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EP 35 - The Blindside Myth: Why 90% of Divorces Initiated by College-Educated Women

32 min · 10. juni 2026
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She sat with the realization that stunned her more than the anger itself: after a decade of sleeping in separate rooms, after years of therapy while pregnant, after directly telling him two years before she left that she wanted a divorce, her husband called himself blindsided. The word kept appearing in her inbox...message after message from women whose Instagram feeds looked like perfection while they were quietly drowning. On Mess to Millions, you'll explore why nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women, yet men claim shock. This conversation unpacks the slow accumulation that ends most marriages...not dramatic betrayal, but a thousand moments of reaching for someone who isn't there, empty promises that never change, conversations that go nowhere. You'll examine what emotional abuse looks like in a home and how children respond when they finally leave. Most critically, you'll ask what marriage was actually built for, and why women are waking up to demand something entirely different. Erica Carrico brings her signature blend of spiritual depth and unflinching honesty to this second part of a two-episode conversation. As someone who has rebuilt her entire life from zero, she understands the identity shift required to leave what feels safe and claim what feels true. This episode isn't theory, it's the lived experience of recognizing abuse, building peace after leaving it, and understanding the collective awakening happening as women remember who they actually are. Get my book Awaken Your Purpose at https://ericacarrico.com/books [https://ericacarrico.com/books] And if you're ready to build a Six Figure Soul-Aligned business, learn more about my award-winning program, Soul Business Accelerator. Your Six Figure Roadmap here: https://go.ericacarrico.com/soul-business-accelerator [https://go.ericacarrico.com/soul-business-accelerator] To learn more, visit: http://www.ericacarrico.com/ [http://www.ericacarrico.com/] Listen to more episodes on Mission Matters: http://missionmatters.com/author/Erica-Carrico/ [http://missionmatters.com/author/Erica-Carrico/]

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EP 37 - The Woman You're Comparing Yourself To: Your Permission, Not Your Competition

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episode EP 35 - The Blindside Myth: Why 90% of Divorces Initiated by College-Educated Women artwork

EP 35 - The Blindside Myth: Why 90% of Divorces Initiated by College-Educated Women

She sat with the realization that stunned her more than the anger itself: after a decade of sleeping in separate rooms, after years of therapy while pregnant, after directly telling him two years before she left that she wanted a divorce, her husband called himself blindsided. The word kept appearing in her inbox...message after message from women whose Instagram feeds looked like perfection while they were quietly drowning. On Mess to Millions, you'll explore why nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women, yet men claim shock. This conversation unpacks the slow accumulation that ends most marriages...not dramatic betrayal, but a thousand moments of reaching for someone who isn't there, empty promises that never change, conversations that go nowhere. You'll examine what emotional abuse looks like in a home and how children respond when they finally leave. Most critically, you'll ask what marriage was actually built for, and why women are waking up to demand something entirely different. Erica Carrico brings her signature blend of spiritual depth and unflinching honesty to this second part of a two-episode conversation. As someone who has rebuilt her entire life from zero, she understands the identity shift required to leave what feels safe and claim what feels true. This episode isn't theory, it's the lived experience of recognizing abuse, building peace after leaving it, and understanding the collective awakening happening as women remember who they actually are. Get my book Awaken Your Purpose at https://ericacarrico.com/books [https://ericacarrico.com/books] And if you're ready to build a Six Figure Soul-Aligned business, learn more about my award-winning program, Soul Business Accelerator. Your Six Figure Roadmap here: https://go.ericacarrico.com/soul-business-accelerator [https://go.ericacarrico.com/soul-business-accelerator] To learn more, visit: http://www.ericacarrico.com/ [http://www.ericacarrico.com/] Listen to more episodes on Mission Matters: http://missionmatters.com/author/Erica-Carrico/ [http://missionmatters.com/author/Erica-Carrico/]

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