The Becoming You Podcast

The Real Reason You Feel Behind (It’s Not Time Management)

Do you constantly feel behind, even when you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing? In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest misconceptions moms carry: that feeling behind means you’re bad at time management. The truth is, most moms aren’t struggling because they’re disorganized or undisciplined, they’re struggling because they’re carrying an invisible mental and emotional load that never turns off. If you’ve ever felt like your brain is always running, even when you finally sit down to rest… this episode is for you. We talk about what mental load really is, why traditional productivity and time-management advice often misses the mark for moms, and how invisible labor and emotional responsibility contribute to chronic overwhelm. Most importantly, we unpack why feeling behind does not mean you’re failing, and how to release that belief with compassion. This episode isn’t about doing more or fixing your life overnight. It’s about understanding what you’re carrying, why it feels so heavy, and learning how to reduce mental load in a way that fits real life. You’ll also learn a simple, practical reset you can implement today to help quiet the mental noise, externalize what you’re holding in your head, and begin creating relief without adding more to your plate. If you’re tired of feeling like you can’t keep up, and ready for a more supportive, realistic approach, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.   In This Episode, We Cover: * Why feeling “behind” has very little to do with time management * What mental load actually is (and why it’s so exhausting for moms) * Invisible labor and emotional overwhelm no one talks about * Why rest doesn’t feel restful when your mind won’t shut off * How shame and self-blame add to burnout * A simple, actionable way to reduce mental load starting today * How to reframe the belief that you’re failing with compassion * Why carrying less, not doing more, is the real solution   Chapters: 00:00:00     Introduction and Welcome 00:03:00     The Feeling of Falling Behind 00:09:00     Understanding Mental Load 00:15:00     Practical Steps to Manage Load 00:21:00     Changing Your Relationship with Pressure 00:27:00     Conclusion and Encouragement   Next Steps If this episode resonated with you: * Share it with someone who might need this reminder * Follow the podcast so you don’t miss upcoming conversations * And if you’re looking for a supportive space where these topics continue, you’re always welcome inside my free community/collective (linked below)   Connect with Lisa: Instagram →   / thelisaannecoaching [https://www.instagram.com/thelisaannecoaching/] TikTok →   / thelisahardie   [https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisahardie] YouTube →  Watch our Podcast Here! [https://www.youtube.com/@thebecomingyoupodcastca] Join The Joyful Mom Collective → Join the Collective Here! [https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about] Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → www.lisahardiecoaching.com [http://www.lisaannecoaching.com]

