Messy Thoughts

"Cancellation (A Messy Review)" - Messy Thoughts 31

MESSY THOUGHTS 31. This week on Messy Thoughts, BJ and LeBron are getting into the messy, complicated, and sometimes hilarious world of cancel culture. Before diving into the main topic, they kick things off with ASMR sips, a Find My Friends trail run-in, the idea of a Black queer walk/run club in Austin, San Antonio Black Pride, Caffeine Daddy, and a very necessary summer sunscreen PSA. Then LeBron’s Corner takes over with a chaotic conversation about Spirit Airlines, budget flights, James Charles, and what actually counts as being “cancelled.” From celebrity apologies and PR cleanups to past mistakes, public accountability, and who deserves a second chance, the conversation goes all over the place — in the best way. The hosts talk Kanye West, Ellen DeGeneres, Chrissy Teigen, Drag Race controversies, Sherry Pie, Phi Phi O’Hara, James Ross/Tyra Sanchez, DaBaby, Beyoncé’s privacy, Michael Jackson’s complicated legacy, and how people participate in cancel culture themselves. It’s messy, funny, uncomfortable, honest, and exactly the kind of conversation that makes you ask: who’s really cancelled, who just went quiet for four months, and who should have never opened their mouth in the first place? #GayPodcast #BlackPodcast #LGBT #MessyThoughts #CancelCulture

"Legs, Hips, and Body-Ody-Ody (Hantavirus?!?)" - Messy Thoughts 30

MESSY THOUGHTS EPISODE 30. This week on Messy Thoughts, BJ and LeBron are talking summer bodies, gay beauty standards, body image, and the complicated way confidence, attraction, and community all collide when pool party season starts creeping up. The episode starts with Whitney Houston vocals, podcast alter egos, “The Familiar” merch ideas, and BJ getting read by his grandmother over his nose ring and bald head. Then the conversation gets real as the hosts unpack what it feels like to gain weight, get attention for your body, feel invisible in gay spaces, and deal with the pressure to look a certain way for Pride, pool parties, Grindr, circuit parties, and the gay community in general. They also talk about attractiveness as social currency, whether a good body can make up for a bad face, why the “Grindr game” can destroy your self-esteem, and how hard it can be to separate wanting to feel good for yourself from wanting validation from other people. Later, LeBron brings a chaotic, disclaimer-heavy Hantavirus update, BJ reviews a THC drink that tasted like battery acid, and the episode closes with Houston parking rage, a Pflugerville police Dutch Bros drive-thru incident, and a little Austin massage parlor news for the road. #MessyThoughts #GayPodcast #BlackPodcast #ComedyPodcast #PopCulture #LGBT

"Respect Your Elders? Absolutely Not" - Messy Thoughts 29

MESSY THOUGHTS 29. Welcome back to Messy Thoughts! This week, Rihanna, Lady Gaga, stan culture, internet chaos, and “hills we’re willing to die on” all collide in one gloriously messy episode. BJ and LeBron spiral from AI-generated celebrity voices and TikTok memes into a full-blown celebration of Rihanna’s legendary hit catalog, the evolution of fan bases, and the golden age of MySpace customization. The conversation takes a deeper turn when they debate Billie Eilish’s controversial comments about eating meat and whether respecting your elders should really be unconditional. From rude club encounters with older gays to cult leaders, social media addiction, cell phones ruining society, and Ticketmaster’s bot problem, absolutely nothing is safe from discussion this week. Plus: Gaga’s “Runway,” YouTube comment wars, phone-call etiquette, Apple Watch peer pressure, and why the internet has made everyone way too comfortable in comment sections. As always, the thoughts are messy… but the bottoms are not. #MessyThoughts #BlackPodcast #GayPodcast #LGBT #PopCulture

"Y'all remember masks, protest, and 2020?" - Messy Thoughts 28

MESSY THOUGHTS 28. This week on Messy Thoughts, BJ and LeBron are taking a messy, funny, and surprisingly reflective trip back to 2020 — the year of quarantine, masks, Zoom happy hours, six-feet-apart stickers, empty Austin streets, PPP loans, unemployment chaos, cancelled birthday plans, and everybody suddenly becoming very aware of who was in their “pod.” Before the time machine really gets going, the episode kicks off with Drag Race finale thoughts, Myki Meeks' win, Nini Coco’s performance, All Stars 11 excitement, and a very important public service announcement: maybe ask people who they voted for before you hook up with them. Then the conversation turns deeper as BJ and LeBron reflect on the murder of George Floyd, the rise of Black Lives Matter protests, Blackout Tuesday, performative allyship, protest fears, and how 2020 created a rare moment where people had the time, attention, and collective outrage to actually respond. They also revisit the weird little details we’ve all half-blocked out: birthday parties alone, masks under noses, COVID tests, vaccines, work-from-home setups, looting your office supplies when the company told you to “take what you need,” Austin bars that didn’t survive the pandemic, and the strange intimacy of pandemic friend groups. To close things out, LeBron responds to a recent racist video involving a Houston police officer and delivers a pointed reminder about racism, accountability, and believing people when they show you who they are. Messy, nostalgic, political, chaotic, and deeply 2020 — this episode asks: what did we learn, what did we forget, and why does everything still feel so messy? Hosted by BJ Burgess and LeBron Huggins. Produced by Keller Davis. www.messythoughts.com [http://www.messythoughts.com] #MessyThoughts #GayPodcast #BlackPodcast #QueerVoices #Pandemic

"Coachella: Beauty & the BBC?!?!" - Messy Thoughts 27

MESSY THOUGHTS 27. BJ and LeBron are back after a little break, and they’ve got a lot to catch up on. The episode kicks off with some very Messy Thoughts energy as BJ declares that 2026 is officially “the year of the top,” which leads into a hilarious and unfiltered conversation about topping, bottoming, labels, and dating dynamics. Then the boys recap their recent trip to Treefort and Drag Fort in Boise, including their thoughts on Idaho, the festival vibe, drag kings, their live podcast experience, and how the whole trip ended up being better than expected. From there, things get even messier with a story from Hippie Hollow in Austin that turns into a conversation about boundaries, fetishization, and consent after a truly wild encounter involving a man with “I Love BBC” tattooed on his thigh. To close things out, LeBron gives a full Coachella recap — from camping and porta-potties to crowd behavior, festival fashion, standout performances, and why Karol G and Becky G delivered one of the most powerful moments of the weekend. If you love queer culture, messy stories, festival recaps, and funny, honest conversation, this episode is for you. Like, comment, and subscribe — and let us know: would you survive Hippie Hollow or Coachella camping?