Real Talk with Steve and Lo

Why Unforgiveness Is Destroying Your Relationship (And What the Bible Says to Do About It)

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you'll ever do in a relationship. But unforgiveness? It destroys from the inside out — slowly, silently, and completely. In Episode 3 of Real Talk with Steve & Lo, we get honest about what forgiveness REALLY is (and what it's NOT), what the Bible says about it, and how to actually walk it out — even when the hurt is deep. We cover: ✅ Why unforgiveness hurts YOU more than the person who hurt you ✅ The difference between forgiveness and trust restoration ✅ How to forgive without becoming a doormat ✅ Setting godly boundaries — because forgiveness ≠ full access ✅ What "seventy times seven" really means ✅ Why praying for the person who hurt you changes everything ✅ A practical 6-step process for walking out forgiveness Scriptures Referenced: 📖 Colossians 3:13 | Matthew 18:21-22 | Ephesians 4:32 | Matthew 6:14-15 | Romans 12:19 Whether you're married, dating, hurting, or healing — this episode is for you. 💬 Drop a comment: What's one thing about forgiveness you're still working through? 📲 Connect with us: Facebook: facebook.com/steveandlo Instagram: @therealsteveandlo YouTube: Real Talk with Steve & Lo #RealTalkWithSteveAndLo #ForgivenessPodcast #ChristianRelationships #MarriageAdvice #FaithAndLove #BiblicalForgiveness #ChristianMarriage #RelationshipGoals #HealingJourney #GodlyRelationships #ForgivenessAndHealing #ChristianCouple #MarriagePodcast #FaithPodcast #UnforgivenessHeals #ChristianPodcast #BlackChristians #FaithOverFear #RelationshipAdvice #PodcastForBelievers

Welcome to Real Talk with Steve & Lo | Faith, Love & Real Relationships

Welcome to Real Talk with Steve & Lo — where we equip believers to build strong, godly relationships with real talk and real results. We're Steve & Lomiekia "Lo" Messam, and we've been married for over 20 years. We've walked through love, loss, grief, healing, parenting, and growth together — and we're here to share what we've learned with you. This channel is for believers who want to do relationships God's way — whether you're married, dating, single, or still healing. We talk about marriage, communication, conflict, forgiveness, parenting, and the hard conversations most people avoid. No fluff. No pretending. Just honest conversations rooted in faith. 🎙️ NEW EPISODES WEEKLY 📺 Full episodes + short clips 💬 Real conversations that help you grow deeper in faith and stronger in love SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss new episodes, and join the conversation in the comments. --- 📱 CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @therealsteveandlo Facebook: facebook.com/steveandlo --- #RealTalkWithSteveAndLo #ChristianMarriage #FaithBasedRelationships #BiblicalMarriage #GodlyRelationships #MarriageAdvice #ChristianCouples #RelationshipPodcast #FaithAndLove #ChristianDating #HealthyRelationships #MarriageCounseling #BlackLove #ChristianPodcast #RealTalk

Faith Over Feelings: Why Love Needs More Than Emotion

Feelings are real—but they were never meant to lead our relationships. In this episode of Real Talk with Steve & Lo, we have an honest, faith-centered conversation about why feelings-led love often fails and why faith-led love lasts. We unpack how culture defines love, how social media normalizes broken relationship patterns, and why “if it feels right” is not a biblical foundation for love. Using Scripture—including Matthew 6:24 and 1 Corinthians 13—we explore the dangers of divided devotion, the difference between covenant and convenience, and how commitment, counseling, and healing are essential when emotions change. Whether you’re married, dating, or still healing, this episode offers real talk, biblical wisdom, and practical steps to help you build relationships rooted in faith—not just feelings. 🎙️ Real Talk with Steve & Lo Real conversations. Real faith. Real results. #FaithOverFeelings #GodlyRelationships #MarriageMatters #HealthyRelationships #RealTalkWithSteveAndLo

The Lessons That Kept Us Married: 22 Years Later

Special Anniversary Edition What keeps a marriage standing after 22 years? In this special anniversary episode, Steve & Lo share the real story behind their journey—through love, loss, grief, growth, and grace. This isn’t a highlight reel or a how-to formula. It’s an honest conversation about the hard-earned lessons that kept them committed when feelings faded, seasons got heavy, and faith had to carry what emotions couldn’t. From learning how to fight for the covenant (not against each other), to walking through grief that drew them closer to God, this episode is a testimony of what it really takes to build a marriage rooted in faith. If you’re married, dating, navigating a hard season, or believing God for love that lasts—this episode is for you. Because real love takes real work. And real faith makes it possible.