Making Yourself Clear

Let's Talk About Sex

🔍 Episode Summary: Sex isn’t just about sex—it’s about connection, freedom, and authenticity. In this episode, Chris and Patrick sit down with Dr. Stephen de Wit, a leading sexologist and therapist who has spent over two decades helping people reclaim joy and intimacy in their relationships. They explore why sex remains one of the most suppressed and misunderstood aspects of human life, and how healing in this area creates ripple effects across friendships, workplaces, and communities. With humor, candor, and expertise, Dr. de Wit breaks down the myths and taboos that keep people stuck, offering a vision of sexual empowerment that’s free from shame, guilt, and fear. This is a conversation about honesty, healing, and the kind of connection we all crave. 💡 What You’ll Learn: * Why breakthroughs in sex often spark transformations in all areas of life * The cultural baggage that keeps people disconnected from their sexuality * How to dismantle shame and create more open conversations * The role of communication in building authentic intimacy * Practical ways to reframe sex as empowerment rather than fear 🎧 Listen now and discover how talking openly about sex can transform not just your relationships, but your entire life. 👥 Let’s Connect Website: https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/ [https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h [https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h] Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268] RSS Feed: https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml [https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml] iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/ [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear] Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442 [https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/] 👥 Connect with Dr. Stephen de Wit https://drdewit.com/ [https://drdewit.com/] https://www.instagram.com/drdewit/ [https://www.instagram.com/drdewit/] stephen@drdewit.com [stephen@drdewit.com] https://sexlifeunleashed.com/ [https://sexlifeunleashed.com/]

Connection: The Art of Storytelling

🔍 Episode Summary: What do magic tricks, TEDx coaching, and effective leadership have in common? They all rely on storytelling that connects. In this episode, Chris and Patrick are joined by Chris Graham, founder of TellPeople.ca [http://TellPeople.ca] and former head of speaker coaching for TEDx Toronto. Together, they explore the deep power of storytelling—not just to entertain, but to foster empathy, create trust, and build stronger relationships at work and beyond. Chris Graham shares lessons from coaching thousands of professionals across law firms, government, and industry, revealing what most people get wrong about storytelling—and how to fix it. The conversation is full of practical insights, personal anecdotes, and one big reminder: your story isn’t about you. It’s about connection with your audience. 💡 What You’ll Learn: * Why storytelling is the foundation of trust and connection * How to make your stories land—without rambling * Why even smart professionals often tell bad stories (and how to fix that) * How to go beyond "narration" to evoke emotion * What magic and TEDx have in common with workplace communication * The one mindset shift that makes your stories more powerful instantly 🎧 Listen now and learn how to tell stories that stick, connect, and lead. 👥 Let’s Connect Websites: https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/ [https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/] https://www.tellpeople.ca/ [https://www.tellpeople.ca/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h [https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h] Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268] RSS Feed: https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml [https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml] iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/ [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear] Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442 [https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-graham-tellpeople/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-graham-tellpeople/]

Real Talk About Self Talk

🔍 Episode Summary: Ever notice how your inner critic can be a real jerk? In this punchy, thought-provoking episode, Chris and Patrick tackle the invisible commentary running through your mind—your self-talk. They call out the ridiculous, often toxic messages we give ourselves, and offer a radically simple idea: what if you stopped believing your own bullshit? With humor, empathy, and a refreshing dose of realism, they explore how negative self-talk becomes habitual, how it keeps us stuck, and what to do when that inner voice starts trash-talking. You’ll learn how to separate fact from fiction, shame from accountability, and discomfort from destruction. This isn’t about pretending everything is great—it’s about seeing things clearly, especially when it comes to how you treat yourself. 💡 What You’ll Learn: * Why your internal monologue might be full of lies * How to identify unhelpful self-talk and challenge it * Why shame isn’t a useful motivator (and what is) * How to create internal boundaries for your own voice * A practical tool for interrupting the shame spiral * The difference between true reflection and self-punishment 🎧 Listen now and start a new conversation—with yourself. 👥 Let’s Connect Website: https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/ [https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h [https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h] Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268] RSS Feed: https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml [https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml] iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/ [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear] Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442 [https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442]

The Power of Questions

🔍 Episode Summary: What if the secret to being a great conversationalist wasn’t about having the right answers—but about asking the right questions? In this episode, Chris and Patrick explore how powerful questions shape connection, curiosity, and conversation. Whether you're introverted, unsure what to say next, or just want to get better at dialogue, they offer one universal tool that works across nearly every situation. From lighthearted banter to moments that stop you in your tracks, they unpack why the best communicators are often the best question-askers. And no, you don’t need to be extroverted or performative—you just need to be curious. 💡 What You’ll Learn: * Why asking great questions is more powerful than having great answers * How to keep a conversation going—even when you feel awkward or stuck * What makes a question meaningful, memorable, and connective * How to shift the spotlight to the other person (in a good way) * Why a well-placed question can build trust faster than a great story 👥 Let’s Connect Website: https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/ [https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h [https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h] Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268] RSS Feed: https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml [https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml] iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/ [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear] Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442 [https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442]

The Hidden Scale Behind All Communication

🔍 Episode Summary: Have you ever gotten lost in the clouds of abstract language—or buried under too much detail? Welcome to the Ladder of Abstraction. In this episode, Chris and Patrick explore how this powerful concept shapes every conversation you have. Whether you're talking about a specific cow named Bessie or referring to "assets" or "conscious beings," you're moving up or down a ladder that affects how clearly you’re understood. They explain how mastering this ladder helps you hit the right level of detail for your audience, improve clarity, and avoid both oversimplification and overcomplication. With practical examples, playful metaphors, and some laughs along the way, they’ll help you recognize when to zoom in—and when to zoom out. 💡 What You’ll Learn: • What the Ladder of Abstraction is and why it matters • How to recognize when you're speaking too generally—or too specifically • How to move up or down the ladder depending on your audience • Why clarity lives in the ability to flex across levels • How to apply this concept in conversations, writing, and presentations 👥 Let’s Connect Website: https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/ [https://www.makingyourselfclear.com/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h [https://open.spotify.com/show/31PIiklfkBV3fwbCt9i20h] Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-yourself-clear/id1798973268] RSS Feed: https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml [https://media.rss.com/makingyourselfclear/feed.xml] iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/ [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-making-yourself-clear-269115710/] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b62ac464-9205-46bf-a4e8-f66a16fd61e1/making-yourself-clear] Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442 [https://castbox.fm/channel/id6491442] 🔷 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-iskander/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-wj-neary-578ba8241/]