Here For The Healing As The Crow Flies

NOTES TO MY LOVED ONE - Reframe Blame

Let's Reframe Blame! If I blame my partner for what he or she is doing to me, I will not heal. Why?  Because, as long as I am blaming another person for what is happening in my life, I am a victim. I am ready therefore, to realize and re-frame blame.

NOTES TO MY LOVED ONES - You Are My Mirror

Whenever I have a problem or issue with you, I have an opportunity to heal and transform something inside me.  Our issues dysfunctionally fit together like puzzle pieces. When my mind is open and I embrace these principles, I begin to realize that all my problems and issues are really opportunities to heal myself.

NOTES TO MY LOVED ONES - Wound Re-enactment

All my life experiences translate into what is now my present belief system and core issues that live inside me. My body remembers everything – especially my old wounds, which eventually get re-enacted in my relationships.  In a way, you are my mirror - you, who I love so dearly are mirroring back all my childhood wounds.

NOTES TO MY LOVED ONES - No More Opinions, Judgements, Defenses, Explanations and Helpful Fixes

Please just hear me and my feelings without your judgement, criticism, opinions, defenses, explanations and helpful fixes.

NOTES TO MY LOVED ONES - Do Not Spare Me Your Truth

I want to express my emotional truth to the people I love. Emotional honesty goes both ways, so please do not spare me your truth either.