Mind The Gap

Mind the Gap: Episode 2 - Co-dependency and why we rescue

In this episode, Susan Guner and Kevin Martin explore the social perceptions of co-dependency and the need to rescue others from their suffering. We explore how childhood conditioning plays out in adult relationships, where compulsive patterns to sacrifice one's needs and wishes for the validation and approval of their partner result in unconscious resentment and unhappy lives. In the last part of the video we go through my most recent blog. 10 co-dependent signs Ten Co-Dependent Signs - Conjunctio [https://www.conjunctio.co.uk/ten-co-dependent-signs/] 1. The tendency to choose immature partners 2. Trouble trusting and articulating feelings 3. A constant need for external validation and approval 4. Avoiding conflict 5. Unbounded loyalty 6. Poor communication skills 7. They live vicariously through others 8. Expected reciprocity 9. Lack of boundaries 10. Can't make decisions

The Problem with therapy

In this episode, Susan and I explore the dilemmas and misconceptions of the therapeutic approach under the guise of a code of ethics. The idea that one must do no harm is an underlying guiding principle for the client and the safety of the working alliance. We explore the problems we face within our practices when approaching clients with defences, delusions and the misuse of these ethics to keep one from doing the work necessary for change. We bring our personal experiences of change and how a sense of tough love is sometimes the only thing that will break into the psychic realm of neurosis and illusion. Connect with Susan: https://www.psychedelicconversations.comwww.facebook.com/susan.guner LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-guner/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/susanguner Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/susanguner Blog: https://susanguner.medium.com/ Podcast: https://anchor.fm/susan-guner Kevin’s  contacts  Email:info@conjunctio.co.uk www.conjunctio.co.uk  http://www.facebook.com/conjunctio