The 100% Podcast

What If Your Rock Bottom Became Your Foundation?

Five years ago, Victoria Baker escaped an abusive marriage in the middle of the night with three sleeping children. Today she's the author of 8 books, founder of two thriving businesses, and proof that your worst chapter can become your strongest foundation. In this episode, Chaya sits down with Victoria Baker, who shares her raw story of surviving six years of narcissistic abuse, the midnight escape that changed everything, and how she rebuilt her life, her identity, and her capacity for love. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: - The subtle red flags of narcissistic abuse that show up from day one - Why we tell ourselves to stay and how to break through that internal voice - Practical steps for leaving when you feel trapped and financially dependent - How to rebuild your identity and dating life after abuse - Why "you don't marry what you want, you marry who you are" TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Introduction & Meet Victoria Baker 01:22 - The Day Everything Changed 04:50 - When the System Fails You 06:44 - The Midnight Escape 09:37 - Six Years of Isolation 10:53 - Red Flags From Day One 13:49 - The Love Bombing Trap 19:47 - The Lies We Tell Ourselves to Stay 22:28 - Finding the Strength to Leave 23:52 - Fighting for Custody 30:30 - The Impact on Children 31:52 - Advice for Women in Abusive Relationships 36:33 - Rebuilding Love After Abuse 39:21 - Dating Wisdom: You Marry Who You Are 44:04 - Where to Find Victoria & Closing Message CONNECT WITH VICTORIA BAKER: - Facebook: Housewife Cleaners - Facebook: Victoria Baker (Author) - Website: housecleanersnear-us.org [http://housecleanersnear-us.org] CONNECT WITH CHAYA: - Instagram: @epicloveexpert - Website: connectwithchaya.com [http://connectwithchaya.com] RESOURCES MENTIONED: - "Flowers" by Miley Cyrus - National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 - Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe! CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussions of domestic violence, child abuse, narcissistic abuse, and references to death. Listener discretion is advised.

Why Did No One Tell Me This Was Abuse?

She counted every second through the night, waiting for dawn, waiting to hear him leave the house. That was the night Carine Van Hee knew she had to get out. But when she reached for help, no one reached back. This episode will change how you see the people around you — and maybe how you see yourself. In this episode, Chaya sits down with Carine Van Hee, visual artist, abuse survivor, and author of "Is It Me? The Hidden System Behind Toxic Relationships." Together they decode the invisible patterns that keep women trapped — and the moment everything clicks into place. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR: - Why intense chemistry and "soulmate" synchronicity are often the first red flags, not signs of true love - How abusers use triangulation — turning children, friends, and community against you so no one believes your story - The most dangerous moment in an abusive relationship isn't the abuse itself — it's the moment you leave - How understanding abuse as a system (not a personal failure) can finally release the shame and start real healing TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Welcome & Meet Carine Van Hee ~01:30 - The Night Everything Changed ~04:47 - Red Flags That Start Small ~09:28 - Triangulation: Flipping the Blame ~14:32 - Trapped by a Child ~16:39 - The Soulmate Myth ~23:45 - When Pregnancy Became a Weapon ~31:01 - Why No One Believed Her ~36:47 - Leaving Is the Most Dangerous Part ~50:10 - Seeing the System, Releasing Shame ~54:30 - Go Slow: Advice for Your Next Chapter ~57:10 - The 24-Hour First Date Filter ~59:44 - Where to Find Carine & Closing CONNECT WITH CARINE VAN HEE: - Website: https://www.carinevanhee.com [https://www.carinevanhee.com] - Book — "Is It Me?": https://www.carinevanhee.com/the-book [https://www.carinevanhee.com/the-book] - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carinevanheeart/ [https://www.instagram.com/carinevanheeart/] - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CarineVanHeeArt [https://www.facebook.com/CarineVanHeeArt] - YouTube: www.youtube.com/@carinevanhee-VisualArtist [http://www.youtube.com/@carinevanhee-VisualArtist] CONNECT WITH CHAYA: - Instagram: @epicloveexpert - Free Discovery Call: connectwithchaya.com [http://connectwithchaya.com] RESOURCES MENTIONED: - "Is It Me? The Hidden System Behind Toxic Relationships" by Carine Van Hee - Brene Brown's "Marble Jar" trust framework - Chaya's 24-Hour First Date Filter - Tony Robbins — "Get to know the patterns" CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussions of domestic violence, physical assault, strangulation, child endangerment, and emotional abuse. If you or someone you know is struggling: - National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 - Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 Listener discretion is advised. If this episode moved you, please rate and review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other women find these stories.

