What Am I Tolerating? | The Question That Made Modern Coaching

What Am I Ready to Let Go Of? | The Final Episode of One Question

This is the final episode of One Question. After asking many questions over the past year, I am taking my own medicine and asking the question I have been quietly sitting with for some weeks: what am I ready to let go of? The honest answer turned out to be this show. Not because it stopped being good — but because it stopped being good for me to keep doing. The energy ledger stopped balancing, and I have come to believe that fun but not worth what it costs is a perfectly grown-up reason to end something while it is still in good standing. Drawing on Annie Duke's Quit (her landmark argument that quitting is a skill, not a failure), the behavioural economics of the sunk cost fallacy, and Mary Oliver's In Blackwater Woods — which has been quietly running in my head as I made this decision. Thank you for listening. The questions don't expire. Take any of them with you.

What Makes Me Feel Warm Inside? | The Body Reading Behind a Familiar Word

Every language on earth uses the same word for the temperature of a fire and the quality of a friend. Warm. This is not a coincidence, and it is not a metaphor. It is a body fact. This week's One Question takes a quiet, tender look at the word warm — and the surprisingly precise neuroscience underneath it. Drawing on Williams and Bargh's landmark 2008 Yale study on embodied cognition (the one where holding a warm cup made participants rate a stranger as more generous), Stephen Porges' polyvagal work on co-regulation — including inter-species co-regulation, which is why a cat on your chest is doing something genuinely biological — and Mary Oliver's line about the soft animal of the body. With a small story about Lucy, my staple in the middle of the night. What makes you feel warm inside?

What Am I Tolerating? | The Question That Made Modern Coaching

This week's One Question is one of the oldest, sharpest tools in the modern coaching tradition — a question made central in the early 1990s by Thomas Leonard, who is often credited as the founder of professional coaching as a discipline. His instruction to his clients was deceptively simple: list — not five, not ten, but fifty to a hundred — of the small, medium, and large things you are tolerating in your daily life. The list is meant to feel ridiculous. That is part of the point. Drawing on Leonard's framework, Bruce McEwen's neuroscience of allostatic load (the cumulative wear-and-tear of low-grade chronic stress), the sociology of how we are trained — especially as women — to widen our window of tolerance, and a small story involving a broken cabinet hinge that I tolerated for nearly two years. What am I tolerating?

What Guilty Pleasure Do I Not Actually Feel Guilty About? | The Quiet Tax on Joy

A lighter, slightly subversive question this week. The phrase guilty pleasure is doing more work than we usually notice — it's a small linguistic apology we lodge into our sentence before mentioning anything we love that we're not "supposed" to love. This week's episode is an invitation to perform an honest audit. Of the pleasures you have been calling guilty, how many are you actually guilty about? Or have you just been paying the cultural tax out of habit? Drawing on Pierre Bourdieu's sociology of taste, Paul Bloom on the neurology of pleasure, and a personal confession involving cult documentaries, a knitting project, and a great deal of unrepentant judgment of strangers on screen.

Are You Okay? | Asking the Question We Usually Skip — for Mental Health Awareness Wee

This week marks the final day of Mental Health Awareness Week 2026 in the UK, organised by the Mental Health Foundation. The theme this year is Action — a recognition that awareness, on its own, is no longer enough. So this week's episode offers the smallest, bravest action I can think of: a single, sincere question, asked of yourself and of the people you love. The kind of question my friend Jen once asked me, on a couch in my own house, years ago — and changed my life. Drawing on Matthew Lieberman and Naomi Eisenberger's research on social pain, Stephen Porges' polyvagal work on co-regulation, and current UK statistics from the Mental Health Foundation, this episode explores why being asked sincerely matters so much — and what it takes to receive the answer when someone says no, I'm not okay. Support: 🇬🇧 UK: Samaritans, free, 24/7 — 116 123. SHOUT text service: text SHOUT to 85258. Emergency: 999 or NHS 111, option 2. 🇺🇸 US: 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988 (free, 24/7). 🌍 Anywhere else in the world: A quick online search will find the crisis line for your country.