EP #58: The F*ck It Mentality - Why One Mistake Keeps Derailing Your Health Goals.

EP #58: The F*ck It Mentality - Why One Mistake Keeps Derailing Your Health Goals.

Have you ever had one "bad" meal, missed a workout, or fallen off track with your healthy habits and thought... "F*ck it. I'll start again on Monday." If so, this episode is for you. In this episode of She Breaks the Rules, Faye and Tarryn dive into the infamous "f*ck it mentality" and why one small setback can quickly spiral into days, weeks or even months of feeling stuck. We unpack the psychology behind this common pattern, including the all-or-nothing mindset, shame spirals and decision fatigue that keep so many women trapped in the cycle of starting over. You'll learn why perfection isn't the answer, why mistakes are actually part of the process, and how to build the resilience needed to keep moving forward even when life doesn't go to plan. Because the women who create lasting change aren't the women who never make mistakes... They're the women who learn how to recover from them. In This Episode We Discuss: * What the "f*ck it mentality" really is and why it shows up * The psychological concept of the Abstinence Violation Effect * How all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck * Why guilt and shame are driving more of your behaviours than you realise * The impact of decision fatigue and mental exhaustion on your health habits * Why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress * How to stop turning one setback into a week-long spiral * The four strategies that help you break the cycle and build consistency Key Takeaways: 🔥 Remove moral labels from food and behaviours 🔥 Expect obstacles and mistakes instead of trying to avoid them 🔥 Learn to shrink the mistake rather than catastrophise it 🔥 Stay in the game! Consistency is about continuing, not being perfect Ask Yourself: "What if the real skill in health and behaviour change isn't avoiding mistakes, but learning how to keep going after you make one?" Take a moment this week to identify the situation that most commonly triggers your own "f*ck it" moment. Then ask yourself: What is my plan when that situation happens again? Because it will happen again. And that's not failure. That's life. How This Episode Breaks the Rules: Diet culture teaches women that success comes from perfect adherence, flawless discipline and never slipping up. We call bullshit. At She Breaks the Rules, we believe true health comes from learning how to navigate challenges, adapt when life gets messy and continue showing up for yourself imperfectly. Because sustainable health isn't built through perfection. It's built through resilience. Follow Us: @shebreakstherulespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/shebreakstherulespodcast/] @tarrynwilliams_coach [https://www.instagram.com/tarrynwilliams_coach/] @fayesheridan_ [https://www.instagram.com/fayesheridan_/]

EP #57: Is Your Fitness Tracker Helping You… Or Hurting You? The Pros and Cons of Wearable Health Trackers

Wearable health tech is everywhere. Oura Rings. Apple Watches. Garmin. Tempdrop. Step counts. HRV. Sleep scores. Recovery data. But here’s the real question… Is your wearable helping you make healthier choices or making you more disconnected from your body? In this episode of She Breaks The Rules, Faye and Tarryn unpack the pros and cons of wearable health trackers, when they can be genuinely useful, and when they can quietly fuel stress, anxiety, obsession, and health perfectionism. Because while data can be empowering… more data doesn’t automatically mean better health. We explore how wearables can help identify patterns around stress, sleep, movement, recovery, alcohol, and cycle health but also where they can become a crutch that overrides your own internal cues. If you’ve ever cancelled a workout because your recovery score was low… obsessed over a bad sleep score… or let your watch tell you how you feel before you’ve even checked in with your own body, this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover: * The genuine benefits of wearable health trackers * How to use health data properly (hint: trends > daily snapshots) * Why high-achieving women can become overly reliant on wearable data * The connection between wearables, stress, and health anxiety * Why sleep scores and recovery metrics aren’t always accurate * How alcohol, illness, stress, and lifestyle habits impact wearable data * Tracking your menstrual cycle: when wearables can actually be useful * The problem with outsourcing body trust to technology * Signs your wearable may be doing more harm than good * Why reconnecting with your internal cues matters The big question we want you to ask yourself: Do I use my wearable as a helpful tool… or have I handed over my power to it? Because breaking the rules in women’s health sometimes means trusting your body more than the algorithm. If this episode resonated, we’d LOVE to hear from you. Are you obsessed with your wearable? Have you ditched one completely? Or do you still find yours genuinely helpful? DM us on Instagram and share your biggest takeaway. And if you loved this episode, send it to the friend who checks her sleep score before saying good morning 💜 Follow us on instagram: @shebreakstherulespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/shebreakstherulespodcast/] @tarrynwilliams_coach [https://www.instagram.com/tarrynwilliams_coach/] @fayesheridan_ [https://www.instagram.com/fayesheridan_/]

EP #56: Did You Escape Diet Culture… Just to Get Trapped by Anti-Ageing Culture?

