Can I Run Away From My Life, or Should I Just Get Bangs?

Can I Run Away From My Life, or Should I Just Get Bangs?

Some weeks you're thriving, and some weeks you're dumpster diving. And unfortunately for (one of) us, we're knee deep in psychological garbage.  Today, we're talking about bird calls, travel stress, and what to do when life's got you down. We discuss being an observer vs. active participant in life, the "workout mentality" and how to apply it to making plans, the need for community, and grieving past versions of yourself.  We also get into the feeling of wanting to escape the monotony of your life, how to identify what you're running from and whether it's something you can actually avoid, and why "different" doesn't mean "bad". Plus, a fun little side chat about what to do when someone's comment gets under your skin, whether getting an apology really solves anything, and how to remove power from the words people throw at you. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Why Having Friends of Different Ages is a Gift (Friend-ly Advice Pt. 4)

Growing up, the majority of our life is spent with people of the same age - in school, in camp, in sports. It's not really until we enter the working (aka real) world  that we look around and realize...wait a minute, is my new pal someone who could be my mom? Yes, and it's probably a great thing. Today, we're talking about the unexpected benefits of befriending people of different ages. We get into how branching out with your friendships can help your own personal growth, how the perception of having older friends changes as you age, and why getting to see different perspectives from people not in your family can strengthen the bonds with those who are. We also discuss volunteering, why sharing stories and a little bit of wisdom keeps you alive, the inverse relationship between age and competition, and the importance of challenging your misconceptions about people. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Hope, Connection, & Bottles of Ranch: Life Lessons from the World Cup

We don't know about you, but stories from the World Cup have taken over our feeds, our brains, and our lives the last few weeks: the tales of Lawrence, KS, the Tartan Army, Cabo Verde's draw, the discovery of ranch dressing, and so much more. And it got us thinking...aside from the actual soccer part (like the insane offside rule which half the time doesn't even make sense when it gets called so does anyone know what it actually is), what can we learn from this global event? Today, we're sharing our biggest takeaways from the World Cup so far. We chat about how it allows us to connect with one another on a basic human level, the perspective you can get from seeing someone experience your country for the first time, and the power of kindness. We also talk about escapism, having a newfound appreciation for the things we take for granted, how pride in your country & wanting things to be better can coexist, and why maybe the stories we're all told about each other aren't really all they're cracked up to be.  About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Keeping Up with the Kids (On Social Media)

We're back this week with a listener-requested episode! Thank you to you, listener! For many millennials and Gen Z-ers (is that even what you're called?? idk), social media comes naturally. We know how to use it, what platforms are in, and we can pick up what we don't know quickly. But for the parents of us 20-&-30-something-year-old teenagers, it's not quite as easy. And when they want to befriend us online, it can feel like they're encroaching on our space - and embarrassing us while doing it. This week, we're sharing our different perspectives on navigating social media as a parent, whether our kids want us to keep up with it, and what it really means to be "cringe". We talk about why the way you engage with your parents/children on social media is contingent upon your relationship IRL (in real life), how to determine if your motivation is connection or control, and why it's normal for your kid to think everything you do is weird as they search for independence. We also discuss the impact of trying, when to set boundaries, and why we need to appreciate the corny videos our parents send us. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

"Everything Happens for a Reason", & Other Platitudes

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", "When one door closes another door opens", "You're only given the battles that you can handle": Quotes in frames at your local HomeGoods, or things you say to people when they're going through a tough time and you have no idea what else to say? (Or perhaps both)? This week we're talking about platitudes - the somewhat superficial, surface-level advice we give when we want to make someone else feel better but don't want to give it a lot of thought - and whether they are all bad or can actually be helpful. We discuss the various reasons they get used, why it can feel dismissive to be on the receiving end of one, toxic positivity & when offering platitudes can come across as selfish, and why sometimes the most effective thing you can do is say "that sucks".  We also chat about the wisdom hiding under the surface of well-known cliches, why who says it to you makes a difference, and how "sloganizing" in therapy content leads to a misunderstanding of what therapy actually is. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].