Habits vs. Rituals: Why One Sticks and the Other Actually Changes Your Life

Have you ever set a habit with the best intentions… only to watch it slowly fade away? If you’ve ever wondered why some changes never seem to stick, especially in seasons where life already feels full, you’re not alone. And it’s not because you lack discipline or motivation. In this episode, we explore the powerful difference between habits and rituals, and why understanding that distinction can change the way you approach growth, self-care, and consistency (especially as a mom). Drawing inspiration from the work of Michael Bungay Stanier, author of The Coaching Habit, this conversation reframes behaviour change in a way that feels realistic, compassionate, and sustainable. We talk about why resistance is a normal part of change, how to design around it, and why returning matters more than staying perfect. You’ll also hear a personal story about skincare, not as an anti-aging routine, but as a ritual rooted in self-worth, nervous system regulation, and the belief that you deserve to be taken care of. This episode is an invitation to stop forcing change, and start supporting yourself instead.   In This Episode, We Cover: * The key difference between habits and rituals, and why it matters * Why habits often fall apart in real life (especially for moms) * How rituals create meaning, flexibility, and self-trust * Why resistance is inevitable when trying something new * How to work with resistance instead of fighting it * Why starting small and easy makes change more sustainable * The power of support and not doing change alone * Why slipping doesn’t mean failing, and how returning creates real progress   Key Takeaway: You don’t need more discipline or a full life overhaul. You need habits and rituals that meet you where you are, and permission to return without guilt when life gets messy.   Chapters: 0:00   Introduction and Acknowledgment 1:54    Habits vs. Rituals 4:28   Personal Example: Skincare 8:12   The Power of Rituals 9:48   Working with Resistance 11:54  Community and Support 13:01  Conclusion and Call to Action Next Steps If this episode resonated with you: * Share it with someone who might need this reminder * Follow the podcast so you don’t miss upcoming conversations * And if you’re looking for a supportive space where these topics continue, you’re always welcome inside my free community (linked below)   Connect with Lisa: Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbG1OZl9MREN3MC1fOGszRXVfWjdPb3hacy1Pd3xBQ3Jtc0tuR01wNWNXZ3BuTVJpWHlEME04TU52OWZVRFdxRllLeWRkOHM0cUNWTmhlQjBOLUwtSGlncHV5bFpYS0pTVzg1SmZWaXEwR0VqSV9KSF9CakhrcXZLTURJQWQtdmYwQnAxXzNTQmJJMW5kb3piZVFNRQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fselflovecoachingco&v=lkJebp11akw] TikTok →   / thelisahardie   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbE1wZFNRNDBzSVhoanBNSE54WEdic0NoZGllZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttaDhhb2Y0VXh6dTFrWXNDR1dFcnN1LWc0RHc1ZVhCNUg1WkNHTzRNa1VGSmtvQ1hucUZzeHRUV3dDLUxEU3ZEdXdsRmtCOW1iaGRfQzltRFl5UHQtVnJ2TkxTdXJySTRvV3R4Qy00U1QzOGQ1REhCMA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thelisahardie&v=lkJebp11akw] Join The Joyful Mom Collective → Join the Collective Here! [https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about] Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → www.lisahardiecoaching.com [http://www.lisaannecoaching.com]

