Ep. 51: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The Question of Desire

Ep. 52: Unhappily Married? Stop Doing These 3 Things Before It Gets Worse

Unhappy marriages don’t usually fall apart overnight. They often deteriorate through small, repeated patterns that become part of everyday life. In this episode, Kari shares three things to stop doing if you’re unhappy in your marriage: belittling or demeaning your partner, keeping score, and avoiding conversations when issues are still small. These habits may feel understandable when you’re hurt or resentful, but they quietly add fuel to the fire. They create more disconnection, more resentment, and make it harder to know whether your marriage can actually be repaired. Kari explains why stopping these patterns doesn’t magically fix everything, but it does help “stop the bleed.” Your daily life can feel calmer. Your conversations can become more productive. And whether you choose to rebuild or separate, you’ll be making decisions from a clearer place. Take the free “Should We Get a Divorce?” quiz at kahoskins.com to find out where you are in the divorce decision process. Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 51: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The Question of Desire

In the final episode of the Can This Marriage Heal? series, Kari tackles the question that keeps people up at night: If real change were possible, would you actually want to stay? This isn't a question about whether your marriage can be fixed. It's a question about whether you want it to be — and those are very different things. In this episode you'll learn: *  The difference between desire and obligation, *  Why showing up out of duty alone will quietly make things worse, not better. * What it sounds like when someone is motivated by fear versus genuine desire  * Why you can do all the right things and still end up right back where you started What it actually takes to sustain real, lasting repair. Because here's the truth: a marriage doesn't heal just because two people love each other. It heals when both people are willing to become the kind of people who can make it work. If you're somewhere between we have problems and I think I might be done — this episode will help you figure out which one is actually true. Take the free Should We Get a Divorce? quiz to find out what stage of the decision-making process you're in Takt it here: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 50: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? One Thing You Can't Ignore

Can Your Marriage Be Saved? One Thing You Can't Ignore Are you wondering if your marriage can be fixed — or if it's already too late? In this episode of the Divorce Decision Podcast, host Kari Hoskins digs into one of the most important questions you need to answer before you can even think about saving your marriage: Is there still respect between you and your spouse? You might not feel in love right now. You might not even like each other very much. But without respect, repair is almost impossible — and Kari explains exactly why. In this episode, you'll learn: ·       Why respect matters MORE than love when it comes to saving your marriage ·       7 warning signs that respect has already broken down in your relationship ·       The difference between frustration and contempt — and why it matters ·       How to know if YOU are still open to seeing your spouse differently ·       What "openness" really means (hint: it's NOT the same as forgetting or forgiving everything) This is part two of a three-part series on can your marriage be saved. If you're not ready to give up but you're not sure if there's still hope, this episode is for you. Take Kari's free quiz — Should We Get a Divorce? — at kahoskins.com Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 49: Can Your Marriage Be Saved? The First Sign Repair is Still Possible

If you're wondering whether or not your marriage can be repaired, this episode is for you.  In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins begins a 3-part series on one of the biggest questions couples face when their marriage is in crisis: Can this marriage actually heal? Part 1 focuses on ownership. When one spouse wants to repair the marriage and the other is unsure, it can be hard to know whether real change is possible. Most people say they are willing to take responsibility, but true ownership is more than saying, “I know I’m not perfect.” Real ownership means being able to name your part without defending it, be specific about how you contributed to the pattern, and understand the impact your behavior has had on your spouse and the relationship. If you’re questioning divorce, trying to decide whether to stay or leave, or wondering whether your marriage can be repaired, this episode will help you look beyond apologies and promises to see whether both people are truly willing to participate in repair. You’ll also get reflection questions to help you consider what you need to own — and what your spouse would need to own — for healing to feel possible.   Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]

Ep. 48: How to Live Together While Deciding Whether to Divorce

What do you do when divorce has been brought up or just decided on but you’re still living together? This is one of the most emotionally confusing stages of the divorce decision. You may still be sharing a bedroom, parenting together, eating dinner in the same kitchen, or managing bills and errands — but underneath all of that, the marriage feels uncertain. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I’m talking about how to live under the same roof while deciding whether to divorce. You’ll learn how to: * Set boundaries around when you talk about the marriage  * Keep normal household conversations from turning into emotional emergencies  * Create temporary living agreements around sleeping arrangements, parenting, responsibilities, and space  * Decide what to tell friends, family, and kids  * Stay kind without sending mixed messages or creating false hope  * Know when outside support may help you navigate the decision with less damage  If you’re in the painful in-between — not fully together, not fully apart — this episode will help you feel more grounded and less alone as you figure out what comes next.  Book a complimentary call: kahoskins.com   Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 [https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ [https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about] Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com [https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com/]