Ep. 48: What is the Message of Tisha B’Av?

Ep. 48: What is the Message of Tisha B’Av?

Rebuilding can only begin once we honor our losses—so what can the most sorrowful day on the Jewish calendar teach us about hope and resilience? In this powerful episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy dive into the meaning, history, and contemporary relevance of Tisha B'Av. They explore the motifs of destruction and rebirth embedded in Jewish tradition, the deeply human need for collective mourning, and how Tisha B'Av acts as a transformative gateway to self-reflection and change. With personal stories, practical insights, and a look at shifting observance in the Reform movement, the rabbis offer rich inspiration for finding meaning—both in grief and in rebuilding. Timestamped Overview 00:00 Welcome and Setting the Context00:23 The Nine Days and Tisha B'Av: What and Why01:38 Historical Significance & National Grief03:43 Personal Memories and Experiences06:12 Senseless Hatred vs. Senseless Love07:09 Tisha B'Av as a 12-Step Program for Renewal10:44 Communal Mourning and Human Nature11:17 A Powerful Shared Tisha B'Av Story14:18 How Do We Observe Tisha B'Av?15:44 The Structure and Meaning of Eicha (Lamentations)17:32 Order, Structure, and Surviving Chaos20:27 Destruction as a Catalyst for Change21:26 The Reform Movement’s Relationship with Tisha B'Av23:25 Metaphor, Literalism, and Personal Belief25:01 Processing Sadness and Grief Today27:36 Sadness, Shabbat Nachamu, and the Turn Toward Hope29:44 Consolation, Hope, and Personal Reflections32:17 Tisha B'Av’s Enduring Antidote for Modern Times33:12 Wishing Listeners a Meaningful Tisha B'Av and Closing

Ep. 47: Is the Term Anti-Semitism Still Useful?

What happens when the words we use to describe hate actually cloud our understanding rather than clarify it? In this episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy tackle the complicated language around "antisemitism," debating whether the term still serves us—or if it now obscures the nuanced realities of Jewish life and hatred today. Through layered discussion, personal stories, and historical insight, they dissect how language shapes our engagement, activism, and safety as Jews. If you've ever wrestled with what to call anti-Jewish hatred and why it matters, this episode arms you with new perspectives and vocabulary. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Intro, context, and episode framing[00:36] Review of "antisemitism"—where the term came from and its evolution[02:24] Is a new term like "anti-Jew hatred" needed?[03:19] The blind spots and rhetorical loopholes in today’s discourse[06:04] Experiencing antisemitism: personal anecdotes and reflections[10:19] The power dynamics of Jewish identity in America and Israel[12:34] Who gets to define the Jewish narrative and language?[13:45] Comparing modern Jew hatred to earlier forms[15:21] How antisemitism shapes Jewish identity for a new generation[16:19] Confusion, nuance, and the vocabulary gap for younger Jews[19:58] The tragic dilemma: moral labels and supporting Israel[22:39] Educational approaches and the gray zones of debate[24:57] The role of dissent, mass thinking, and internal critique[26:14] Differentiating the forms of hate from the right and left[28:39] Case studies: SodaStream, activism, and narrative battles[30:44] Words and their limits: is nuance a distraction?[32:04] Equipping Jewish young adults for tough conversations[34:02] Jews for Judaism and needing new scripts[35:01] Social exclusion, campus experiences, and new forms of hatred[36:06] Finding a shared language: next steps and community action[37:33] A light, humorous wrap-up on language change[38:52] Outro and resources

Ep. 46: Should We Retire the Word Zionism?

Discover why the language we use shapes not just debate but our very sense of belonging—especially when it comes to one of Judaism’s most loaded words: Zionism. Should we retire the term altogether? Join Rabbi Leora Londy and Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe as they tackle whether ongoing arguments over “Zionism” help or hinder honest conversation about Israel, Jewish identity, and inclusion in the Jewish community. Along the way, they delve into generational divides, personal journeys, and the dangers of reducing complex identities to slogans. The episode challenges listeners to reflect on the words they use, the reasons behind their associations, and what truly unites or fractures the Jewish people today. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction: The Power of Words & the Season of Devarim [00:44] Should We Retire “Zionism”? [02:47] Anecdote: Zio’s Deli and Language’s Shifting Meaning [03:35] History and Meaning of Zionism [05:05] Reactions to Retiring the Term [05:52] What if There Were No Replacement Term? [07:02] Lived Identity and Nuances within Zionism [09:36] Is Zionism Too Broad or Too Loaded? [11:44] Encounters with “Anti-Zionist” Jews [13:54] The Fracture and Opportunity in These Conversations [15:25] The Futility of Debating Israel’s Right to Exist [19:25] Personal Journey: Leaving, Longing for, and Defending Israel [23:22] Advocating for a Better Israel [25:42] Why Apologize for Supporting Israel? [28:50] Personal Stories of Protest and Tisha B’Av [30:47] The Motif of Destruction and Renewal [32:31] Anti-Zionism: PR or Deeper Ideology? [33:31] What Are People Really Opposing? [35:56] Words as Slogans vs. Substance [36:56] Challenging Listeners: How Do You Enter This Debate? [37:43] Closing: Volunteering in Israel and Hopes for Future Conversations

Ep. 45: What Should We Make of the Negotiated MOU with Iran?

