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Relational Lives Podcast

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About Relational Lives Podcast

Relational Lives is a podcast hosted by psychotherapists Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham, exploring the ways we connect with others—and with ourselves. Each episode brings real stories into focus through thoughtful conversations with guests, weaving personal experiences with psychological insight. With warmth, curiosity, and professional depth, Alison and Ros make therapeutic ideas accessible, alive, and relevant to daily life. Whether you’re reflecting on your relationships, seeking to understand yourself more deeply, or simply curious about the hidden patterns that shape us all, Relational Lives offers meaningful dialogue at the intersection of story and therapy.

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56 episodes

episode 15 Small Fixes That Will Transform Your Relationship artwork

15 Small Fixes That Will Transform Your Relationship

In this episode of the Relational Lives Podcast, we explore the mechanics of lasting love and meaningful connection. Building a healthy relationship doesn't happen by accident, it requires intentionality, emotional attunement, and the courage to communicate effectively. We discuss the latest research and expert insights to help you navigate the complexities of partnership. Whether you are in a new romance or have been together for decades, you’ll learn how to identify the subtle behaviours that build trust and the "red flag" habits that can quietly damage your bond.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Nourishment 00:49 Understanding Emotional Attunement 06:09 The Importance of Acknowledgment and Apology 11:24 Balancing Togetherness and Individuality 17:15 The Role of Therapy and Joint Reflection 21:22 Identifying Relationship Killers 27:28 Takeaway Tips for Relationship Growth _____________________________________________________________________________ ⭐Keywords Relationships | Emotional Attunement | Communication | Relationship Health | Conflict Resolution | Gottman | Couple Therapy | _____________________________________________________________________________ 📍 Resources & Credits The Gottman Four Horsemen | Gottman Institute [https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/] Stan Tatkin: In Each Other's Care: https://amzn.eu/d/01KIKLAO   ___________________________________________________________________________ ✨ Join the Relational Lives Community Are you navigating the complexities of trauma-informed healing or looking to deepen your connection through attachment-based insights? We want to hear your story! 🎙️ Be Our Guest Have you and your partner experienced a transformation through couples therapy? Whether it was Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), trauma-informed coaching, or attachment repair, we’d love to have you share your journey as guests on the show. * Email us: relationalives@gmail.com [relationalives@gmail.com] * Share Anonymously: Fill out our form here [https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT]: https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT 💡 Suggest a Topic What relationship hurdles should we tackle next? From anxious-avoidant traps to nervous system regulation in marriage, let us know what you want to learn about. _____________________________________________________________________________ 🔗 Connect with Us Stay updated on the latest episodes regarding mental health, trauma recovery, and secure attachment: * Instagram: @relational_lives [https://www.instagram.com/relational_lives] * Facebook: Relational Lives [https://www.facebook.com/relationallives/] * TikTok: @relational_lives [https://www.tiktok.com/@relational_lives] * LinkedIn: Tempo Psychotherapy Services [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tempo-psychotherapy-services-33a00318/] 📺 Explore More Loving the show? Subscribe to stay informed on trauma, attachment theory, and relational wellness. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Perfect for: Anyone interested in EFT couples therapy, attachment styles, CPTSD recovery, and building healthier, more resilient connections. _____________________________________________________________________________ Hosts: Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham at www.mytempo.co.uk [http://www.mytempo.co.uk/] Music: Stile Tree Studio ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and self-reflection purposes only and is not a replacement for professional medical advice or personal therapy. If you are seeking individualised support for trauma or relationship distress, please reach out to a professional in your area.

21 May 2026 - 31 min
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Loving Someone With ADHD: The Partner's Experience

