Ep. 157 - Doing Hard Things Part 5: The Hard Thing of Repair

Ep. 157 - Doing Hard Things Part 5: The Hard Thing of Repair

Most men want to be respected. But many of us were never taught how to repair relationships after we’ve caused pain. So we defend ourselves.  Explain ourselves.  Withdraw and minimize. Meanwhile the people we love most are often left carrying wounds we never intended to create. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about humility, apologies, rebuilding trust, and the courage it takes to own the impact of our emotional absence, shutdown, anger, or performance-driven living. He also shares personal reflections connected to his new book, The Father Eclipse [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1], including the painful realization that many men can provide physically while unintentionally going to the sidelines emotionally with their wives and children. Repair is hard. But humility may become the doorway to healing.

Ep. 156 - Doing Hard Things Part 4: The Hard Thing of Spiritual Honesty

We men can become really good at doing spiritual things. Reading Scripture. Praying. Leading Bible studies. Going to church. Serving faithfully. Meanwhile internally, we can still feel distant from God, emotionally shut down, exhausted, ashamed, or disconnected. Why? Because many of us learned how to perform spiritually before we learned how to be honest spiritually. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the difference between spiritual activity and intimacy with God — and why slowing down, becoming aware, and bringing our real hearts before the Father may be one of the hardest things men ever do. Drawing from his own journey and themes from his new book, The Father Eclipse, [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1] Steve explores how father wounds and performance-driven living can distort the way we see God — and how beloved sons begin learning to live FROM love instead of FOR it. Be sure to grab a copy on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]and share it with your men's pastor at church and the men in your group - and watch what the Father does! The One-Minute Pause [https://wildatheart.org/pause] app Steve mentioned on today's podcast is a great tool for understanding your heart and relieving worry, anxiety and stress.  Check it out.   I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 155 - Doing Hard Things Part 3: The Hard Thing of Relationships

Most men know how to be around people. Fewer men know how to truly be known. We can build careers, lead teams, sit in church every Sunday, and even have guys around us regularly… while quietly living isolated lives. Many of us learned how to perform strength instead of pursue connection. So we hide behind work, humor, independence, busyness, or emotional shutdown — and wonder why we feel disconnected from our wives, kids, friends, and even God. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the hard work of relationships, vulnerability, brotherhood, and emotional presence — and why isolation may be one of the greatest threats facing men today. He also weaves in parts of his own story from The Father Eclipse, [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1] including how father wounds and performance-driven living can quietly shape the way we connect — or disconnect — from the people we love most.  Grab a copy today on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]and share it with the men in your community. Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 [https://f3nation.com/] and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.

Ep. 154 - Doing Hard Things Part 2: The Hard Thing of Emotional Courage

Men know how to push through pain, don't we?  We work harder. We stay busy.  We grind.  We compete, and we stay mentally tough. But many of us have no idea what to do with sadness, fear, loneliness, rejection, or grief. So we shut down.  Withdraw.  Get angry. Numb out, or quietly disappear emotionally from the people we love most. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about emotional courage and why awareness may be one of the hardest — and healthiest — things a man can learn. Steve also shares pieces of his own story from The Father Eclipse [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1], including how unresolved father wounds and emotional disconnection can impact marriage, fatherhood, identity, and our relationship with God. Get a copy today on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]and while you're at it - share it with your men's group and watch the conversations start to change.   I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 153 - Doing Hard Things Part 1: "The Lie We Men Were Handed"

Question:  Why do so many of us men know how to work hard, compete hard, and endure hard things - but struggle to identify what we’re actually feeling? On this episode of  “I Know A Guy” podcast, we’re talking about emotional courage as we start a new 6-part series on "Doing Hard Things." Why do anger and withdrawal become our default responses? And why does emotional shutdown quietly wound the people we love most? Find out on more as we journey together through this new series. And if today’s episode resonated with you, my new book, The Father Eclipse [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1], dives deeper into father wounds, identity, emotional healing, and becoming whole-hearted men. It's available right now Amazon.   Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 [https://f3nation.com/] and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.