It's Not Me, It's You

From Horoscope to Horrorscope: Is He Cooking or Cooked?

EPISODE 16 This episode goes from horoscopes to straight-up horrorscopes real quick 😭 We sit down with our guest and get into his dating history (being in love not once, but twice, almost getting engaged, and all the chaos in between). Somewhere along the way, we start questioning if it was real love… or just the stars playing games. We talk zodiac signs, patterns in dating, red flags we ignored, and those moments where you really have to ask yourself: are they cooking… or are they actually cooked? It’s funny, a little unhinged, and way too relatable if you’ve ever tried to make sense of your love life through a birth chart.

Red flags, Green flags & Everything in between

🎙️ Episode 15: Red Flags, Green Flags & Everything In Between (w/ Cosze) In this episode, we sit down with our guest Cosze and get into the messy middle of modern dating... the red flags, the green flags, and all the confusing signals in between. Like most of our conversations, it starts one place and ends somewhere completely different. We talk dating experiences, reading people’s energy, figuring out what’s real vs what’s a warning sign, and the gray areas that make relationships so complicated. Some people ignore red flags. Some people run at the first sign of trouble. And some of us are just trying to figure out what actually matters when you’re getting to know someone. Real talk, random tangents, and the kind of conversation that feels like sitting around with friends trying to decode dating.

The "fun parts" of dating...

The Fun Parts of Dating (Yes, We’re Being Sarcastic) We had a little time before the year wrapped… so of course we hit record. This one’s off-the-whim, no outline, no filter, just us talking about the “fun” parts of dating (heavy sarcasm implied). From mixed signals, situationships, overthinking texts, dating fatigue, and the emotional gymnastics that somehow count as modern romance, we’re laughing through it because honestly… what else can you do? If you’ve ever said “I’m done dating” and then downloaded the app again a week later, this episode is for you. End-of-year chaos, dating trauma bonding, and real talk before the reset. Happy almost-new-year. Good luck out there 🫡

The darkness of dating apps: Trust, but verify.

Dating apps aren’t just awkward anymore… they’re kinda dark. In this episode, Matt breaks down his real-life experiences on dating apps...from sketchy situations to straight-up fraud, and why “trust, but verify” isn’t paranoia, it’s survival. We talk about: * The illusion of safety on dating apps * Red flags that show up way too late * When giving the benefit of the doubt turns into being naïve * How optimism can get you played * Protecting your energy, time, and peace while still staying open to love This isn’t fear-mongering, it’s real conversations from real experiences. If you’re dating online, thinking about it, or already tired of it… this one’s for you.

Be the Water, Not the Rock: Love, Fear & Finding Your Flow.

This week’s episode gets heated in the best way. Vanessa and Matt get real about love, fear, commitment, and whether past experiences leave us tainted or just more self-aware. Matt opens up about thinking he might’ve been in love once and why he doesn’t know if he’ll ever find love again. Vanessa challenges him on how commitment does define a relationship, especially after dedicating 7 years to one relationship and 9 to another. We dive into: * What “being tainted” really means * Why commitment matters (or doesn’t?) * How to go with the flow instead of forcing connections * Becoming a magnet for what you want * “Be the water, not the rock” ... our new dating mantra * The difference between lack of chemistry vs. genuine compatibility * Knowing what you’re doing in dating (and not misleading people) It’s honest. It’s vulnerable. It’s chaotic.And it might just help you figure out your own relationships.