No One Told Us

Rewind: In-Laws and Tricky Relationship Changes After Baby with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish ⁠⁠@drtracyd⁠⁠

Have you ever found yourself navigating a tricky situation with your in-laws? In this conversation, Rachael interviews Dr. Tracy, a psychologist and couples therapist, all about the topic of in-laws and how they can affect relationships with significant others. Dr. Tracy provides lots of tips for communication and speaking up in uncomfortable situations and how to handle challenging family dynamics with respect.  Inside this episode: * How in-law and family dynamics impact relationships * How to set and enforce healthy boundaries with in-laws and parents * The difference between requests vs. boundaries * Navigating relationship challenges as new parents * How to handle relationships with toxic family members and the option of going no contact * Help finding ways to nurture the connection with your partner * The power in trusting yourself and tuning out outside advice * And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: * Dr. Tracy’s website: ⁠https://www.drtracyd.com/⁠ [https://www.drtracyd.com/]  * Dr. Tracy’s podcast: ⁠I’m Not Your Shrink⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-not-your-shrink/id1452433255] * Dr. Tracy’s instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en]  * Dr. Tracy’s Book: ⁠I Didn’t Sign Up for This ⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/Didnt-Sign-This-Therapist-Relationships/dp/1683736621] If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit⁠ heysleepybaby.com⁠ [https://heysleepybaby.com/blog] and follow⁠ @heysleepybaby⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/] on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of⁠ Hey, Sleepy Baby⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/], and the host of this podcast. ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/noonetoldusthepodcast/] |⁠ Tiktok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachaelshepardohta] | ⁠ Website⁠ [https://www.noonetoldusthepodcast.com/]  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Rewind: Reimagining Boyhood with Ruth Whippman

What does it mean to raise boys in a world where masculinity feels impossible to get right? This week on No One Told Us, Rachael is joined by author and cultural critic Ruth Whippman to talk about her powerful new book, BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity. We’re digging deep into the unspoken challenges of parenting boys today—gendered expectations that begin before birth, the emotional isolation of boys in our culture, and the ways that patriarchy harms everyone, not just women. Ruth brings a compassionate, sharp, and often funny lens to topics like toxic masculinity, feminism, screen time, school struggles, and why our young boys are struggling so much right now. Inside this episode….. * Ruth’s own experience raising 3 boys as a feminist * Unhelpful stereotypes like “boys will be boys” and how they harm our children * Ruth’s opinion on Netflix’s show "Adolescence" and its portrayal of modern boyhood * Why today’s world is a “perfect storm” for young boys and men to be radicalized * How do we hold young men accountable without sending them into shame and shutdown? * How patriarchy harms both men and women, and Ruth’s recommendations for both #boymoms and #boydads * And what can we do—today—as parents, to change the story for our little boys? * Plus so much more! This episode is for anyone raising boys, loving boys, or trying to understand them in a culture that so often gets masculinity wrong. 💙 Mentioned in this episode: * Ruth’s Book: ⁠BoyMom:  Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity ⁠ [https://www.amazon.com/BoyMom-Reimagining-Boyhood-Impossible-Masculinity/dp/0593577639] * Ruth’s Substack: ⁠I Blame Society ⁠ [https://ruthwhippman.substack.com/] If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit⁠ heysleepybaby.com⁠ [https://heysleepybaby.com/blog] and follow⁠ @heysleepybaby⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/] on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of⁠ Hey, Sleepy Baby⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/], and the host of this podcast. ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/noonetoldusthepodcast/] |⁠ Tiktok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachaelshepardohta] | ⁠ Website⁠ [https://www.noonetoldusthepodcast.com/]  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Rewind: We Have Good Reason to Be Angry with Yara Heary

Did you feel totally unprepared for just how angry you might feel after becoming a mom? You’re not alone. In this episode, Rachael sits down with psychologist Yara Heary to unpack why anger shows up so often in early motherhood and why it’s not something to feel ashamed of. Together, they explore the identity shifts that happen postpartum, the strain on relationships, and the nervous system challenges that can leave us feeling triggered. Yara offers compassionate, practical tools to understand your anger, support yourself before it boils over, and move through motherhood with more ease and self-compassion. Inside this episode: * Why anger is a normal and valid part of postpartum life * How shifting identities and relationship changes fuel resentment * The role of expectations in couples after a baby * Tools to support your nervous system before anger escalates * What to do when you feel triggered by your kids or partner * Practicing self-compassion and connecting with your inner child * How to assume the best of our children and others around us Mentioned in this episode: * Fair Play by Eve Rodsky * Follow Yara on Instagram * Life After Birth with Yara Podcast If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com [https://heysleepybaby.com/blog] and follow @heysleepybaby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/] on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/], and the host of this podcast. Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/noonetoldusthepodcast/] | Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachaelshepardohta] |  Website [https://www.noonetoldusthepodcast.com/] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Rewind: How to Fight for Your Rights at Work with Daphne Delvaux

In this episode, Rachael sits down with attorney and women’s rights advocate Daphne Delvaux to uncover what every working parent needs to know about their rights in the workplace. Known as The Mamattorney, Daphne has built her career fighting for fair treatment, equal pay, and family-friendly policies and she’s here to share the essential tools you need to advocate for yourself at work. Together, they dive into pregnancy and postpartum protections, how to navigate discrimination, and why knowing your rights is one of the most empowering things you can do as a parent. Inside this episode: * What to line up before and after announcing your pregnancy at work * How and when to share your pregnancy with your employer * Your legal rights around maternity leave, partner’s leave, and pumping accommodations * How to handle discrimination, unfair treatment, or wrongful termination * Negotiating family-friendly policies for better work-life balance * Tips for easing the transition back after maternity leave * Why knowledge is power when it comes to planning your family and your career * And so much more! Mentioned in this episode: * The Mamattorney Academy membership * Employment Rights Guide If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com [https://heysleepybaby.com/blog] and follow @heysleepybaby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/] on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/], and the host of this podcast. Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/noonetoldusthepodcast/] | Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachaelshepardohta] |  Website [https://www.noonetoldusthepodcast.com/] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Rewind: Fostering a Secure Attachment with Michelle Charriere

Rachael chats with birth-to-five mental health specialist Michelle Charriere about what it really takes to build (and repair) a secure attachment with your child. They cover the four attachment styles, why repair matters more than perfection, and how to choose childcare that supports connection...plus real talk on daycare and sleep training without the internet drama. And because they couldn’t resist, they end with a little Bravo TV fun, including Michelle’s pick for the best Housewives franchise to start with and a round of “F**k, Marry, Kill” (Bravo edition). Inside this episode: * The four attachment styles (and why secure is the goal) * How repair builds trust after ruptures * Choosing childcare that supports emotional connection * Thoughts on daycare and sleep training * What to look for in a caregiver * Bravo TV picks and guilty pleasures Mentioned in this episode: * @babiesandbrains [https://www.instagram.com/babiesandbrains] * Parenting Through Attachment Course * Childcare & Preschool Guide * New Sibling Guide If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com [https://heysleepybaby.com/blog] and follow @heysleepybaby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/] on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨ Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby [https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby/], and the host of this podcast. Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/noonetoldusthepodcast/] | Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachaelshepardohta] |  Website [https://www.noonetoldusthepodcast.com/] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]