I came back and that's when he tried to kill me with Carine Van Hee

In this powerful episode of The 100% Podcast, Chaya Garcia, The @EpicLoveExpert, sits down with guest Carine Van Hee for a deeply important conversation about toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and the signs that are often missed in the beginning. So many unhealthy relationships do not begin with obvious danger. They can begin with intense chemistry, instant connection, synchronicity, and the feeling of, “This must be my soulmate.” But sometimes, what feels like destiny can actually be the beginning of a trauma bond, emotional confusion, and a relationship that slowly disconnects you from your peace, clarity, and sense of self. Together, Chaya and Carine explore the early signs of abuse, the impact of pregnancy within a toxic relationship, the loneliness of not being understood by others, and the painful reality that many abusers maintain a positive public image while creating chaos, control, and harm behind closed doors. Carine also shares the heart behind her powerful book, Is It Me? The Hidden Systems Behind Toxic Relationships, which helps expose the invisible patterns, systems, and confusion that keep people stuck in unhealthy love. Make sure to support Carine by buying her book and checking out her beautiful art. This episode is a reminder that love should not cost you your sanity, your safety, your voice, or your soul. Key Takeaways: ✨ Toxic relationships can begin with chemistry, synchronicity, and emotional intensity. ✨ Abusers may have a positive public image while causing harm privately. ✨ Major life transitions, like pregnancy, can intensify abusive dynamics. ✨ Not everyone understands abuse, so seek guidance from knowledgeable support. ✨ Boundaries protect your peace, clarity, and self-worth. ✨ Observing behavior is more powerful than believing potential. ✨ Healthy love should bring safety, clarity, peace, and emotional stability. Because you can healing. And still, you are 100% lovable. To connect with Chaya Garcia, The Epic Love Expert, follow along on social media: https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExpert [https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExpert] https://www.facebook.com/epicloveexpert/ [https://www.facebook.com/epicloveexpert/] https://www.tiktok.com/@epicloveexpert [https://www.tiktok.com/@epicloveexpert] https://www.instagram.com/epicloveexpert/ [https://www.instagram.com/epicloveexpert/] https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpert [https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpert] Subscribe and Follow To Help Heal The World! ---------------------------------------- Ready to get clear on your love life, your patterns, and what may be keeping you from safe, healthy, aligned love? Book your free relationship audit call here: www.connectwithchaya.com [http://www.connectwithchaya.com] To book Chaya Garcia for your stage, podcast, event, women’s gathering, or transformational experience, please use the booking link: www.connectwithChaya.com [http://www.connectwithChaya.com] If this episode inspired you, please subscribe to The 100% Podcast and leave a 5-star review. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-100-podcast/id1855653894 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-100-podcast/id1855653894]

My prince-charming strangled me ft. Katie Lain

In this deeply honest and eye-opening episode of The 100% Podcast, Chaya Garcia sits down with Katie Lain, founder of Thrive Alcohol Recovery and a former high-functioning drinker who struggled with alcohol for nearly a decade. Katie shares her personal journey of using alcohol as a coping mechanism, especially within the pain and confusion of an abusive relationship. Together, Chaya and Katie explore the emotional impact of narcissistic abuse, the complicated role of family dynamics, and the powerful realization that sometimes what we call “coping” is really a sign that something deeper needs healing. Katie also introduces The Sinclair Method, a neuroscience-based, medication-assisted approach to alcohol recovery that helped her regain control without requiring total abstinence. Backed by decades of research, this method uses behavior change and an FDA-approved medication to help people unlearn alcohol addiction at the brain level. This conversation is about addiction, abuse, healing, healthy love, and hope. It is for anyone who has ever felt stuck, ashamed, confused, or afraid that they would never find their way back to themselves. Because you can be struggling. You can be healing. You can be 100% human. And still, always, 100% lovable. This conversation is raw, real, and full of hope. We talk about: ✨ Narcissistic abuse and emotional confusion ✨ Alcohol as a coping mechanism ✨ Why “high-functioning” does not mean “not struggling” ✨ The Sinclair Method and neuroscience-based recovery ✨ Healing through safe, healthy love ✨ Why shame is never the answer You are not broken. You are not hopeless. You are not too far gone. You are 100% human, 100% healing, and still 100% lovable. SOCIALS / SHOW NOTES To connect with Chaya Garcia, The Epic Love Expert, follow along at: Instagram: @epicloveexpert Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExpert/ [https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExpert/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpert [https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpert] Ready to get clear on your love life, your patterns, and what may be keeping you from safe, healthy, aligned love? Free Relationship Audit Call: www.connectwithchaya.com [http://www.connectwithchaya.com] For speaking, podcast interviews, stages, or event bookings, please use my booking link: www.connectWithChaya.com

How Low Self -Esteem Attracts The Abusers...

What happens when a lifetime of bullying convinces you something is fundamentally wrong with you? For Brooke DeBoer — life coach, author of Living the Free Life, and creator of the docuseries Fastlife — the answer was a pattern of toxic relationships that nearly destroyed her. In this deeply moving episode, Brooke takes us from death threats in high school, to an older boyfriend who threw her to the ground and left her there, to discovering she was pregnant and choosing to go through it alone. But this isn't just a story of survival — it's a story of transformation. The turning point came in a bathroom mirror at a rehearsal dinner, when Brooke finally asked herself: "Am I truly happy?" That question changed everything. Brooke and Chaya explore the mechanics of abuse — how low self-esteem becomes a magnet for toxic partners, why women try to "fix" broken men, and the difference between real reciprocity and love-bombing. They also unpack the concept of "over-functioning" as a trauma response, the radical idea that you're allowed to just be, and why a friend calling Brooke a "masterpiece" rewired her entire relationship with herself. This episode is equal parts gut-punch and permission slip. If you've ever stayed too long, tried too hard, or forgotten that you deserve to be treated like a masterpiece — press play.