Why "Me Time" Doesn't Work for Moms

Join The Joyful Mom Collective → https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about [https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about]   In this episode, we’re talking about the truth behind “me time”, and why it often doesn’t work for moms the way we’re told it should. So much self-care advice assumes life is calm, predictable, and manageable. But what happens when it’s not? When you’re navigating grief, stress, caregiving, emotional exhaustion, or simply carrying the weight of everything that needs to get done? Lisa shares openly about her own recent season of loss and uncertainty, including the passing of her grandmother, her dad being in the ICU, and spending much of Christmas at the hospital. Through this experience, she reflects on why me time can feel impossible (and even ineffective), when it’s unplanned, unprotected, and treated as an afterthought. This episode explores the shift from accidental self-care to intentional self-support, and why planning for yourself before the week begins can be a powerful act of self-respect. Lisa introduces the concept of Monday Hour One, also known as Sunday Service Sessions, as a gentle, compassionate way to check in with yourself, protect your energy, and create space for care — even when life feels heavy. You’ll hear why starting with your own needs matters, how to treat your personal care like a non-negotiable appointment, and how intentional planning can help you feel supported inside your life instead of constantly trying to escape it. This is a grounded, honest conversation for moms who are tired of feeling like they’re failing at self-care and are ready for something that actually works in real life. If this episode resonated with you, you’re invited to join Lisa’s free community, where she hosts workshops and live Sunday Service Sessions to help moms intentionally create space for themselves. Some features are available through a paid membership for those who want deeper support, but the heart of the community is connection, compassion, and doing this together. ✨ You are worth showing up for. Always.   Takeaways * Self-care is often seen as a luxury for moms, but it's essential. * 'Me time' can feel impossible to achieve amidst chaos. * Life doesn't pause for self-care; it requires planning. * Intentional self-care is more effective than accidental moments. * Moms often carry a heavier emotional and mental load. * Scheduling self-care should be treated as non-negotiable. * Community support can enhance self-care practices. * Grief and stress significantly impact self-care capacity. * You deserve more than just scraps of rest. * You are worth showing up for yourself. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Its Purpose 00:26 The Challenge of 'Me Time' for Moms 04:25 Intentional Self-Care: Planning Ahead 09:42 Creating a Supportive Week: The Importance of Structure 11:46 Community Support and Conclusion     Connect with Lisa:    https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGxNNGNnTXdEZkN4UXFxRWpoQlN6ZV9ZSVlNUXxBQ3Jtc0trYk1EQlVZZ3g1QUlsb2twNUJNYms2azE5akRRSHlVdE96bkg3OUlvVzRmMTBCLU4xU3NXVWxaMVRlbkpwWFBIaWpJRi16MFY2LW5oaGwtbGdTVWRNYTljakRYNDY5ZWY5OExVczItczFRU3VjY3Bqcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fselflovecoachingco&v=lkJebp11akw Instagram →  / selflovecoachingco   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGxNNGNnTXdEZkN4UXFxRWpoQlN6ZV9ZSVlNUXxBQ3Jtc0trYk1EQlVZZ3g1QUlsb2twNUJNYms2azE5akRRSHlVdE96bkg3OUlvVzRmMTBCLU4xU3NXVWxaMVRlbkpwWFBIaWpJRi16MFY2LW5oaGwtbGdTVWRNYTljakRYNDY5ZWY5OExVczItczFRU3VjY3Bqcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fselflovecoachingco&v=lkJebp11akw]     TikTok →  / thelisahardie   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbktVaE9rM05ZSUd3ZWp6Nm12eWFLSmxLVkhtZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttekctdEdfQnUzZm1fX2xLZ210bVkwR09PSENJckdDeUh3QmZIR3AtRnlEczdmT0VyaXhoNjh6YkdqSTlWS3ViSGphRVB3b041OHNGV1ltSnI5VXlMcWhMWTJzNnMtZFM0ejFUdFpiWHFWUTM2YkFOUQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thelisahardie&v=lkJebp11akw] Join The Joyful Mom Collective → https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about [https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about] Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → https://www.selflovecoachingco.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUd5ZXhmMmlCTWNjXzA1WWxRamFrZmxHeGw4d3xBQ3Jtc0ttU2lHcU5sRm1fMVRaNkcyeUljQU5HNk02TmpfMTlJX256S3JNcHYwMDgwbUJqZFVGVFNTMmhJVjNNNzhzNldHMGpsSXZaY3BpYjM5X1JQQTlZak01dUJhYjFSLUJNRndtMVNVaUU4ZHJ6Z1h2TFE1Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.selflovecoachingco.com%2F&v=lkJebp11akw]

Mini Episode: Rest Is Not A Setback

This is a softer, gentler episode. Today’s episode is a reminder that rest is not a setback. It’s care, maintenance, and self-respect. If you’ve been feeling tired, overwhelmed, or stretched thin, this short check-in is here to remind you that slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. Especially as moms, we’re conditioned to push through and keep going, even when our bodies and hearts are asking for a pause. This episode is an invitation to listen, to release the guilt around rest, and to remember that you don’t need to earn your worth through productivity. Consider this your permission slip to slow down, breathe, and choose yourself - even just for a moment. Short. Gentle. Exactly what you might need today. Connect with Lisa: Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbHR0ZXhaRVBiZU5ON1dTSFp1NEdpcTdSVVF4d3xBQ3Jtc0ttVjBOTlZRMUxPUUdTNXBFQTRqcXlHaklCNUQxVlptMkh3ZGY2ZzZFRGpBdkxocDdSVWNvTHBmczVBVldINUVHVGo5aWFPMkw0ZlE3Nnk3ZmRxa3dfV19FMnVBc1hSOWZIU2w0Mlp1TWQyallFOEhHSQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fselflovecoachingco&v=61ojlE9aKmM] TikTok →   / thelisahardie   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGN2R2JUeFlmbE9hVmVsM0QtbVlhX25kMGpTd3xBQ3Jtc0tsb2o4QTNhaWVVb0tCQjB4cmlfcUI5Y1pQMlYwOW15azVrU2lPdk9nLXFuMHhDWlBqSWNYY1F1VXdNQTFtcEw5eDVVaUJ5UWk2U1RzcEF5ejg4NTEwWEdKUWRmMi1SellPSnBxT0JXenFOald3ZGtIcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thelisahardie&v=61ojlE9aKmM] Join The Joyful Mom Collective → https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDdOdWZjbG1nRnhFQ0hjeV93SU8yMkhlT3ZxZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttakx6Yk1tT0NROEhyRWdtQTFvcVRoQllEMmVHbXhwZXhJbHFvSDJCUFJRSjRLVUFLVGFZY0oxVXFZZUhpeGNaZFVsQTkwaUJRS1BHNmhjREhqMm9rUk0zd1AxeW93WFM2cl9oa3ZnbE4wMFRIYjlDcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skool.com%2Fthe-joyful-mom-membership-3522%2Fabout&v=61ojlE9aKmM]   Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more → https://www.selflovecoachingco.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDNHTE5XZmkxcDMzcEs3VUo0MW9tSkNlOF9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0trUDRna2lfZm45YTN0SmFCc0NQcTdrRmY1bEpwaVczZ1BIWDhlZ3Y5SnF0SGNmTUVBOWFZM0xPc0RMWDYtc3dsVjRic1oweVVBalhHSU8tSW1jYVFmVkRBUFJ5RE94Y09sZG9jUEpCRkZhRUhjTlVBNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.selflovecoachingco.com%2F&v=61ojlE9aKmM]   🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a friend who needs a little reminder: You are worth showing up for. Always.

