So What Who Cares?

036 - Developing Kids Into Emotionally Mature Adults

This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions. Today's question: "How do I help my kids develop into emotionally mature adults? How can I support them so they don't have to struggle through the process of self-healing like we did?" In this episode, we explore the deep desire many parents have to protect their children from pain and struggle. We talk about the reality that healing and self-discovery are part of the human experience—and why trying to eliminate struggle entirely may not actually serve our kids in the long run. Lora shares insights about modeling emotional maturity rather than trying to teach it through instruction, and why nervous system regulation, mindfulness, and self-awareness are best learned through what children observe in the adults around them. Jeff reflects on parenting adult children and the evolving relationship between parents and kids as they grow. We also dive into: * Why therapy is becoming more normalized in newer generations * The difference between supporting children and enabling them * Cultural expectations around independence and parenting * The role of community in raising emotionally healthy adults * Why modeling mature behavior matters more than perfect parenting * The power of apology in parent-child relationships Ultimately, we come back to a simple but challenging idea: If you want to raise emotionally mature adults, become one. Is something in you waking up and you're ready for deeper work? Step through at ⁠⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠⁠] ***We are now on Patreon!*** Support us at ⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoWhatWhoCares] and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon! Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who Cares Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mail.sowhatwhocares@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sowhatwhocarespodcast/] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571794263215] TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast ] #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #parenting #emotionalintelligence #mindfulness #selfhealing #personalgrowth #mentalhealth #familyrelationships

035 - Meditation: Mind Body Practice for When The Anxiety Signal is Too High

In this episode, we offer a guided mind-body practice for designed for moments when the anxiety signal feels too high to manage. It's not about forcing calm or "fixing" anxiety. Instead, this gently engages imagination, sensation, and awareness to help the nervous system shift out of overwhelm and back toward regulation. This is great for all ages! When to Use This Practice - When anxiety feels intense and overwhelming - When grounding techniques feel inaccessible - When the body needs support before the mind can settle - A short reset during the day or before sleep ***We are now on Patreon!*** Support us at ⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoWhatWhoCares] and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon! Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/] If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/tulum-retreat-2026] Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who Cares Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mail.sowhatwhocares@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sowhatwhocarespodcast/] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571794263215] TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast ] #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #anxiety #meditation #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #healing

034 - Men Who Don't Do "Woo Woo"

***We are now on Patreon!*** Support us at ⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoWhatWhoCares] and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon! This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions. Today's question:"How do you teach nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to men who don't do 'woo woo?' How do you teach this stuff to guys who don't even know they're anxious?"In this episode, we explore teaching nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to people - not just men - as this work is not gender specific. We discuss the misinterpretation of 'Woo Woo' and how that does not translate into the emotional and nervous system work being taught here. We dive into cultural perceptions of emotional intelligence, and personal experiences with anxiety. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/] If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/tulum-retreat-2026] Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who Cares Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mail.sowhatwhocares@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sowhatwhocarespodcast/] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571794263215] TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast ] #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #anxiety #nervoussystemregulation #traumatherapy #emotionalintelligence #relationalskills

033 - Trust After Betrayal

***We are now on Patreon!*** Support us at ⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoWhatWhoCares] and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon! This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions. Today's question: "I've been trying to date again after some major heartbreak, and I keep catching myself assuming people will leave me, ghost me, or betray me. What's the line between intuition and projection? Can you talk about trust after betrayal?" In our conversation this week, we explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on heartbreak, trust, and the distinction between intuition and projection. We discuss the importance of trust in oneself, healing, and emphasizing the need to understand our own patterns and behaviors in relationships. We discuss: - Heartbreak is a profound experience that often leads to self-reflection. - Trust is something that must be earned, both from others and oneself. - Rebuilding trust with oneself is crucial after experiencing betrayal. - Understanding the difference between intuition and projection can aid in navigating relationships. - Communication is key in addressing fears and assumptions in new relationships. - Self-trust is essential for making healthy choices in relationships. - Projection can often stem from past experiences and unresolved issues. - It's important to recognize when one is abandoning themselves in relationships. - Healing from heartbreak involves acknowledging and processing grief. - Practicing self-compassion is vital in the journey of recovery from emotional pain. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠loramccarville.com⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/] If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠ here.⁠ [https://www.loramccarville.com/tulum-retreat-2026] Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who Cares Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mail.sowhatwhocares@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sowhatwhocarespodcast/] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571794263215] TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast ] Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Touches 05:05 Navigating Heartbreak and Trust Issues 10:23 Understanding Projection vs. Intuition 15:45 The Complexity of New Relationships 20:45 Self-Compassion and Healing After Betrayal 26:14 The Importance of Relational Skills 31:39 Closing Thoughts and Reflections #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #heartbreak #trust #intuition #projection #relationships #selftrust #healing #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth #communication

032 - I'm Grieving My Life

***We are now on Patreon!*** Support us at Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares [https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoWhatWhoCares] and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon! This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions. Today's question: "I'm 58 years old, and I'm definitely grieving my life right now. It's like I'm slowly watching the version of life I thoughts I was supposed to have...disappear. Can you talk about identity transitions in midlife? I would love to hear your take on how to sit with that kind of grief." Our conversation this week explores themes of grief, reflection, and the importance of living in the present moment. We discuss: - Are you metabolizing the grief? - Reflecting too much can be a drag. - Living in the present... with compassion, is essential. - Emotional processing is crucial for healing. - Grief requires active engagement and reflection. - Finding peace in the present moment is vital. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at loramccarville.com [https://www.loramccarville.com/] If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information here. [https://www.loramccarville.com/tulum-retreat-2026] Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who Cares Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mail.sowhatwhocares@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sowhatwhocarespodcast/] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571794263215] TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatwhocarespodcast ] #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #grief #presentmoment #presentmomentawareness #anxiety #depression #emotionalprocessing #mindfulness #loramccarville #jeffkalasky