Normal but Not

#16 Is it Normal to Feel Self Care is Overwhelming?

Ever feel like self-care is just another thing on your to-do list? Or that it requires a $400 spa day you don’t have time or money for? SAME. In this episode of Normal but Not, we’re getting real about why self-care feels so damn hard—and how to make it work for you without the guilt, the pressure, or the overpriced candles. 🔥 In This Episode, We Cover: ✅ Why self-care isn’t about luxury—it’s about survival ✅ How social media has totally lied to us about what self-care should look like ✅ Real, no-cost, no-time self-care strategies that actually help ✅ Why prioritizing yourself doesn’t mean neglecting others ✅ Quick, actionable steps you can take RIGHT NOW (seriously, unclench your jaw) 📚 Related Episodes: 🎧 Guilt-Free Boundaries: The Key to Reclaiming Your Power 🎧 When You’re Running on Empty: Burnout & Recovery 🎧 Are You Being Too Nice? The Truth About People-Pleasing 💡 Ready to take self-care seriously (without the guilt)? Grab my free cheat sheet, Setting Boundaries Without Guilt, at krystalcentinello.com [https://www.krystalcentinello.com]. 📲 Let’s Connect: ✨ Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal [https://www.instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal] ✨ Website: krystalcentinello.com [https://www.krystalcentinello.com] 🔔 Next Week:Is It Normal to Feel Guilty for Putting Yourself First? Spoiler alert: You’re gonna want to hear this one. Press play, take a deep breath, and let’s make self-care simple. 💖

#15 Is It Normal to Feel Small Around Emotionally Immature Parents?

Ever felt like you had to shrink yourself to keep the peace? In this episode ofNormal but Not, I sit down with Danielle Merrill—certified sacred geometry worker, customer relations manager, yoga instructor, actress, and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to dive into the lasting impact of emotionally immature parents. We share personal stories of people-pleasing, the power of awareness in breaking these patterns, and why choosing love over fear is a game-changer. Plus, we explore sacred geometry work, the “Who Am I?” identity crisis, and the surprising role of destructive cats in our healing journeys. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling small, questioning your worth, or navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents, this episode is for you. In This Episode, We Cover: ✔️ How emotionally immature parents shape people-pleasing tendencies ✔️ The importance of awareness in healing and self-discovery ✔️ Choosing love over fear in relationships and personal growth ✔️ Sacred geometry work and how it supports inner transformation ✔️ Dealing with the “Who Am I?” identity crisis and reclaiming your power ✔️ The unexpected lessons from chaotic cats 🐱 📚Referenced Books: * Codependent No More [https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025] by Melody Beattie * How to Do the Work [https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X] by Dr. Nicole LePera * Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703] by Lindsay C. Gibson * Five Minute Journal [https://www.amazon.com/Gratitude-Journal-Affirmation-Productivity-Mindfulness/dp/B09NPVVKWR/ref=asc_df_B09NPVVKWR?mcid=fe8ac8807b9a3817add381ec0d994899&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693362923660&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=10937867757677603332&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031190&hvtargid=pla-1595539873819&th=1] 🎧Tune in and tag us with your biggest takeaways! 🔗Connect with Us: * Krystal:@completecoachingwithkrystal [https://www.instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal] |krystalcentinello.com [https://www.krystalcentinello.com] * Danielle:@dannicake8 [https://www.instagram.com/dannicake8]

Is It Normal to Feel Like You Have to Be Everything for Everyone? A Partner’s Perspective on Recovery

Description: In this special episode of Normal but Not, I’m joined by my husband to explore what it’s like to support a recovering people-pleaser in a relationship. We dive into how my people-pleasing tendencies showed up early in our relationship, the challenges that came with learning to set boundaries, and how we’ve grown together through the process. If you’ve ever felt like you have to be everything for everyone—even in your closest relationships—this episode is for you. We’ll share key turning points, practical insights for both people-pleasers and their partners, and a few humorous moments along the way. In This Episode, We Cover: ✔️ How people-pleasing affected my relationships before meeting my husband ✔️ His perspective on my growth and the challenges we faced ✔️ How to balance independence and partnership in a healthy relationship ✔️ Tips for both people-pleasers and their partners to build stronger connections 🎧 Listen now and tag me on Instagram (@completecoachingwithkrystal) with your biggest takeaway! 🔗 Take my free quiz: What Type of People-Pleaser Are You? [krystalcentinello.com/type] Next week: Is It Normal to Struggle with Self-Care? Don’t miss it!

#13 Uncomfortable with Straightforward People?

