That’s So Intimate

38. Velleity: The Gap Between Desire and Action

We're loving this 17th‑century word: Velleity — a wish so faint it never moves toward action. We talk about how that tiny, hovering longing shows up in our lives: the dreams we tuck away (moving cities, learning a language, writing a book, mending a relationship) and the reasons why we don’t go after them — fear, timing, tenderness, the cost of grief, or simply not wanting to give something up. We riff on whether these whispers are nudges toward your dharma or soft fantasies that keep you comfortable. Sometimes a velleity is a useful filter; other times it’s a signal pointing at fear or shame or a value you’ve unconsciously chosen to protect. We get into the messy middle — the gap between longing and action — and how to tell if a desire wants to be lived, needs grieving, or could become a future promise. Practically, we explore questions that helped us: What would you do if you weren’t afraid? What would your deathbed self wish you had tried? Which small side quests are blocking your main quest? We talk timing, building capacity, pseudo-actions (the busywork that pretends to be progress), and how naming these desires can free you to choose more consciously. If this episode strikes something in you, bring it home: name your longings, sort them into ‘try now’, ‘try later’, and ‘let go’, and be gentle with the work of grieving the ones you won’t pursue.  Connect with Us: * Sarah Koch: @radintimacy [https://www.instagram.com/radintimacy] | radintimacy.com [https://www.radintimacy.com] * Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool [https://www.instagram.com/sadhanayogaschool] | sadhanayoga.com [https://www.sadhanayoga.com] * Yoga Earth & Soul: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/yoga_earth_soul/?hl=en] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586186381210] | yogaearthsoul.com [http://www.yogaearthsoul.com] * Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛

37. Get Outside: Your 30-Day Spring Aliveness Challenge

**Get Outside Challenge** Spring is here and Bryan & I want to invite you into something delightfully simple yet sooo rewarding: 20 minutes outside daily for 30 days. No pressure, no perfection — just showing up to feel the sun, breathe the air, listen to water, and notice how you shift. Whether you live near a rushing river, a small patch of grass, or just a sunny driveway, this challenge is for people who want more calm, clearer sleep, fresher focus, and gentler, real-life connection. We’ll walk you through tiny, doable prompts — go barefoot, sit by water, notice a living creature, or step outside in the rain — and give you a community to share what you discover. Expect benefits like better sleep, lowered stress, a stronger immune system, brighter mood, and sharper creativity — and maybe a surprise moment of awe when you least expect it. Come as you are. Bring a friend, your kid, or your dog. Ditch the earbuds if you can, check the daily prompts, and fully enjoy your 20 minutes outside...simple really. Kickoff is April 12th — sign up at YogaEarthSoul.com to join the challenge, grab free course access when you complete it, and be entered to win our amazing Grand Prize that includes private coaching, YES membership, and even an online 200-hour yoga training! We can’t wait to see how a month of small, outdoor practices changes your days. Connect with Us: * Sarah Koch: @radintimacy [https://www.instagram.com/radintimacy] | radintimacy.com [https://www.radintimacy.com] * Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool [https://www.instagram.com/sadhanayogaschool] | sadhanayoga.com [https://www.sadhanayoga.com] * Yoga Earth & Soul: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/yoga_earth_soul/?hl=en] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586186381210] | yogaearthsoul.com [http://yogaearthsoul.com] * Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛

36. Gratitude: Our Quiet Superpower

Hey friends — what are you grateful for? We'd love to hear from you, our beloved listeners. Even in these difficult times gratitude can be found in the small luxuries, nature's beauty, and kind gestures. In this episode Bryan and I sit by the fire and get honest about gratitude: what it really means, why it’s more than a feel-good platitude, and how it rewires our nervous systems and relationships when we practice it. We unpack gratitude as an awareness that goodness often comes from outside ourselves — think oranges, rain, farmers, and the timing that feels like a little miracle. We also talk about why gratitude can feel scary for people who are used to hustling, and how it isn’t about fake positivity: you can hold grief and gratitude at the same time. Practical stuff you can try: a one-minute nightly practice of naming three specific things you’re grateful for, a gratitude “rampage” when you feel a spark of beauty, and using gratitude language in relationships to build trust and repair. Small, specific acknowledgements make gratitude land more deeply. We also dig into the tricky parts — when gratitude feels threatening in a group that bonds over complaint, or when someone’s been wronged — and offer gentle ways to shift the pattern without dismissing real pain. Gratitude doesn’t erase the hard; it enlarges our ability to hold life’s complexity. An invitation for you: try the exercises and send us three things you’re grateful for. Subscribe, share with someone you love, and let’s keep getting intimate about the little and big gifts of life. Connect with Us: * Sarah Koch: @radintimacy [https://www.instagram.com/radintimacy] | radintimacy.com [https://www.radintimacy.com] * Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool [https://www.instagram.com/sadhanayogaschool] | sadhanayoga.com [https://www.sadhanayoga.com] * Yoga Earth & Soul: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/yoga_earth_soul/?hl=en] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586186381210] | yogaearthsoul.com [http://yogaearthsoul.com] * Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛

