You can complain, or You Can Adjust - Mary Westheimer
First of three episodes in the “Aging, According to Everyone Else” series.
What if aging isn’t the problem — but how we respond to it is?
In this conversation, Karen sits down with Mary Westheimer for a refreshingly honest and unexpectedly fun take on getting older. From ripped jeans to debunking misconceptions about “old people” , Mary brings humor and perspective to the everyday realities we don’t talk about enough.
Together, they explore what actually changes as we age — not just physically, but in how we choose to spend our energy, respond to challenges, and relate to ourselves. It’s a conversation about perspective, priorities, and the small decisions that shape how we experience life over time.
* Why negativity doesn’t help — and what to do instead
* Picking your battles: what’s worth your energy and what’s not
* Why adjusting yourself is often the only real control you have
* Complaining vs. looking for solutions — and how that choice shapes your experience
* Re-evaluating your priorities as life changes
* Mary’s open-minded take on change — including her thoughts on things like Waymo
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why does this feel harder than it used to?” or questioning what’s actually worth your time and energy now? This conversation will likely resonate.
It’s a grounded, thoughtful reminder that while we can’t control everything that changes, we do have more say in how we respond than we often think.
About Mary Westheimer
Mary never set out to write a book about aging — it started as a running list of observations, shaped over years by her own experiences and the stories of others around her.
A lifelong writer and editor, Mary has contributed to publications including Columbia Journalism Review, USA Today, and Publishers Weekly. She also co-founded BookZone, one of the earliest online bookstores, and has worked across publishing, journalism, and bookselling throughout her career.
Now based in Phoenix, Arizona, Mary continues to write, observe, and share the kinds of insights that remind people they’re not alone in what they’re experiencing — often with a sense of humor along the way.
Grab a copy of her book What Nobody Tells You About Getting Older [https://www.whatnobodytellsyou.com/book] if you want her insights into a happy senior-hood, or even just laughs.
You can connect with Mary on her website [https://www.whatnobodytellsyou.com/], Instagram @nobodytellsmary [https://www.instagram.com/nobodytellsmary], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/mary.westheimer/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@nobodytellsmary]and Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/nobodytellsmary/].
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