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EP. 37: What If the Problem Isn't Them? Stop Focusing on Everyone Else's Faults

13 min · 17. juni 2026
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Every single person I know does the same thing. They believe that they know all their loved one’s faults. Not only that, they attach meaning to all those faults. So “he’s home late” becomes “he doesn’t want to spend time with me.”  There’s always a problem, and it’s never their fault. It’s always someone else causing the issues. But what if that wasn’t true? What if this funny little habit of blaming someone else was the cause of their distance?  In this week’s episode, we’re exploring the question: what if the problem isn’t them? If your partner isn’t the problem, and the meaning you created is actually the problem, maybe you are the one causing the problems in the relationship. I’ve noticed that a few of my clients are focusing on everyone else’s faults when, really, they need to look inward to find a solution.  Tune in to this week’s episode to hear why your partner isn’t the problem and how to identify when you are actually creating the problems.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

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episode EP. 37: What If the Problem Isn't Them? Stop Focusing on Everyone Else's Faults artwork

EP. 37: What If the Problem Isn't Them? Stop Focusing on Everyone Else's Faults

Every single person I know does the same thing. They believe that they know all their loved one’s faults. Not only that, they attach meaning to all those faults. So “he’s home late” becomes “he doesn’t want to spend time with me.”  There’s always a problem, and it’s never their fault. It’s always someone else causing the issues. But what if that wasn’t true? What if this funny little habit of blaming someone else was the cause of their distance?  In this week’s episode, we’re exploring the question: what if the problem isn’t them? If your partner isn’t the problem, and the meaning you created is actually the problem, maybe you are the one causing the problems in the relationship. I’ve noticed that a few of my clients are focusing on everyone else’s faults when, really, they need to look inward to find a solution.  Tune in to this week’s episode to hear why your partner isn’t the problem and how to identify when you are actually creating the problems.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

17. juni 202613 min
episode EP. 36: What Your Resentment is Trying to Tell You artwork

EP. 36: What Your Resentment is Trying to Tell You

Resentment is a common feeling in relationships. It happens when one or both partners feel like they aren’t being appreciated by the other, and they don’t know how to fix it. That’s where I come in.  Resenting your partner doesn’t mean you have to end the relationship. I rarely see partners who resent each other break up after relationship coaching. Because resentment isn’t an emotion that automatically triggers divorce. It is, however, a catalyst for change.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what your resentment is trying to tell you. I have a couple I’ve been coaching through a season of resentment, and I thought that by sharing it, I could help more couples take the first step towards mending their relationships. This is all anonymous, of course, but I will be sharing the strategies used to help my clients identify their resentment and how they could heal their relationship.  Tune in to hear what this couple's resentment was telling them and how I coached them through this season of resentment towards a healthier version of their relationship.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/ Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

10. juni 202616 min
episode EP. 35: Why Successful, High-Achieving Women Attract Disloyal Men artwork

EP. 35: Why Successful, High-Achieving Women Attract Disloyal Men

Shakira, Beyoncé, and Megan Thee Stallion have all been publicly cheated on, and that kind of betrayal can send shockwaves out to all of womankind. These are the most beautiful, talented, successful women in their fields, and they STILL got cheated on. If they are not worthy of loyalty, who is?  That’s exactly the question I want to dissect today, specifically because it’s the wrong one. You did not make your partner cheat on you. And I’m sure you’ve heard that you have to do everything you can to keep a man, even if it means compromising your success. But not even that will save you, because your success is not the reason why men cheat.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why successful, high-achieving women attract disloyal men. I believe that is the right question we should be asking ourselves. Rather than blame the woman for the man’s behavior, we should look at what qualities disloyal men are targeting and how you can protect yourself from someone who may want to take advantage of you.  Tune in to find out what you’re doing to attract cheaters, and what you can do about it.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

3. juni 202612 min
episode EP. 34: What If You’re Not Burnt Out From Life… But From Pretending? artwork

EP. 34: What If You’re Not Burnt Out From Life… But From Pretending?

So many women have been taught to hold everything in. We are told to be palatable and keep our emotions to ourselves because it would be better for everyone else around us if we just pretended that everything was ok, even when it’s not. Screw that!  If you find yourself disconnected from your body, unable to feel joy, and can’t help but feel that something is profoundly wrong, it may be that you’re lying to yourself. You are telling yourself that everything is ok, because you were conditioned to pretend and be palatable. But that habit is eating you alive, and together, we can stop it for good.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what if you’re not burnt out from life but from pretending. Pretending that everything is ok when it's not is only going to hurt you. There’s no upside! It’s time to take control of your own emotions and your own needs today.  Tune in to hear how you can stop lying to yourself and how to safely embrace the feelings you’ve been avoiding.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

27. maj 202610 min
episode EP. 33: Dancing With Grief: Healing Through Movement, Loss & Presence with Natalie Caruncho artwork

EP. 33: Dancing With Grief: Healing Through Movement, Loss & Presence with Natalie Caruncho

Grief came very quickly for this week’s guest. Natalie’s mother was suddenly diagnosed with stage four cancer and passed away earlier than anyone would have expected her to. Natalie, as a grieving daughter, is not only holding space for this grief and healing from it, but also allowing it to create space for more compassion and more dancing in her life.     Natalie Caruncho is a Broadway performer, an associate choreographer, and a Yoga teacher, originally from Miami, FL. Currently based in Brooklyn, NY. She grew up dancing and has had the privilege of working on some beautiful stages. She currently performs on Broadway in Buena Vista Social Club and as Associate Choreographer for Moulin Rouge. Favorite performance credits include: On Your Feet (Original Broadway Company), In The Heights 1st National Tour (Ensemble; u/s Nina, Vanessa, Carla), Romeo & Juliet (Juliet), A Chorus Line (Diana Morales). Natalie is also a 700-hour registered Yoga Teacher and teaches in NYC at SkyTing. She writes a monthly essay on Substack and posts about grief and presence on IG @nataliecaruncho.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how Natalie is dancing with grief. By healing through movement, loss, and presence, Natalie has been able to continue her life while still honoring her mom. This kind of grief can rock anyone’s world, so I wanted to take a moment to explore these feelings of loss, love, and compassion with a loved one. Tune in to hear how Natalie is honoring her mom through dance and how you can keep going after a loved one has passed.  Follow Natalie on: Her Website: https://www.nataliecaruncho.com/ [https://www.nataliecaruncho.com/]   Instagram: @nataliecaruncho [https://www.instagram.com/nataliecaruncho/] The Little By Little Substack: https://nataliecaruncho.substack.com/ [https://nataliecaruncho.substack.com/]   How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

20. maj 202654 min