35. Enough: When Life Feels Like Too Much

The tension you're feeling is real. I like to call it the Enough Paradox and it is pervasive in our culture - both feeling inadequate (a question of worthiness - 'Am I enough?') and having far too much on our plate (the feeling of overwhelm - 'I've had enough!').  Can you relate? In this episode we unpack that heavy little word—enough. Is it the quiet contentment of having what we need, or the sharp stop of "I can't take another thing"? We talk about both sides: the ache of not feeling worthy that pushes us to do and buy more, and the burnout shout that finally forces us to slow down or walk away. We get honest about the messy, somatic side of overwhelm—when tears come, when your body says stop. Practical little fixes come up (touching the ground, child’s pose, getting outside, moving your body), but we also name the limits of quick fixes. Sometimes you need a nap or a walk, sometimes you need to change your life. We chat about how consumerism and performance culture sell us the idea that more stuff or constant productivity will make us enough, and how minimalism and small practices can actually free energy. There’s also so much about worthiness: when we do to be loved, we often end up overwhelmed. The repair starts with reparenting, community, and honest connection. Community matters. Stories from a men’s group and even a polar-plunge meetup show how the people you’re with change what ‘‘enough’’ looks like—supportive groups can raise your healthy enough and lower the overwhelm, while pushy norms can make you perform past your limit. Learning to say no, ask for help, and choose where to invest your energy is a skill worth practicing. We lean into the balance of doing and being: take action where it matters (that’s enough), but don’t let endless doing be your identity. If the world feels unbearably heavy, small actions—voting, calling a friend, joining a group—help you feel like you’re doing enough without trying to carry everything alone. Ultimately, the practice is simple and subtle: notice when you’re pushed past your limit, come back to your body, rewire your story about worthiness, and find people who make you feel seen and accepted. A few gentle reminders we close with: lie down in the grass, say “I am enough,” and remember that sometimes the bravest act is choosing what to let go. You are enough. You have always been enough. You will always be enough. Connect with Us: * Sarah Koch: @radintimacy [https://www.instagram.com/radintimacy] | radintimacy.com [https://www.radintimacy.com] * Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool [https://www.instagram.com/sadhanayogaschool] | sadhanayoga.com [https://www.sadhanayoga.com] * Yoga Earth & Soul: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/yoga_earth_soul/?hl=en] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586186381210] | yogaearthsoul.com [http://yogaearthsoul.com] * Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛

34. Awe: The Power of Wonder to Inspire

Join us this week for an AWEsome episode where Bryan and I lean into the wonderous emotion of awe. Awe is that whoa-feeling when something vast shows up and your whole world has to stretch to make room for it. Psychologists call it vastness + accommodation — you meet something bigger than yourself, you feel small, then you reorganize and somehow feel a bit larger for having seen it. We riff on everything that sparks that stop-in-your-tracks beauty — the ocean, a full moon, a ridiculous piece of music, your kid sledding down a forbidden hill, a tiny lichen colonizing a rock, or the first seed you ever planted. Awe can show up as goosebumps, tears, a body-shift or that little hiccup of energy you can’t explain. It’s not always sweet — awe can land in grief, outrage, or the shock of seeing human cruelty — but even that intensity wakes you up. Science says awe softens the ego, lowers stress and inflammation, boosts generosity and curiosity, and helps us feel connected. It can spark new thinking and open-hearted action. But it’s also personal — what gives me chills might be ordinary for you, and the same experience can feel different depending on where you are in your life. We talk about how to invite more of it: balance structure and flow (set an intention to see the sunrise, then actually get up for it), cultivate curiosity like a child, spend time in nature, hold space for human stories, and even explore tools like yoga philosophy or plant medicine if that’s right for you. Put yourself in the way of beauty on purpose — buy flowers, watch the moon, make a bucket list of things that will astonish you. Connect with Us: * Sarah Koch: @radintimacy [https://www.instagram.com/radintimacy] | radintimacy.com [https://www.radintimacy.com] * Bryan Russell: @sadhanayogaschool [https://www.instagram.com/sadhanayogaschool] | sadhanayoga.com [https://www.sadhanayoga.com] * Yoga Earth & Soul: @yoga_earth_soul [https://www.instagram.com/yoga_earth_soul/?hl=en] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586186381210] | Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/@YogaEarthSoul] * Suggest a topic: DM us or email podcast@radintimacy.com Subscribe & Share: If this episode moved you, subscribe wherever you listen and share it with someone who might love it too. Let’s grow this beautiful, curious, intimate community—together. 💛