Anonymous: I’ve Spent My Whole Life Thinking About What People Think of Me

Anonymous: I Know How to Show Up for Everyone. I Just Forgot to Show Up for Myself (Part 1 of 2)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2288114/fan_mail/new] In today's conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about what it looks like to be a natural helper who has spent most of her life focused outward. She is a teacher, a caregiver by nature, someone who reads a room the way most people read a book. And for a long time, that gift served her well. Until she realized it was also the thing quietly costing her the most, especially in her relationships. What begins as a conversation about dating and anxious attachment slowly unravels into something much deeper. The exhausting cycle of showing up for everyone else while slowly losing track of yourself. The way being a helper can become a way of avoiding the harder question of what you actually need. And what it really means to pick yourself first without feeling selfish for doing it. This is part one of a two part conversation. In part two, she goes even deeper into grief, self-judgment, and what it looks like to finally start extending to yourself the same grace you give everyone else. Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this? As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the situation looks different, the pattern is often the same. If you have ever poured from an empty cup, said yes when you meant no, or found yourself taking care of everyone's building but your own, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way. Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8 [https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8] The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions. www.drleelong.com Instagram: @dr.leelong TikTok: @dr.leelong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/ [https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/] Dr. Lee Long’s book: WAIT, Where Am I in This on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/WAIT-Where-Am-I-This/dp/1963366115/ref=sr_1_1?crid=O271C452UNGI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.WVYWJiR7qaP9nubSrNqSELWNpE5KaFQCY1CLp-U9uC5YFVwD41nWrqed1BaTeRUo7L3ofyOxJjT54t4dtLLi3BHE_OcFdmK_l2PPH7MMyThWdaoFdNPhlzsVgrPHDgPAx1WCxpprMyFbDNRyIm9rmQFzZve9VxXAMYPcfUhKbgLYnexkPQB_mEB7gZvk_uoc9KWQwdyD4lUlmnjaVN1PjTrz34qMKydGehn7LifSUZc.oJ5rzYuWH7EAi12hJNf5GHRFu-MRVdKqMMytX09rX24&dib_tag=se&keywords=wait+where+am+in+in+this&qid=1778871192&sprefix=wait+where+am+%2Caps%2C184&sr=8-1]

Anonymous: My Need for Control Is Really Just a Fear of Uncertainty

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2288114/fan_mail/new] In today's conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about her struggle with control and what she discovers is driving it. What starts as a conversation about morning routines and a son who moves at his own pace, slowly unravels into something much deeper: the internal alarm that fires when a plan slips, the urgency that has nothing to do with breakfast schedules, and the exhausting pattern of looking to the people around her to quiet something that lives on the inside. Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this? If you've ever snapped at someone you love and sensed it was really about something else, or felt like your peace depends on everyone else getting it together, this one is for you. Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8 [https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8] The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions. www.drleelong.com Instagram: @dr.leelong TikTok: @dr.leelong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/ [https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/]

Anonymous: I Don’t Know How to Stop Feeling Invisible in My Marriage

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2288114/fan_mail/new] In today’s conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about nearly forty-five years of feeling unheard in her marriage. What begins as a conversation about communication and frustration slowly reveals something much deeper. The exhaustion of trying to be understood by someone who may not be able to meet you where you are. The anger that builds when your needs feel dismissed. And the quiet grief of feeling unseen by the person closest to you. As the conversation unfolds, deeper questions begin to emerge. What happens when you spend years looking to other people for the care and consideration you long for? How do you stop losing yourself trying to get someone else to finally hear you? And what does it actually mean to care for yourself without becoming selfish? Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this? You will hear how learning to locate yourself emotionally, instead of focusing only on changing the people around you, can begin to shift patterns of resentment, powerlessness, and emotional disconnection. As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the circumstances are different, the patterns are often the same. If you’ve ever felt invisible in a relationship, struggled with resentment, or found yourself looking outward for the love and validation you deeply need, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way. Get Dr. Lee Long’s brand new book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8 [https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8] The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions. www.drleelong.com Instagram: @dr.leelong TikTok: @dr.leelong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/

Anonymous: I’ve Spent My Whole Life Thinking About What People Think of Me

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2288114/fan_mail/new] In today’s conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about his lifelong search for attention, approval, and validation.  From relationships and flirtation to achievement and external success, he describes the exhausting cycle of wanting to feel wanted while never fully believing the affirmation he receives. As the conversation unfolds, deeper questions begin to surface. What happens when your sense of self is shaped by what other people think of you? Why does validation never seem to last? And how do you begin to separate genuine connection from the need to be reassured that you matter? Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this? As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the situation is different, the patterns are often the same. If you’ve ever chased approval, avoided uncomfortable emotions, or felt disconnected from yourself, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way. Get Dr. Lee Long’s brand new book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8 [https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8] The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions. www.drleelong.com Instagram: @dr.leelong TikTok: @dr.leelong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/ [https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/] Dr. Lee Long’s book: WAIT, Where Am I in This on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/WAIT-Where-Am-I-This/dp/1963366115/ref=sr_1_1?crid=O271C452UNGI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.WVYWJiR7qaP9nubSrNqSELWNpE5KaFQCY1CLp-U9uC5YFVwD41nWrqed1BaTeRUo7L3ofyOxJjT54t4dtLLi3BHE_OcFdmK_l2PPH7MMyThWdaoFdNPhlzsVgrPHDgPAx1WCxpprMyFbDNRyIm9rmQFzZve9VxXAMYPcfUhKbgLYnexkPQB_mEB7gZvk_uoc9KWQwdyD4lUlmnjaVN1PjTrz34qMKydGehn7LifSUZc.oJ5rzYuWH7EAi12hJNf5GHRFu-MRVdKqMMytX09rX24&dib_tag=se&keywords=wait+where+am+in+in+this&qid=1778871192&sprefix=wait+where+am+%2Caps%2C184&sr=8-1]

Anonymous: I Want Love…So Why Do I Keep Running From It?

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2288114/fan_mail/new] This episode is different. Instead of talking about the WAIT framework, you will hear it in action through a real, unscripted conversation with an anonymous guest. This is the first of several episodes this season where Dr. Lee Long will sit down with anonymous guests and walk through real life situations they are navigating using the WAIT method in real time. Most people do not struggle with understanding concepts. They struggle with applying them in the moments that matter. What unfolds in this conversation is something many people quietly struggle with. Wanting love, connection, and a future with someone while also feeling the urge to pull away, shut down, or disappear when things start to get real. As the conversation continues, deeper patterns begin to surface. Fear of losing yourself. Fear of being too much. The internal conflict between knowing you are worthy of love and still protecting yourself from being hurt. Through it all, one question anchors the entire conversation. Where am I in this? You will hear how learning to locate yourself, what you think, feel, believe, and experience, can shift the way you show up in relationships without losing who you are. As you listen, notice what comes up for you. Not just in the story being shared, but in your own, because even if the situation is different, the patterns are often the same. The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions. www.drleelong.com Instagram: @dr.leelong TikTok: @dr.leelong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/ [https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/]