This episode explores the often-overlooked experience of the non-ADHD partner in relationships where ADHD is present. We unpack the emotional impact, such as feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or alone, alongside common challenges like communication breakdowns and imbalance in responsibilities. You’ll gain practical strategies for coping, improving connection, and building a more supportive, understanding relationship with an ADHD partner.   ⭐Keywords ADHD | Relationships | Non-ADHD partner | Emotional Impact |Coping Strategies |Mental Load |Communication |Diagnosis | Support | Couple Therapy |   Chapters   00:00 Understanding ADHD's Impact on Relationships 01:23 Emotional Strain on Non-ADHD Partners 09:51 Navigating Communication Challenges 14:09 Addressing Worries and Fears 17:23 The Importance of Awareness and Collaboration 20:33 Practical Tips for Non-ADHD Partners 📍 Resources & Credits Melissa Orlov: The ADHD Effect on Marriage: https://amzn.eu/d/0jk9WPM0 [https://amzn.eu/d/0jk9WPM0] Melissa Orlov: Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD: https://amzn.eu/d/0axqELHn [https://amzn.eu/d/0axqELHn] Melissa Orlov website: ADHD and Marriage | Learn to thrive in your relationship [https://www.adhdmarriage.com/]   ✨ Join the Relational Lives Community Are you navigating the complexities of trauma-informed healing or looking to deepen your connection through attachment-based insights? We want to hear your story! 🎙️ Be Our Guest Have you and your partner experienced a transformation through couples therapy? Whether it was Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), trauma-informed coaching, or attachment repair, we’d love to have you share your journey as guests on the show. * Email us: relationalives@gmail.com [relationalives@gmail.com] * Share Anonymously: Fill out our form here [https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT]: https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT 💡 Suggest a Topic What relationship hurdles should we tackle next? From anxious-avoidant traps to nervous system regulation in marriage, let us know what you want to learn about. _____________________________________________________________________________ 🔗 Connect with Us Stay updated on the latest episodes regarding mental health, trauma recovery, and secure attachment: * Instagram: @relational_lives [https://www.instagram.com/relational_lives] * Facebook: Relational Lives [https://www.facebook.com/relationallives/] * TikTok: @relational_lives [https://www.tiktok.com/@relational_lives] * LinkedIn: Tempo Psychotherapy Services [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tempo-psychotherapy-services-33a00318/] 📺 Explore More Loving the show? Subscribe to stay informed on trauma, attachment theory, and relational wellness. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Perfect for: Anyone interested in EFT couples therapy, attachment styles, CPTSD recovery, and building healthier, more resilient connections. _____________________________________________________________________________ Hosts: Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham at www.mytempo.co.uk [http://www.mytempo.co.uk/] Music: Stile Tree Studio ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and self-reflection purposes only and is not a replacement for professional medical advice or personal therapy. If you are seeking individualised support for trauma or relationship distress, please reach out to a professional in your area.

14 May 2026 - 23 min
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Is your ADHD Impacting Your Relationship? Eight Points to Reflect On

This episode explores what it’s really like to be in a relationship as a partner with ADHD, including the emotional and relational challenges that often go unseen. We unpack common ADHD traits in relationships, how they impact communication, connection, and conflict, and offer practical strategies to build self-awareness and create positive change. Ideal for anyone navigating ADHD in relationships or supporting a partner with ADHD.  Keywords: ADHD, relationships, mental health, self-awareness, support strategies    Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD in Relationships 02:51 The Emotional Landscape of ADHD Partners 03:38 Cognitive Challenges of ADHD 06:21 Impact on Sexual Dynamics 07:35 Recognizing Strengths and Contributions 09:53 Practical Tips for Positive Change   ✨ Join the Relational Lives Community Are you navigating the complexities of trauma-informed healing or looking to deepen your connection through attachment-based insights? We want to hear your story! 🎙️ Be Our Guest Have you and your partner experienced a transformation through couples therapy? Whether it was Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), trauma-informed coaching, or attachment repair, we’d love to have you share your journey as guests on the show. * Email us: relationalives@gmail.com [relationalives@gmail.com] * Share Anonymously: Fill out our form here [https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT] 💡 Suggest a Topic What relationship hurdles should we tackle next? From anxious-avoidant traps to nervous system regulation in marriage, let us know what you want to learn about. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ 🔗 Connect with Us Stay updated on the latest episodes regarding mental health, trauma recovery, and secure attachment: * Instagram: @relational_lives [https://www.instagram.com/relational_lives] * Facebook: Relational Lives [https://www.facebook.com/relationallives/] * TikTok: @relational_lives [https://www.tiktok.com/@relational_lives] * LinkedIn: Tempo Psychotherapy Services [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tempo-psychotherapy-services-33a00318/] _____________________________________________________________________________________________ 📺 Explore More Loving the show? Subscribe to stay informed on trauma, attachment theory, and relational wellness. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Perfect for: Anyone interested in EFT couples therapy, attachment styles, CPTSD recovery, and building healthier, more resilient connections. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ Hosts: Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham at www.mytempo.co.uk [http://www.mytempo.co.uk/] Music: Stile Tree Studio _____________________________________________________________________________________________ ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and self-reflection purposes only and is not a replacement for professional medical advice or personal therapy. If you are seeking individualised support for trauma or relationship distress, please reach out to a professional in your area.

