Speaking The Unspoken

Swallowing our Trauma Part 3

This is the final episode of 'Swallowing our Trauma', where we will continue to talk about how Trauma shows up in the black community. "Blood Trauma" is a phrase I learnt from a friend and colleague, when describing the experience of the ingenious people of Canada. Born with trauma, raised in it and live with systems that continue to retraumatize us. Trauma is not a single event for the black community, it is submerged in the framework of our society and culture. We learnt to swallow the impact racism has on us as a community, and as individuals trying to survive, and move forward. I remember working in a children's daycare back in London, England, I was having a discussion with a parent about growing up in inner-city London. She said to me something that I will always remember. "Our children have to be mentally, physically and emotionally fit in order to survive the world they live in." Raising children in this era we are always asking ourselves "are our children going to experience the trauma that we did? Listen to the episode and leave us a review of your thoughts. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist - Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. Sharon Donaldson Regional Director - Eating Disorder Services, UK.

Swallowing Our Trauma Part 2

People holding, holding their tongue, but we've got this kind of confused idea that somehow swallowing means we're safe. Our reluctance as a community to not acknowledge the harmful impact of trauma has on our bodies and our minds. The evidence is in how we prioritize health and wellness, also the way we used addition to cope with swallowing our trauma. We normalized the over-sexualization of our community. We've normalized, drinking too much. We have normalized, some of those harmful things that we still do, it's been normalized. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist - Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. Sharon Donaldson Regional Director - Eating Disorder Services, UK.

Black People Swallowing their Trauma

There is the belief that trauma is a single event or a combination of many events, In the black community, we discuss why it's on a continuum of historical, generational and daily trauma experiences in our community. Learning to swallow our trauma in order to survive or create safety. Maybe the motivation to not disrupt/ make noise about the unjust is influenced by many factors which include the need to protect and secure our need to survive in an unjust society. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs always comes to thought when discussing our Why. It's what motivates us to fulfill our basic needs of food, safety, love and self-esteem...... Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Articles to read regarding being deported. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/may/13/britain-22-years-kids-deported-jamaica-home-office-flight https://www.americanprogress.org/article/wealth-matters-black-white-wealth-gap-pandemic/ [https://www.americanprogress.org/article/wealth-matters-black-white-wealth-gap-pandemic/] Books; https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjE1ZDK6PD3AhWzHH0KHSAPD-oYABAKGgJwdg&ae=2&sig=AOD64_02KBjyKqsUADXv0Jfs4HmKrHB1rg&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwjnl4bK6PD3AhUUa80KHTjoAHIQ9aACKAB6BAgCEEA&adurl= [https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjE1ZDK6PD3AhWzHH0KHSAPD-oYABAKGgJwdg&ae=2&sig=AOD64_02KBjyKqsUADXv0Jfs4HmKrHB1rg&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwjnl4bK6PD3AhUUa80KHTjoAHIQ9aACKAB6BAgCEEA&adurl=] https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwiltJH_6PD3AhXfwsIEHed9CTcYABAUGgJwdg&ae=2&sig=AOD64_1-iGlTi4TH2207YyMrcZcBWt_v-g&q&adurl&ved=2ahUKEwiZkIb_6PD3AhWaB80KHTflCp0Q0Qx6BAgDEAE [https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwiltJH_6PD3AhXfwsIEHed9CTcYABAUGgJwdg&ae=2&sig=AOD64_1-iGlTi4TH2207YyMrcZcBWt_v-g&q&adurl&ved=2ahUKEwiZkIb_6PD3AhWaB80KHTflCp0Q0Qx6BAgDEAE]

Hustling for Worthiness Black Women and Self love.

A raw open discussion about what drives us to hustle for our worthiness and the journey of self-love and what it actually means. Why It takes us years to be protective of ourselves and then the learning that I no longer have to give of myself, to the point of depletion to feel worthy of love and belonging. What has informed our sense of worthiness? We dive into our value, our worth and our rollercoaster journey to self-love. We begin to discuss how mainstream media is portraying Black women in a particular way. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- Eating Disorder Services, UK. Check out the link below for the list of books: To know more check out our website: https://www.theblackwomencollective.com/

Permission To Heal

Therapy is for mad people, Cheryl says before she began her personal journey with therapy, when her therapist tells her to "leave her bullshit at the door". When we talk about therapy we ask ourselves, why do black people struggle to seek it out for themselves? Is it a lack of understanding about why people seek out therapy or is it the stigma of accessing mental health services? Or is it simply that we lack the understanding of how generational trauma impacts how black people show up in the world today. There have been many great books written about how trauma impacts the body, what trauma is and how it can distort our sense of the world and influence families for generations. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Check out the link below for the list of books: To know more check out our website: https://www.theblackwomencollective.com/permission-to-heal/