Sex & Consent

16 How to talk to men about gendered violence

POV you’re having a difficult interaction with a guy about gendered violence when you suddenly reach a fork in the road …  Do you shut the conversation down, call him an idiot and walk away – or do you engage him in a meaningful conversation that might help steer him in the right direction? Well, in our view, it depends: how close or far is he from being an ally?  In this episode, we unpack our approach to engaging different types of men about sexual, relationship and gendered violence using our own successes – and failures – as a guide. If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV ⚠️ CW: Lots of swearing, anecdotal storytelling of rape and sexual coercion, and discussion of sexual assault and intimate partner abuse ⚠️

15 Sexual coercion in relationships

We often talk about sexual consent in the dating world – but does sexual coercion happen in relationships too? Short answer: absolutely.  In this episode, Mardi and Lizzy unpack how sexual coercion can play out in healthy relationships and in abusive relationships, and the factors that often drive cis men’s decision to coerce their women partners (including patriarchal beliefs and supporting traditional gender roles). We also cover, in particular, the use of sexual coercion and assault in abusive relationships. If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV ⚠️ CW: Anecdotal storytelling of sexual coercion, discussion of sexual assault and intimate partner abuse

We're on a little break

Between moving houses, relocating interstate and months of overseas travel, we've taken a little break – and will return to recording later in the year. As always, thank you for listening to the Sex & Consent podcast. We look forward to hopping back on the mic for you soon. Love you, Mardi and Lizzy

14 Megan didn’t call it sexual assault – until #MeToo years later

Like many teenagers, Megan got drunk at a house party when she was 17. When a friend offered to help sober her up in a bedroom, he instead coerced and sexually assaulted her.  After opening up about it, Megan and her parents agreed to blame the incident on her drunkenness and the topic stayed dormant for years – until #MeToo erupted. In this episode, we unpack Megan’s reckoning with her assault, how she's overcome its impact on her life and how her parents took part in an awakening. If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV  Come say hello on Instagram and TikTok @sexandconsent

13 Lexi*’s experience was worse than just bad sex

We all have a story to tell.  In our Storytelling Mini-Series, you’ll hear everyday people’s stories of sexual consent, coercion, misogyny and patriarchy – which Mardi and Lizzy unpack together. In this episode, Lexi* shares her story of going home with someone she vibed with – only to be confronted with his slut-shaming, dismissiveness and a complete disregard for consent when they got home. Stuck at his place without a phone, she had to figure out how to keep safe. Through Lexi’s* story we explore themes of misogyny, rape culture and sexual violence. This episode discusses rape, violence and heavy themes. If listening brings anything up for you, please contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV  Subscribe to this podcast and follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexandconsent