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Making Sense of Adult ADHD (Especially for Women) with Eve Lise Mamane

Spotify Episode Summary In this episode of Lady Party, we sit down with Agave Health co-founder Eve Lise Mamane [https://www.agavehealth.com/] to unpack why so many adults—especially women—are just now realizing they may have ADHD. For years, ADHD was narrowly defined as a childhood condition, often associated with hyperactive young boys. But today, we’re seeing a major shift—not because ADHD is suddenly more common, but because we’re finally recognizing how it actually presents in adults. From executive dysfunction to the invisible mental load of modern life, Eve breaks down what’s really going on beneath the surface. We explore the all-too-familiar feeling of knowing exactly what needs to get done… and still not being able to do it. Eve shares her personal journey, the gaps in traditional treatment models, and how Agave is rethinking ADHD care with a more practical, real-life approach focused on systems, support, and sustainable behavior change. This episode is for anyone who’s ever wondered: Is this just how I operate—or is there something more? Key Takeaways: * It’s not more ADHD—it’s better recognition. Increased diagnoses reflect a deeper understanding of how ADHD shows up, especially in adults and women. * Executive dysfunction is the missing link. ADHD isn’t about intelligence or motivation—it’s about the brain’s ability to start, prioritize, and complete tasks. * Women have been widely overlooked. Many were misdiagnosed or dismissed because their symptoms didn’t fit the traditional (male-centered) ADHD model. * Modern life amplifies symptoms. Constant distractions, multitasking, and high mental load make ADHD traits more visible—and more disruptive. * Knowing ≠ doing. One of the hallmark experiences: being fully aware of what needs to happen, but feeling unable to initiate action. * Diagnosis can be both relieving and complex. It offers clarity and validation—but can also bring up identity shifts and “what if” questions. * Traditional treatment often falls short. Medication and therapy alone aren’t always enough—people need practical systems and day-to-day support. * Support > information. People with ADHD don’t need more advice—they need structures that actually work with their brain. * ADHD exists on both neurological and behavioral levels. Understanding both helps people move from self-blame to self-awareness. * You’re not broken—you’re unsupported. With the right tools and systems, people with ADHD can function—and thrive—on their own terms.

Should Kids Specialize Early in Sports? with Sports Mindset Coach, Will Ferris

Youth sports used to mean Saturday morning games and orange slices. Now? For many families, it feels like a year-round commitment filled with travel teams, private coaching, early specialization, highlight reels, and the constant pressure to keep up. In this episode of Lady Party, we unpack why youth sports have escalated so dramatically over the last 10 years—and what parents can do to support their kids without getting stuck on the hamster wheel. Our guest is Will Ferris, a former NCAA Tournament basketball player who later competed professionally on the FIBA 3x3 World Tour with Team Los Angeles and served as a Coach & Advisor for the USA Basketball 3x3 program—an Olympic sport that is now gaining traction at the college level. Today, Will works on the mental side of athletic performance as the Associate Director of Athletic Mindset and Performance at Eastside Catholic High School, helping student-athletes build confidence, resilience, and perspective. He has also mentored athletes connected to organizations like the Seattle Seahawks, Seattle Sounders, Boise State, and Seattle University. Together we tackle the questions every sports parent is asking: • Has youth sports actually escalated—or are we imagining it? • Should kids specialize early or play multiple sports?• What actually predicts long-term athletic success?• How do parents support their kids without adding pressure? Will explains why mindset—not just talent—is often the biggest predictor of long-term success, how burnout shows up earlier than ever, and what elite development programs focus on that youth sports often miss. A major theme of the conversation is redefining what an “outcome” actually means. Many parents focus only on the immediate result—did the team win or lose? But great coaching and development are about the long game: helping kids build resilience, accountability, and a healthy relationship with competition. Growth comes from honest reflection, not blame. That means helping kids own both the good and the bad of their performance—rather than falling into the victim mindset that can come from blaming coaches, politics, or circumstances. We also talk about: • What parents should actually say after games• The biggest sideline mistake adults make• How to help kids develop confidence instead of pressure• Why joy might be the most important trait in young athletes Plus a few of Will's rapid-fire favorites: • Athlete hero: Ray Allen (Seattle Sonics legend)• Worst sideline behavior: parents coaching from the stands• Best trait in young athletes: joy You can follow Will on Instagram @ChillFerris and learn more about his coaching work at: https://www.willwellnesscoaching.com [https://www.willwellnesscoaching.com] If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing too much—or not enough—when it comes to your kid’s sports, this conversation will give you perspective, practical tools, and a healthier way to think about youth athletics.

