The Gift of Disappointment

The Fear Dance

"Fear Dance,"  the four-step pattern of relational and emotional response originating from hurt. The steps are sequentially identified as "You Hurt," "You Want," "You Fear," and "You React," explaining how relational pain leads to various "wants," which, when threatened, result in specific fears. These fears, rooted primarily in the desire for connection and control, ultimately trigger various reactions that often damage relationships, such as the pattern of Defend – Attack – Retreat.

The Gift of Disappointment

“Disappointment isn’t the end—it’s the beginning of a more honest journey.” Healing Through Disappointment • Practices: lament, journaling, community. • The importance of naming our disappointments. • How disappointment can be a catalyst for transformation.

"Falling to the Top" as told by Ted

There have been several request that I offer this podcast in my own voice rather than using the interview format that was used for Part-1 and Part-2. This is for those of you who wanted to hear it directly from me.

"Falling to the Top" Part-2

"Falling to the Top  explores the process of emotional and relational healing, by addressing the "Big Feeling" events from one's "family of origin" by revisiting  events in sensory, "ground level" detail, which often involves painful emotions like shame or abandonment. Using the analogy of Jesus' journey from Good Friday to Easter Sunday, highlighting a crucial "Saturday" experience—as essential for liberating the "innocent child" we abandoned to survive.

Falling to the Top - Part-1

"Falling to the Top  explores the process of emotional and relational healing, by addressing the "Big Feeling" events from one's "family of origin" by revisiting  events in sensory, "ground level" detail, which often involves painful emotions like shame or abandonment. Using the analogy of Jesus' journey from Good Friday to Easter Sunday, highlighting a crucial "Saturday" experience—as essential for liberating the "innocent child" we abandoned to survive.