The Assist Podcast

EP14: I Took The Long Way Round with Ben Coker

This episode is a powerful and honest conversation with Ben Coker, a footballer whose 18-year career was built not on hype or natural advantages, but on resilience, mindset, and persistence. As the only professional player at the time competing in the EFL while managing type 1 diabetes, Ben’s story offers a rare and refreshing perspective on what it truly takes to survive in professional football. Rather than focusing solely on achievements, the episode digs into the realities of the game: academy releases, non-league wages, working manual jobs to get by, and the mental strain of repeated setbacks. Ben speaks candidly about nearly being written off early, moving to Sweden at 18 to keep his dream alive, and slowly earning his way back into the professional leagues through hard work and consistency. A major strength of the episode is Ben’s openness around adversity. From managing diabetes daily to suffering a career-threatening ACL injury at the worst possible moment, he explains how discipline, routine, humor, and perspective helped him navigate the darkest periods of his career. His ability to separate football from his identity, lean on family support, and maintain joy in the game stands out as a defining trait. Beyond football, the episode explores life, relationships, and purpose. Ben reflects on the importance of his wife and family, the value of planning for life after football, and why having balance off the pitch can actually extend a playing career. Overall, this episode is not a fairytale success story—it’s a real one. It’s about longevity, mental toughness, and showing up every day despite uncertainty. Whether you’re a footballer, athlete, or someone facing long-term challenges, Ben Koker’s story is deeply relatable, grounding, and genuinely inspiring.

EP13: What Happens When the Dream Ends? The Truth About Life After Football - Jacob Blyth

What happens when the dream you’ve chased your entire life suddenly disappears? In this episode, we sit down for an unfiltered conversation with Jacob Blyth about football, identity, and the hidden cost of chasing success. From playing men’s non-league football at 15, earning a move to Leicester City, and training alongside Premier League winners - to injury, isolation, public scrutiny, and the darkest period of his life. This is not a story about fame or money. It’s about pressure, mental health, mistakes, and the reality that footballers - like all of us - are human beings, not robots. We talk openly about failure, alcohol, relationships, and what it really takes to rebuild when everything falls apart. A powerful, honest episode about losing purpose - and finding something more important on the other side.

EP12: Football Is What I Did, Not Who I Am - Adebayo Akinfenwa

In this episode, we sit down with Adebayo “Bayo” Akinfenwa, one of English football’s most iconic and respected figures. Across a 20-year professional career, Bayo scored over 230 goals, earned promotions with clubs including Wycombe Wanderers, AFC Wimbledon, and Northampton Town, won silverware with Swansea City, and was recently awarded the Tom Finney Award for his contribution to the EFL and the game as a whole. But this conversation goes far beyond football. Bayo opens up about authenticity, identity, resilience, and self-belief—from facing racism early in his career, to embracing being different in a sport that often demands conformity. He speaks powerfully about dressing-room dynamics, leadership, managing energy, and why football was always something he did, not who he was. We explore his transition out of the game, lessons on handling criticism and social media, the importance of self-care and rest, and his philosophy on legacy—being remembered not for achievements, but for how you made people feel. Honest, grounded, and deeply human, this episode is about owning who you are, backing it with work, and living on your terms. A must-listen for athletes, leaders, and anyone navigating identity, purpose, and life beyond labels. #lifeafterfootball #akinfenwa #growthmindset

EP11 - Breathe, Accept, Commit - With Dudley Stokes

Dudley Tal Stokes’ journey from a boy in rural Jamaica to Olympic bobsledder is a story of serendipity, resilience, and relentless work ethic. His military training equipped him with crucial skills to control fear and perform under pressure. Despite limited resources and a compressed timeline, Dudley’s instinctive feel and dedication allowed him to compete at the highest level in one of the most dangerous sports. Beyond sport, Dudley’s philosophy emphasizes the inseparability of physical and mental health, the foundational role of nutrition, sleep, and movement, and the power of authenticity and reflection in life. His approach to fear—“Breathe, Accept, Commit”—offers a practical framework for managing anxiety and uncertainty. Dudley also challenges modern trends that over-rely on technology and quick fixes, advocating instead for deep connection to human instinct, body, and spirit. His legacy transcends Olympic fame, focusing on living with purpose, courage, and resilience while inspiring others to realize their full potential. This interview is a rich exploration of human potential, mental resilience, cultural identity, and the power of authentic living, grounded in Dudley Tal Stokes’ extraordinary life and ongoing mission to help others thrive. #Dudleystokes #mensmentalhealth #lifeaftersports #inspiringstories #mentalhealthawareness #breakingthestigma

EP10: When The Penny Drops - Mason Spence on The Hidden Battle Behind Football & Gambling Addiction

In this powerful episode, former professional footballer Mason Spence shares his deeply personal story of how the highs and lows of football led him into a destructive gambling addiction. He opens up about the emotional toll of trying to prove himself, the isolation that came with constant setbacks, and how betting became his escape from every emotion — anger, happiness, loneliness, and guilt. Mason describes how addiction made him manipulative and disconnected, turning even friends and family into tools for feeding his habit. He speaks candidly about hitting rock bottom, the psychological battle of living with the “addict” inside him, and the daily work it takes to stay in recovery. Now several years clean, Mason reflects on how recovery has given him empathy, perspective, and purpose — helping others who are still trapped in the same cycle. He credits Sporting Chance for giving him the understanding and support that ultimately saved his life, and he hopes his story can help others realise they’re not alone in their struggles. #MasonSpence #gamblingaddiction #mensmentalhealth #footballpodcast #addictionrecovery #sportingchance #lifeafterfootball #inspiringstories #mentalhealthawareness #breakingthestigma