How to Protect Your Sleep with Mass General Brigham's Dr. Sogol Javaheri

This week on Lady Party, we’re joined by @MassGeneralBrigham's Dr. Sogol Javaheri, MD, MA, MPH. She is a physician specializing in sleep and circadian rhythm disorders at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, and also an Assistant Professor at @Harvard Medical School. Because apparently “I’m just tired” isn’t a diagnosis. If you are a middle-aged woman who: * Falls asleep fine… but wakes up at 3:07am with a full board meeting happening in your brain * Thinks wine helps sleep (we regret to inform you…) * Has accepted exhaustion as a personality trait * Or hasn’t slept properly since you became a Mom This episode is for you. And consider this your permission slip to protect your sleep at all costs. Dr. Sogol Javaheri walks us through what’s actually happening in women’s bodies — especially in peri- and postmenopause — why sleep apnea often looks totally different in women, and how long it really takes to recalibrate after the baby years (brace yourself: it can take up to six years to fully get your sleep cycle back on track after raising a kiddo). Yes. Six. Years. We also get into the sleep products that are actually worth your money, the alcohol myths we need to retire, and why some over-the-counter melatonin supplements are basically the Wild West (spoiler: some have Viagra in them!) Key takeaways from this episode: * The ideal sleep temperature is typically 65–72°F — but experiment to find your personal sweet spot. * Bamboo sheets and temperature-regulating pajamas (@CozyEarth [https://cozyearth.com/] gets a strong endorsement from Dr. Javaheri), blackout curtains in the summer, humidifiers, and weighted blankets (about 10% of your body weight) can genuinely improve sleep quality. * White noise can help — but it doesn’t necessarily need to run all night. * A 10,000 lux lightbox for 10–15 minutes a day can support circadian rhythm (ideally under physician guidance). * Alcohol reduces REM sleep, fragments sleep later in the night, relaxes your airway (which can worsen snoring and sleep apnea), and is best avoided within 3 hours of bedtime. Try eliminating it for 2–3 weeks and assess how you feel. * Women often experience sleep apnea differently than men — more like insomnia, frequent waking, or waking up to pee multiple times a night. * As estrogen and progesterone decline in peri- and postmenopause, women’s risk of sleep apnea increases — eventually equaling men’s risk. * You don’t automatically need a sleep lab or a CPAP mask — home sleep tests are widely available and effective. * If you’re waking at 3am with anxiety, create “worry time” before bed: write down what’s on your mind and brainstorm next steps so your brain doesn’t process it at night. * Over-the-counter melatonin is loosely regulated. Some brands have wildly inconsistent dosing and have even been found to contain unexpected ingredients. Talk to a physician before supplementing. This conversation is science-backed, practical, validating — and occasionally humbling. Sleep is not a luxury. It’s healthcare. Tune in for a smart, funny, eye-opening conversation with Dr. Sogol Javaheri that may completely change how you think about your nights — and your mornings.

Why "I'm Fine" is Killing Your Soul with Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt

In this episode, we delve into the meaning of intimacy with Allana Pratt [https://allanapratt.com/]—and why so many smart, capable, high-functioning women still feel disconnected, anxious, or stuck in their relationships. We talk about plant medicine and psychedelics not as an escape, but as a conscious way to check in rather than check out, especially for those of us who are hypervigilant, controlling, and always “on.” Allana explains how integrated emotion actually reduces anxiety—and why your brilliant mind can only take you so far. When fear fuels the ego, drive replaces intuition, and we lose touch with what our body, heart, and soul have been trying to tell us all along. We unpack how shame drops us into fear, how the ego rushes in to protect us, and how addictions—alcohol, porn, serial first dates, people-pleasing—often mask a deeper longing for safety and nourishment. This includes redefining sex as something that is nourishing, not performative or transactional. Allana shares practical tools for reconnecting with a long-term partner, especially when you feel more like roommates than lovers. The truth? You can’t take intimacy to the next level until both partners feel seen and safe—and there are ways to build that safety. We also explore self-trust as trusting all your capacities—so you can respond instead of react. That inner safety is magnetic: it calms your nervous system, soothes your kids, and draws your partner closer. When safety comes from within rather than external validation, everything shifts. Finally, we talk about why erotic intimacy is not just good for your relationship—but for your kids. Modeling a connected partnership matters. Self-first isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Your partner can’t fill you up or fix you—you have to fill your own cup first. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, guarded, or afraid to fully be yourself in your relationship, this conversation will meet you right where you are—and show you a way forward. Instagram : ⁠https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt/] Patreon: ⁠www.patreon.com/allanapratt⁠ [http://www.patreon.com/allanapratt] Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/coachallanapratt⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/coachallanapratt] Youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPratt?sub_confirmation=1]allanapratt Website: ⁠www.AllanaPratt.com⁠ [http://www.allanapratt.com/] Free Gift: ⁠www.allanapratt.com/top5mistakes⁠ [http://www.allanapratt.com/top5mistakes] Book a Call with Allana: ⁠www.allanapratt.com/connect [http://www.allanapratt.com/connect] Foria: https://allanapratt.com/foria [https://allanapratt.com/foria]ALLANA20⁠ [http://www.allanapratt.com/connect] Use discount code: READYNOW for $400 savings!

How to Plan an International Move With Kids (What to Do First, Second, and Third)

What if you just… did it? Not forever—but for six months, a year, or longer. This episode is for anyone quietly daydreaming about a family sabbatical, an overseas home swap, or packing up and starting fresh somewhere new. Erin sits down with her friend Kelly Herkert, who moved her family—husband and two kids—to Luxembourg for what they thought would be a two-year adventure… and are now well into year three. Together, they unpack the full reality of relocating abroad as a family: the logistics no one glamorizes, the emotional whiplash that doesn’t show up on Instagram, and the unexpected ways the experience reshapes kids, marriages, and identity. They cover everything from schools, housing, healthcare, and visas to friendships, loneliness, grief for what you leave behind, and the moment you realize you don’t actually want to leave yet. This is not a “sell everything and move to Europe” fantasy episode—it’s honest, grounding, and deeply practical. If you’ve ever thought, Is this irresponsible? Are we going to mess up our kids? Could we actually do this?—this conversation is for you. Key Takeaways for Listeners * There is no perfect time—transitions matter more than timing * Kids are resilient, but adults need more support than they expect * Logistics are manageable with planning and the right local help * International schools are often designed for transition and mobility * Healthcare abroad is frequently an upgrade, not a downgrade * Loneliness is normal—and temporary—with intention and time * This kind of move builds resilience you cannot replicate at home * Don't do it if you're running away from something—only do it if you’re running toward a new experience.