Spouseology Podcast

Ep. 5 Midlife Sex, Scheduled Intimacy & Keeping the Spark Alive After 40 | Spouseology Podcast FULL EPISODE

Is scheduling sex the secret to keeping intimacy alive in a long-term marriage? In this raw, funny, and surprisingly honest episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive deep into the realities of sex, intimacy, communication, hormones, attraction, and marriage after 40. From “scheduled sex” and Viagra conversations to hormone changes, flirting in marriage, emotional connection, body changes, and keeping passion alive after decades together, this episode pulls back the curtain on topics most couples think about but rarely say out loud. Santi opens up about how planning intimacy has actually improved his marriage and sex life, while Susie shares what midlife hormonal changes and communication with her husband have taught her about relationships, vulnerability, and staying connected. Together, they discuss how long-term couples can maintain attraction, flirt with each other again, communicate openly about needs, and avoid becoming “just roommates.” This episode also explores: * Why scheduling intimacy can reduce pressure in marriage * Midlife sex and changing hormones * Viagra, libido, and sexual confidence after 40 * The importance of communication in long-term relationships * How flirting keeps attraction alive * Marriage, intimacy, and emotional connection * Menopause, vaginal dryness, and hormone conversations * The reality of balancing sex, kids, careers, and exhaustion * How couples can rediscover passion after years together * Why honesty and vulnerability strengthen relationships If you’re married, in a long-term relationship, navigating your 40s or 50s, or simply trying to keep the spark alive, this conversation is honest, relatable, hilarious, and full of insight. 🎙️ Follow Spouseology for real conversations about marriage, relationships, intimacy, communication, love, sex, parenting, personal growth, and modern partnerships. 📲 Follow the podcast on social: Instagram/TikTok/Facebook: @SpouseologyPod #MarriagePodcast #Relationships #MidlifeSex #MarriageAdvice #DatingAfterMarriage #Intimacy #LongTermRelationships #SexAfter40 #CommunicationInMarriage #Podcast #Spouseology #MarriedLife #LoveAndRelationships #SexLife #RelationshipAdvice #Hormones #Viagra #MarriageCommunication

Ep. 4 Jealousy in Marriage: Red Flag or Sign You Still Care? | Spouseology Podcast FULL EPISODE

In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive into one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships and marriage: jealousy. Is a little jealousy actually healthy in a relationship? Can it be a sign that you still care deeply about your partner? Or does jealousy eventually become toxic? Santi and Susie unpack real-life relationship stories, marriage insecurities, flirting boundaries, trust, communication, and the difference between healthy jealousy and controlling behavior. From Derek Jeter asking Susie out during her Miss USA days to awkward moments involving flirting, actors kissing on set, jealousy over exes, social media DMs, strip clubs, and emotional boundaries in marriage, this conversation goes everywhere. This episode is honest, funny, uncomfortable at times, and incredibly relatable for couples navigating long-term relationships, trust, attraction, and communication. Topics discussed in this episode: * Healthy vs toxic jealousy in marriage * Relationship insecurities and trust * Flirting while married * Boundaries in long-term relationships * Celebrity attention and jealousy * Actors kissing on set while married * Emotional intimacy and communication * Why jealousy can sometimes be a sign of love * Relationship red flags * Marriage advice for couples * Social media, DMs, and trust issues * How to maintain trust after 20+ years together Whether you’re newly dating, engaged, married for decades, or just trying to better understand relationships, this episode will definitely spark conversation. Subscribe to Spouseology for real, unfiltered conversations about marriage, relationships, communication, intimacy, parenting, trust, and modern love. Follow Spouseology: Instagram: @SpouseologyPod TikTok: @SpouseologyPod Facebook: Spouseology Pod #Marriage #Relationships #Jealousy #RelationshipAdvice #MarriagePodcast #CouplesPodcast #TrustInRelationships #Flirting #ModernMarriage #Spouseology

Ep. 3 Should married couples have separate bank accounts, or should everything be shared? | Spouseology Podcast FULL EPISODE

Should married couples have separate bank accounts, or should everything be shared? Listen now, follow Spouseology, and subscribe so you never miss an episode. In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo get real about one of the biggest pressure points in marriage: money. From joint bank accounts and financial transparency to secret credit cards, prenups, credit scores, and who handles the bills, this conversation breaks down why money can either strengthen a marriage or quietly create distance. Santi shares why he believes separate bank accounts can create a divide in marriage, while Susie opens up about how she and Matt built their financial life together from the beginning. They also talk about income imbalance, career changes, financial trust, wills, planning for the unexpected, and why uncomfortable conversations are necessary before and during marriage. This episode also touches on travel with kids, Susie’s Miss USA legacy moment, and the weekly highs and lows of married life, including support, laundry, dishwasher drama, and learning to show up better for your partner. Whether you’re married, engaged, or building something serious, this is a conversation worth having.

Ep. 2 KIDS: Dream or Disruption? | Spouseology Podcast FULL EPISODE

Do kids make a marriage stronger, harder, or just completely different?In this episode of Spouseology, Santi and Susie have an honest conversation about marriage, kids, parenting, fertility, and choosing a child-free life.Santi opens up about life with four kids, including the unexpected surprise of having a fourth child, raising twins, the pressure kids can put on a marriage, and why he believes having children does not automatically make a relationship better.Susie shares her and Matt’s decision to live child-free, the pressure couples can feel from society, and her deeply personal experience with endometriosis, fertility struggles, IVF conversations, and multiple miscarriages.This episode is not about judging anyone’s path. It’s about being honest about the different ways marriage can look.Some couples build a life with kids.Some couples build a life without kids.Both can be full, meaningful, loving, and right.In this episode, we talk about: • How having kids changes a marriage • Why children do not automatically fix or improve a relationship • Marriage with kids vs. marriage without kids • The importance of being aligned before having children • Parenting stress, freedom, finances, and identity • Fertility struggles, miscarriage, and the emotional toll of trying to conceive • Why couples need to keep dating each other after kids • The pressure society puts on people to become parents • How every marriage has its own version of “what works”Santi also shares one of his biggest pieces of marriage advice for parents: your relationship with your spouse still has to matter, even after kids.This is a real conversation about parenthood, child-free marriage, communication, resentment, love, and the choices couples make behind closed doors.Whether you have kids, want kids, are unsure about kids, are struggling with fertility, or have chosen not to become parents, this episode is for you.

Ep. 1 The Truth About Marriage (No One Talks About This) | Spouseology FULL EPISODE

What is marriage really like after 10, 15, 20+ years? In this episode of Spouseology, we break down the truth about marriage, communication, and what actually keeps relationships together.What is marriage really like behind the scenes?In this first episode of Spouseology, we get into the real side of marriage. Not the polished version. The honest one.From our college days at Endicott to two completely different life paths, we break down what long-term relationships actually look like. The highs, the struggles, the moments where things almost fell apart, and what kept us together.Susie opens up about how winning Miss USA changed her life overnight and what that did to her relationship.Santi shares what nearly 21 years of marriage has really looked like, including the seasons where divorce was on the table.This isn’t a perfect marriage story.It’s a real one.In this episode, we talk about: • How different life paths shape a relationship • The pressure of fame, distance, and everyday life • Marriage with kids vs. without kids • Why communication is the foundation of any relationship • What actually keeps a marriage together long-termNo fluff. No pretending. Just real conversations about marriage, relationships, and what it takes to make it work.If you’ve ever struggled in a relationship, questioned your marriage, or just want honest relationship advice… this episode is for you.