Filling Your Cup This Holiday Season

In the final episode of The Calm Mom Season holiday series, we’re talking about something moms rarely give themselves permission to do - receiving the same care they give everyone else. This episode takes an honest, compassionate look at the reality of motherhood during the holidays: the invisible labour, the mental overload, the overstimulation, the guilt around resting, and the pressure to be “on” even when you're completely drained. We explore the science behind why this season feels so heavy, why rest is a biological necessity (not a luxury), and how to regulate your nervous system in tiny, realistic moments that actually make a difference, especially for single moms or moms without a lot of support. This episode will help you: * Understand why holiday overwhelm hits so hard * Release guilt around slowing down or saying no * Recognize the signs of nervous system overload * Create small grounding rituals that regulate your stress response * Navigate overstimulation and emotional fatigue with more compassion * Shift from performance to presence * Give yourself permission to take up space this season Whether your holidays are busy, bittersweet, complicated, joyful, or somewhere in between, this episode is your reminder that you deserve peace too.   Reflection Prompt: What do I need this season to feel at peace? Weekly Challenge: Schedule one act of self-love this week — and protect it like any other important commitment.   Be sure share this will your mom friend and follow the podcast so you don't miss any future episodes.   Connect with Lisa: Instagram →   / selflovecoachingco   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0M1b1NEMG9hVHY5Y1lZeHEtanB4VHJkV2JyUXxBQ3Jtc0trNEF3clJMMHAwNlNqdW56cTZFZTBPVE50Wkk0SlJabjRUVFVlSHRWT3dmQW1RTXZHQzNROEdHNGx0NU0wempmUmYtRGUwSlprOUNtWDNCXzUzU0dKeE9xY0JLQmFlWE5WbXZTdFRVWDRSYVktc3RxOA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fselflovecoachingco&v=YT9l5I769nI] TikTok →   / thelisahardie   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUhvUWtCRHBCZ3l5b3YzNjduUmtoUkFicS1zZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsVHdqbXh4ZFRnYk1NRkdyQTZudXlmbUluTnI0Zlo2RHNEaHVnZDAzaUpiMTd1UWl6dzBEM2plLUx0cVE0SlVpdmRTQnNPWDRXZmxTdmxxNmNPTm5mVUtZZk9UN3BlV0RsbHhyem1XNGRRalp5cllWcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thelisahardie&v=YT9l5I769nI] Join Our Collective → The Joyful Mom Collective [https://www.skool.com/the-joyful-mom-membership-3522/about] Get weekly inspiration, resources, and more: Subscribe to our Newsletter Here! [https://www.selflovecoachingco.com/]