"Is It Normal to Feel Uncomfortable Around Straightforward People?" Hi, I’m Krystal, a trauma-informed coach and recovering people-pleaser, here to help you reclaim your power, find your voice, and set boundaries without guilt. Welcome to Normal but Not, the podcast where we unpack behaviors that feel “normal” but aren’t always helpful. In this episode, we’re tackling a big question: Is it normal to feel uncomfortable around straightforward people? If you’ve ever felt uneasy when someone clearly states their needs or effortlessly sets boundaries, you’re not alone. This reaction is incredibly common among people-pleasers, but it doesn’t have to define you. 1. Why Straightforward People Feel Triggering: * Insights from psychologists like Dr. Harriet Lerner and Dr. Gabor Maté on how childhood experiences shape people-pleasing behaviors. * How enmeshed or authoritarian family dynamics can make assertiveness feel risky or rebellious. 2. The Root of the Discomfort: * How early patterns of suppressing your needs to maintain harmony can clash with witnessing others prioritize themselves. * Personal anecdotes about growing up in a “don’t rock the boat” household and how that shaped my own struggles with honesty and directness. 3. How This Impacts Adulthood: * Subtle ways discomfort with straightforwardness shows up in your relationships, career, and self-talk. * Why we admire confident people but also feel triggered by them. 4. Actionable Steps to Embrace Confidence: * Tips for identifying your triggers and reframing how you perceive assertive individuals. * How to practice small, confidence-building acts of directness in your daily life. * Affirmations to combat the fear of being seen as “difficult” when stating your needs. * Join My January 25 Workshop: Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries That Transform [krystalcentinello.com/traumatotriumph]is designed to help you set boundaries without guilt and reclaim your confidence. * Take My Quiz: What Kind of People-Pleaser Are You? Discover more about your unique patterns and how to break free. * Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal [https://instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal] for daily tips and inspiration. * Resources and Workshop Sign-Up: Complete Coaching with Krystal [https://www.completecoachingwithkrystal.com].

#12 Easy to Anger Parents and People Pleasers

Episode #12 – Is It Normal to Become a People-Pleaser After Growing Up with an Angry Parent? Introduction Welcome back to Normal but Not! I’m Krystal Centinello, your trauma-informed boundaries and empowerment coach, helping recovering people-pleasers like you step into your power and authenticity. If you’ve ever spent your childhood walking on eggshells around a short-tempered parent, trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict, this episode is for you. We’ll unpack the connection between growing up with an angry parent and becoming a people-pleaser as an adult. I’ll share personal stories, research insights, and actionable steps to help you reclaim your voice and stop prioritizing others at the expense of yourself. And stick around until the end—I’ll tell you about my upcoming workshop, Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour, happening on January 25th! What You'll Learn in This Episode 1. How living with a high-temper parent leads to people-pleasing behavior. 2. Why "walking on eggshells" becomes second nature and its long-term impact on relationships. 3. Lessons from Liane Moriarty’s Apples Never Fall and how fiction mirrors real life. 4. Practical steps to break free from the cycle of hypervigilance and overgiving. Highlights * Walking on Eggshells: Learn how regulating a parent’s emotions instead of your own as a child creates unhealthy habits in adulthood. * Attachment Styles: Discover how anxious attachment develops when a parent is unpredictable or critical. * Lessons from Fiction: Explore how the Delaney siblings in Apples Never Fall adapted to their father’s temper—and how their strategies might reflect your own. * Breaking the Cycle: Actionable tools to identify family patterns, reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and challenge the fear of conflict. Resources Mentioned in This Episode * Dr. Nicole LaPera’s insights on hypervigilance. * Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forward. * Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty. Take the Next Step 🎉 Ready to stop people-pleasing and set boundaries with confidence? Join my workshop Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour on January 25th [krystalcentinello.com/traumatotriumph]. Learn how to say no without guilt and yes to yourself. Visit my website [https://www.completecoachingwithkrystal.com] or follow me on Instagram @completecoachingwithkrystal [https://www.instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal] for all the details. Stay Connected * Take my free quiz: Are You a People-Pleaser? * Follow me on Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal [https://www.instagram.com/completecoachingwithkrystal] * Explore more tools for reclaiming your power: Complete Coaching with Krystal [https://www.completecoachingwithkrystal.com] Next Week’s Episode Join me next week for Episode #13: Is It Normal to Feel Uncomfortable Around Straightforward People? If direct communication makes you squirm, we’ll explore why that might be—and how to navigate it. Thank you for tuning in to Normal but Not! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate, and review. Share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Remember, you don’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. You’ve got this!