Amid the ever-shifting landscape of global politics, adaptability and historical memory remain vital. What happens when Israel can no longer rely on longstanding alliances—or when old assumptions about safety and security are challenged by new realities? In this episode, the conversation focused on the recent Iran memorandum of understanding, its implications for Israeli politics and security, and how American Jewish communities are processing these developments. Key themes include the unraveling of Netanyahu’s traditional claims to leadership, the unpredictability of Middle Eastern agreements, the power of grassroots action, and the emerging sense of vulnerability and responsibility among Jews worldwide. The discussion explored the fragility of political constructs and the importance of taking proactive steps—even when the geopolitical terrain feels overwhelming. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction and Iran memorandum context[01:05] Shifting Israeli political alliances and Netanyahu’s strategy[02:48] Netanyahu’s traditional claims and their erosion[04:25] Influence of Iran conflict on upcoming Israeli elections[05:24] Personalities, alliances, and unity efforts in Israel[07:36] Fractured political landscape and ultra-Orthodox draft tensions[09:12] Exclusion of Israel in Iran negotiations and diaspora perspectives[10:30] Value of PR vs. military strength for Israel[12:40] Unreliable agreements in Middle Eastern politics[14:06] Sports contract analogy for international deals[15:14] “Pie in the sky” promises and managed chaos[16:42] Cultural differences and the nature of Middle Eastern agreements[18:32] Limits of diplomacy with Iran and intractable issues[20:10] Comparison with JCPOA and Israel’s security situation[21:34] Powerlessness and public anxiety around global events[22:27] Rising antisemitism and boundaries of safety[24:29] American Jewish experiences and lessons from history[25:30] Role of American Jews in the Israeli election[27:53] Travel, solidarity, and strengthening global Jewish connection[29:19] Alternatives to the US-Israel alliance and rethinking assumptions[30:51] Final reflections and hopes for thoughtful leadership[31:42] Outro and community information

Ep. 44: What Do Religion and Team Sports Have in Common?

What if rooting for laundry is the closest most people will get to a spiritual experience? In this episode of "In Such a Time," Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy reveal powerful (and surprising) parallels between sports fandom and religious identity—from sacred rituals to communal belonging, group pride, and even prayer for teams at B’Nai Mitzvah. Explore how being a Knicks fan or cheering at the World Cup connects to deeper questions of meaning, purpose, isolation, and humility. Plus, the hosts tackle why modern worship can feel like a spectator sport, the complicated intersection of nationalism and sports, and the unexpected grace in sports-driven gratitude, all while sharing personal stories about finding their own teams—and why sometimes your kids turn you into a fan. Timestamped Overview 00:00 New York City’s sports euphoria and national pride01:24 How sports teams unite people—and Little League reflections03:15 Sports as a pressure valve from heavy news and everyday stress04:43 Teamwork, the Knicks, and modeling community05:16 Prayer, spirituality, and sports in B'Nai Mitzvah ceremonies06:15 Parallels between sports institutions and religious ritual08:20 The quest for belonging: sports fandom vs. religious community09:34 Rooting for laundry: entity over the individual11:06 Inherited vs. willed fandom; forming team identities in the family14:13 Sports as ideology in Israel—and finding your “tribe”15:26 Parental perspective: cultivating a sports or Jewish home16:22 Descartes’ Wager, willing yourself into fandom, and team ethos18:00 Difference between passive fandom and participatory religion20:11 Worship as engagement vs. entertainment23:07 Examples of participatory spiritual models: High Holidays, B’Nai Mitzvah26:12 Religion in sport—God, gratitude, and humility in athletics28:49 Finding purpose: feeling privileged in your calling31:33 Biblical lessons: putting people in positions to succeed34:00 Tribalism, nationalism, and collective sports moments36:41 When sports and politics collide—wishing for escapism38:07 Choosing your World Cup team with Jewish history in mind40:40 Sports moments that build bridges and community42:16 Local synagogue teams: Matzoh Ballers and Shofar Shooters