S2 - Ep 2 with Gina Marie- The Heroine's Journey, Intimacy, Challenges & Play
My guest on this episode is my dear friend Gina Oades. The show notes are shared below. This conversation touched on deeply important subjects I wish the world would reflect upon! I know I needed it.
Gina's love for life and commitment to being in service of others while dancing, singing & playing all the way through.
connect with her:
instagram.com/ginadaringgreatly
Show notes:
3:25 - Origins of connection
5:05 - points of transformation - 6:15 - remembered for 7:05
7:30 - affirming groups - 9:05Â
9:05 - connection to community, connection to selfÂ
10:10 - transform challenge to triumph. Inauthenticity & ego, with humility to name it herself. 12:10
12:40 - something happens when Im not listening to the PINGS 13:55
14:00 - screams of the accident - 15:55
16:00 - people pleasing - no need to show up in the right groups’ - mirror of authenticity & trust - 18:30
18:30 - conditional worth - seen in ERÂ
19:55 what does reclaimed unconditional love look and feel like? -Â
21:15 - the polarization of the ‘people pleaser ‘ **Â
23:15 - wounding patterns - until it’s reclaimed - look at those patterns, there’s a little child inside of you. Reclaiming connection with that inner child.
25:20 - self love is loving all of your shadows - 26:10
26:20 - heroine’s journey - 27:
27:30 - **shit** -Â
29:10 - rock bottom - the end of coping
29:50 - relational rock bottom, medicine space, at the core of emotions, shame, and there, too is love.Â
33:45 - grieving few who have the opportunity to put the guards down.Â
34:30 - addressing the inner critic
36:00 - unconditional witnessing 36:40, profundity, get to work the next day! a reconnection of the highest order 37:20
37:25 - integration of transformationÂ
39:30 - life is the ceremony, integration can take a lifetime. 41:30
42:30 - psychedelics used to recharge ego when unintegrated 43:10Â
44:00 the renaissance of perception 45:10Â
45:20 - new states of habituality
45:45 - callous renters during AirBNB, property wake up call.
46:50 - window into new ways of thinking and behaving
The autobiography *** 48:30
49:50 - child autobiographyÂ
51:00 the victory human lifeÂ
53:15 -Gina dance and play
54:10 - play, pleasure, reclamation
55:45 - disempower living
56:30 - the illusory belief
When we are in play, we can Yang better. Yin fuels yang. Need balance.Â
59:00 children losing play, becoming adults
1:00:00 Canadian men’s soccer team
1:01:20 - invitation to play - 1:05:00
1:05:20 - availability to intimacy 1:08:10
1:08:00 male patriarchy
1:11:30 safe to merge and express needs in order to heal 1:13:00
1:13:00 sex is a psychedelic
1:14:00 sex as a drug
1:15:00 the phone and how it robs immersion
1:16:20 the intention
1:17:15 sex as a coping mechanismÂ
1:18:30 sex as a distractionÂ
1:19:00 - long term relationship so enmeshed
1:19:30 emotional rupture, emotional safety, emotional repair.Â
1:22:30 emotional repair
1:22:50 - therapyÂ
Get clear on my burdens and intimacy on every moment 1:25:52
1:25:55 - pleasure in yourself, distractions,,enrich life
1:26:40 - end of life play will ensue, love will ensue, connection
1:28:25 - we can have it all with layered prescriptions
1:29:30 - whole, perfect and complete shit
1:30:15 - cacophony and tangential, delayed reward
1:31:40 - outro
*This episode was recorded in March of 2023. Technical issues brought on a delay that have finally been resolved*