7 May 2026 - 11 min
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When Relationships Are Complex: Our Clinical Focus

Most of us want to believe that when we start a relationship, we’re beginning with a clean slate. But the truth is, we all bring "uninvited guests" into our partnerships, old hurts, family patterns, and painful memories that we thought we’d left behind. In this episode, we’re opening up about a new direction for the show. We’re stepping away from general advice to focus on the messy, high-stakes reality of couples who are truly struggling. We’re talking about what happens when life gets heavy, whether that’s through broken trust, the shadow of addiction, or those deep wounds from the past that just won’t stay buried. The Realities We’re Facing We want to pull back the curtain on why we react the way we do when we’re hurt or scared. We’ll be exploring: * The "Why" Behind the Fight: Understanding how the things you went through long ago are actually driving your arguments today. * Staying in the Trenches: What it really looks like to fix a bond that feels shattered by betrayal or chronic struggle. * Changing the Script: Moving past the blame game and learning how to look inward so you can show up differently for your partner. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to New Focus on Couples Therapy 03:34 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences 06:35 Exploring Addiction in Relationships 09:17 The Role of Shame and Belonging 11:00 Building Healthier Relationships Moving Forward   ⭐Keywords Relationships | Therapy | Past Experiences | Addiction | Betrayal | Emotional Healing | Couples Therapy | Mental Health | Personal Growth ✨ Join the Relational Lives Community Are you navigating the complexities of trauma-informed healing or looking to deepen your connection through attachment-based insights? We want to hear your story! 🎙️ Be Our Guest Have you and your partner experienced a transformation through couples therapy? Whether it was Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), trauma-informed coaching, or attachment repair, we’d love to have you share your journey as guests on the show. * Email us: relationalives@gmail.com [relationalives@gmail.com] * Share Anonymously: Fill out our form here [https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT]: https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT 💡 Suggest a Topic What relationship hurdles should we tackle next? From anxious-avoidant traps to nervous system regulation in marriage, let us know what you want to learn about. 🔗 Connect with Us Stay updated on the latest episodes regarding mental health, trauma recovery, and secure attachment: * Instagram: @relational_lives [https://www.instagram.com/relational_lives] * Facebook: Relational Lives [https://www.facebook.com/relationallives/] * TikTok: @relational_lives [https://www.tiktok.com/@relational_lives] * LinkedIn: Tempo Psychotherapy Services [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tempo-psychotherapy-services-33a00318/] 📺 Explore More Loving the show? Subscribe to stay informed on trauma, attachment theory, and relational wellness. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Perfect for: Anyone interested in EFT couples therapy, attachment styles, CPTSD recovery, and building healthier, more resilient connections. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ Hosts: Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham at www.mytempo.co.uk [http://www.mytempo.co.uk/] Music: Stile Tree Studio ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and self-reflection purposes only and is not a replacement for professional medical advice or personal therapy. If you are seeking individualised support for trauma or relationship distress, please reach out to a professional in your area.

4 May 2026 - 13 min
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How ADHD Can Silently Sabotage Your Bond

Constantly nagging or feeling 'never good enough' in love? ADHD's hidden role in relationships explained—bridge the neurotypical clash now." ADHD suspicions (diagnosed or not) disrupt partnerships silently. Hosts Ali and Ros reveal therapy insights: why ADHD brains spark friction beyond "lazy" labels, and proven bridges to deeper connection. 00:00 Understanding ADHD in Relationships 01:20 The Impact of ADHD on Non-ADHD Partners 03:55 Managing Chores and Responsibilities 06:16 The Dynamics of Attention and Interest 08:58 Building Awareness and Compassion 12:06 Takeaway Tips for Couples 15:05 Resources and Future Episodes   📍 Resources mentioned: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/ [https://www.adhdmarriage.com/] Books: The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps - https://amzn.eu/d/0eqHRESO [https://amzn.eu/d/0eqHRESO] Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD - https://amzn.eu/d/0e48TJKi [https://amzn.eu/d/0e48TJKi]   ✨ We want to hear from you: Couples! If you have had couples therapy and it has transformed your relationship and you would be happy to share your experience as guests on an episode, we would love to hear from you. Suggest a Topic: What relationship hurdles should we tackle next? Do get in touch to let us know. ✨ Drop us a message: relationalives@gmail.com Or fill in anonymously: https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT [https://forms.office.com/e/qcrCkbhPiT] ✨ If this episode helped you, and you would like to contribute to production of future episodes, you can help us via this link: buymeacoffee.com/relationallives [http://buymeacoffee.com/relationallives]  Any amount is helpful to us.  ✨ Connect with us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relational_lives   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationallives/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relational_lives   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tempo-psychotherapy-services-33a00318/ ✨ All past episodes are still available — go back and revisit your favourites!   Subscribe for future episodes on trauma, attachment and more mental health topics. If you found this episode helpful, please like this video or share it with a friend! ✨ Disclaimer: Please remember, this is not meant to be a replacement for personal therapy and is for information and self-reflection only.  Please reach out to an appropriate professional in your area if you feel you need individualised help.   ✨ Credits:   Hosts: Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham at www.mytempo.co.uk   Music by: Stile Tree Studio

30 Apr 2026 - 19 min
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