You survived diet culture… but have you unknowingly stepped straight into anti-ageing culture? In this episode of She Breaks the Rules, Tarryn and Faye unpack the pressure women face to constantly “fix” themselves... first through shrinking their bodies, and then through chasing youth, wrinkle free skin, and impossible beauty standards. Sparked by a quote that stopped us in our tracks: “I didn’t survive 30 years of diet culture to simply hand over the next 30 to anti-ageing culture. Our bodies aren’t our life’s project. Our project is to fill our bodies with life.” This conversation gets honest. We talk about our own experiences with body image, anti-ageing messaging, skincare, self-worth, and the subtle ways beauty culture can shape the decisions we make without us even realising. Because let’s be honest… when did ageing become something women were taught to fear? And more importantly… what are we missing while we’re busy obsessing over our appearance? This episode is an invitation to challenge the messaging, question what’s driving your choices, and redefine what health, beauty and confidence actually mean to you. In this episode, we cover: ✨ The connection between diet culture and anti-ageing culture ✨ Why body obsession often just changes form, not disappears ✨ The emotional difference between self-care vs self-fixing ✨ Botox, beauty standards, skincare and asking: what’s actually driving this choice? ✨ How health habits, nutrition, stress and internal health impact ageing far more than quick fixes ✨ The hidden cost of spending years hyper-fixated on your body ✨ What happens when you finally heal your relationship with food and appearance and the “void” that can come after ✨ Why creating joy, adventure, purpose and meaningful experiences matters more than chasing perfection ✨ The powerful question every woman should ask herself: If I stopped trying to perfect my body… what would I do with that energy instead? And a question to reflect on after this episode: What would change in your life if your body stopped being your biggest project?What memories would you create? What adventures would you say yes to? Where would your energy go? Because She Breaks the Rules isn’t about following society’s script for what women should look like. It’s about choosing your own rules. Follow us on insta @shebreakstherulespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/shebreakstherulespodcast/] Tarryn: @tarrynwilliams_coach [https://www.instagram.com/tarrynwilliams_coach/] Faye: @fayesheridan_ [https://www.instagram.com/fayesheridan_/]

EP #55: The Part of Gut Healing Nobody Talks About: How to Successfully Reintroduce Foods

Most women think the hard part of a gut protocol is the kill phase… but what if the real healing actually happens afterwards? 👀 In this episode, Faye takes us deep into the phase of gut healing that nobody talks about enough: the reintroduction phase. Because healing your gut isn’t about staying restrictive forever. It’s about rebuilding resilience, restoring diversity in the gut microbiome and learning how to work with your body instead of fearing food. Together, we unpack: * Why the kill phase is only the beginning * The biggest mistakes women make after a gut protocol * Why long-term restriction can actually create more problems * How to successfully reintroduce foods without fear * Understanding food thresholds, symptoms and body awareness * Why bloating isn’t always “bad”, it’s information * The connection between gut health, the nervous system and stress * Why some women keep repeating gut protocols without success * How food reintroduction can actually lead to more food freedom and confidence * The importance of creating a resilient gut microbiome instead of chasing perfection We also dive into: ✨ Diet culture and why restrictive phases can feel “safe” ✨ The emotional side of gut healing ✨ Learning to trust your body again ✨ The role nervous system regulation plays in digestion and healing ✨ Why curiosity is more powerful than perfection This conversation is a powerful reminder that health isn’t about rigid rules or fear-based restriction. It’s about understanding your body, building resilience and creating a sustainable way of eating and living that supports you long term 💜 Because at the end of the day, She Breaks The Rules is about challenging the all-or-nothing approach to health and helping women reconnect with their bodies with confidence, compassion and self-trust. If this episode resonated with you, make sure to share it on Instagram and tag us with your biggest takeaway ✨ Follow us: @shebreakstherulespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/shebreakstherulespodcast/] @tarrynwilliams_coach [https://www.instagram.com/tarrynwilliams_coach/] @fayesheridan_ [https://www.instagram.com/fayesheridan_/]

EP #54: The Surprising Truth About Guilt, Shame & Why You Binge Eat

You’ve probably said it before… “I feel so guilty for eating that.” But what if guilt isn’t actually the problem? And what if the real thing keeping you stuck in the binge–restrict cycle… is something much deeper? In this episode, we unpack the powerful (and often misunderstood) difference between guilt and shame and why confusing the two could be the exact reason you feel stuck in your relationship with food. Because here’s the truth… You can’t change your behaviours when you believe you are the problem. And this is something Tarryn sees every single day with her clients. Shame is the number one emotion keeping women stuck in binge eating, emotional eating and self-sabotage. Not lack of willpower. Not lack of discipline. Shame. And the moment that shame is released? Everything shifts. Behaviours change. Self-talk softens. And for many women, it’s the first time they actually feel free around food. In this episode, we cover: * The critical difference between guilt (“I did something bad”) vs shame (“I am bad”) * Why shame is one of the most damaging emotions for binge eating * How shame keeps you stuck in cycles of hiding and self sabotage * The surprising reason guilt after eating actually makes things worse * How shame shows up (even when you don’t realise it) * Why releasing shame can create instant shifts in behaviour and mindset * Practical steps to start breaking the shame cycle and moving forward A powerful question to reflect on: Where are you still using guilt or shame to try to change your body or your habits… and what might change if you replaced that with self-compassion and self-trust? How this episode breaks the rules: At She Breaks the Rules, we don’t believe you need more discipline, more restriction, or more guilt to change your body. We challenge the idea that you need to “fix” yourself to be healthy. Because real change doesn’t come from shame… it comes from understanding, compassion, and learning to trust yourself again. Loved this episode? Share it to your Instagram stories and tag us with your biggest takeaway 💜 And don’t forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow us: @shebreakstherulespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/shebreakstherulespodcast/] Tarryn: @tarrynwilliams_coach [https://www.instagram.com/tarrynwilliams_coach/] Faye: @fayesheridan_ [https://www.instagram.com/fayesheridan_/]