plant purchase — mention “Her Intentional Reset” at checkout/to Ciera Curtis CONNECT WITH HIR * Instagram @ herintentionalreset.co [https://www.instagram.com/herintentionalreset.co/] * Facebook @ Her Intentional Reset.co [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587329908947] * Website: www.herintentionalreset.com [https://herintentionalreset.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGntCEey4YretrZ39A7mINUiy-Dmz7iRv0BDLhY2OcDQkfqMmMGK8--zTX20RE_aem_d_YskQDM9KyDWyA-8dxVVw] If HIR has been valuable to you, you can support the show here: Kofi Support The Show [https://ko-fi.com/herintentionalreset] * No pressure — just making it easy for listeners who want to say so. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): * https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward [https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward] * License code: RVGOVVHKDJFBKVJC

26. maj 20261 h 5 min
episode How She Turned a Hobby Into a Business While Caregiving | Jenny Huynh, Wildflower Macarons, Ep. 10 artwork

How She Turned a Hobby Into a Business While Caregiving | Jenny Huynh, Wildflower Macarons, Ep. 10

You've got a hobby you can't stop doing. But between the caregiving, the family, the life that's already full, you're not sure there's room for it to become anything more — or if you're even allowed to find out. A gentle note before you listen: this episode includes Jenny's experience with postpartum depression and suicidal thoughts. If that's a tender topic for you, please take care with this one. Support resources are linked below. ABOUT THE GUEST: Jenny Huynh is the baker behind Wildflower Macarons, a home-based small business in Eden Prairie, Minnesota that she started in 2020 during a postpartum she didn't yet have a name for. Five years in, she's grown it from a kitchen hobby into a custom-order business known for intricate, hand-painted novelty macarons inspired by her Southeast Asian heritage — all while being the primary caregiver for her father-in-law and raising her own son. Her story is a real look at what it takes to grow a small business in midlife when life keeps adding to your plate, not subtracting from it. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: * [00:02:20] How a birthday party started a business — with zero initial plan * [00:05:33] What postpartum looked like for Jenny as a new mom, and why we all need to share our experiences * [00:13:20] Going from kitchen hobby to officially licensed cottage food business — and why it was easier than she expected * [00:16:06] The sandwich generation reality: raising her son and caregiving for her father-in-law while running a business * [00:21:00] How she used her macarons to raise money for community rent during ICE raids — and why every role matters, no matter how small * [00:30:01] The strength her husband sees in her that she didn't see in herself * [00:31:53] The advice she'd give her younger self: why she's "more than enough" GUEST OFFER: Wildflower Macarons is generously offering Her Intentional Reset listeners 10% off first-time customer order. Reach out and mention Her Intentional Reset podcast. All details below. GUEST LINKS: * Instagram: @wildflowermacarons [https://www.instagram.com/wildflowermacarons/] * Website: wildflowermacarons.com [https://www.wildflowermacarons.com/] * 10% off first-time customer discount code — "Welcome10" CONNECT WITH SPONSOR: * Instagram @ [https://www.instagram.com/rootsbloom_studio/]rootsandbloom_studio [http://@rootsandbloom_studio] * Listener promotion: Roots & Bloom 20% off plant purchase — mention “Her Intentional Reset” at checkout/to Ciera Curtis CONNECT WITH HIR * Instagram @ herintentionalreset.co [https://www.instagram.com/herintentionalreset.co/] * Facebook @ Her Intentional Reset.co [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587329908947] * Website: www.herintentionalreset.com [https://herintentionalreset.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGntCEey4YretrZ39A7mINUiy-Dmz7iRv0BDLhY2OcDQkfqMmMGK8--zTX20RE_aem_d_YskQDM9KyDWyA-8dxVVw] COMMUNITY CAUSES * PROP (People Reaching Out to People): https://propfood.org/ [https://propfood.org/] ADDITIONAL LINKS * Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net [https://postpartum.net/] | helpline 1-800-944-4773 If HIR has been valuable to you, you can support the show here: Kofi Support The Show [https://ko-fi.com/herintentionalreset] * No pressure — just making it easy for listeners who want to say so. Music from #Uppbeat: https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward [https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward] * License code: RVGOVVHKDJFBKVJC

19. maj 202639 min
episode Career Pauses Aren’t Gaps: Returning to Engineering After 12 Years at Home | Leah Tilstra, Ep. 9 artwork

Career Pauses Aren’t Gaps: Returning to Engineering After 12 Years at Home | Leah Tilstra, Ep. 9

Returning to work after a career break? Here's what stay-at-home moms get told: the years home don't count, you'll come back at a lower title, and you should take whatever salary is offered. Leah Tilstra rejected all three — and walked back into engineering at Abbott with a senior title and a sign-on bonus after twelve years raising four kids. How did she pull it off? She refused the apologetic part-time re-entry, used one old work relationship to land the right R&D team at Abbott, and walked into salary negotiations with a clear number and the willingness to be told no. The mantra she carries into every high-stakes interview: "They didn't know me yesterday, but they'll remember me tomorrow." ABOUT GUEST: Leah Tilstra is a mechanical engineer and senior R&D engineer at Abbott, working on artificial heart valves in the TAVI space. Early in her career, she climbed quickly through medical device roles then made the intentional decision to step away for twelve years to raise her four children and support her family's move from Texas to Minnesota. During her career pause, she didn't just stay at home. Leah ran a nonprofit preschool, built a sewing business, coached middle school athletes, and led a moms' community group. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: * [00:14:10] The pharmacy wake-up moment that pushed Leah from "testing the waters" to returning to work full-time * [00:21:29] The networking move that helped a stay-at-home mom return to engineering after a 12-year career break * [00:37:13] How to negotiate salary and a sign-on bonus after a long career pause — even when the company offers less * [00:38:57] The one-line confidence script she repeats before any high-stakes room or interview * [00:27:10] The "Sift My Wife Does" Google Doc that names the mental load every working mom is carrying GUEST LINKS * Instagram: @illegallyblondie [https://www.instagram.com/illegallyblondie/] * Facebook: @illegallyblond [https://www.facebook.com/illegallyblond] * LinkedIn: Leah Tilstra [https://www.linkedin.com/in/leah-tilstra/] CONNECT WITH HIR * Instagram @ herintentionalreset.co [https://www.instagram.com/herintentionalreset.co/] * Facebook @ Her Intentional Reset.co [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587329908947] * Website: www.herintentionalreset.com [https://herintentionalreset.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGntCEey4YretrZ39A7mINUiy-Dmz7iRv0BDLhY2OcDQkfqMmMGK8--zTX20RE_aem_d_YskQDM9KyDWyA-8dxVVw] If HIR has been valuable to you, you can support the show here: Kofi Support The Show [https://ko-fi.com/herintentionalreset] * No pressure — just making it easy for listeners who want to say so. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): * https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward [https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward] * License code: RVGOVVHKDJFBKVJC

12. maj 20261 h 0 min
episode From Spotify Exec to Solo Founder – Career Pivot | Courtney Reimer, Sounds Great Strategy, Ep. 8 artwork

From Spotify Exec to Solo Founder – Career Pivot | Courtney Reimer, Sounds Great Strategy, Ep. 8

You spent 20+ years building real expertise — the kind you can't fake — and now you're staring down a layoff, a restructure, or just a quiet voice asking if this is really it. What if the skills you've spent two decades building are the exact foundation you need for something that's finally yours? ABOUT GUEST: Courtney Reimer is the founder and principal strategist at Sounds Great, a podcast strategy company, and the host of the podcast Talking the Talk. After two decades as a senior executive at Spotify, Audible, MTV, and Discovery — including executive producing Archetypes with Meghan Markle — she was laid off and started her own business. In this conversation she walks through the real mechanics of a midlife career change: the "you're not your job" reframe from her husband, the moment she realized her expertise was worth paying for, the under-pricing trap, and why being 52 is an asset rather than a liability. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: * [00:09:59] How Courtney decided to bet on herself and start consulting after a layoff * [00:11:03] The signal that tells you your 20 years of expertise is worth paying for * [00:14:06] The five-word mantra her husband gave her: "You're not your job" * [00:26:08] The practical and financial considerations of starting your own business * [00:28:33] How to set your consulting rates when you're starting out * [00:31:17] Why 52 is a credibility marker, not a liability, in a midlife career change GUEST OFFER: Sounds Great — Launch Podcast Accelerator — to find out more, email Courtney at: courtney@soundsgreatstrategy.com [courtney@soundsgreatstrategy.com] Website: https://www.soundsgreatstrategy.com [https://www.soundsgreatstrategy.com/about-courtney-reimer] Podcast: Talking the talk [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-the-talk-with-courtney-reimer/id1876700931?l=es-MX] Additional Guest References * Deb Boulanger podcast: Life After Corporate [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/life-after-corporate/id1500631278] * The Artist's Way [https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252/ref=sr_1_1?crid=61L6M4F277H&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.j2bNWhJKONpFlTX6-ONeNWFNw7qgkx0u4B08QDCQaPAx598sr20Ds43hLSAH2hSzYbM9Eus0sacGixJxMU8nFafICaK61ryRXRDxBYHZjFiTKQCRqezeqfTJOLhm7VV4ed5nH-0Sbz5Ana4UmNdKRZortSoOkXVom4NYPlq2sirTGdnOnk8A14mjsUouBp4p6AwmHeinoWUfC9cZVprmvuSD4KCP4EMk9SSn2fJoc4U.IEz7_zh9iTDe0IVNB9YGD5-LWIevTMae7upu3M44FOg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+artists+way&qid=1777769112&sprefix=the+artists+way%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-1] by Julia Cameron SPONSOR: Roots & Bloom -- follow on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/rootsbloom_studio/] Mention Her Intentional Reset for 20% off code of plant purchase. CONNECT WITH HIR * Instagram @ herintentionalreset.co [https://www.instagram.com/herintentionalreset.co/] * Facebook @ Her Intentional Reset.co [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587329908947] * Website: www.herintentionalreset.com [https://herintentionalreset.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGntCEey4YretrZ39A7mINUiy-Dmz7iRv0BDLhY2OcDQkfqMmMGK8--zTX20RE_aem_d_YskQDM9KyDWyA-8dxVVw] If HIR has been valuable to you, you can support the show here: Kofi Support The Show [https://ko-fi.com/herintentionalreset] * No pressure — just making it easy for listeners who want to say so. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): * https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward [https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/the-way-forward] * License code: RVGOVVHKDJFBKVJC

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