The Courageous and Confident Christian Mom

Why You React So Strongly in Conflict — and How to Stop Shaming Yourself

Have you ever walked away from a hard conversation and thought, What is wrong with me? Why did I react like that? Why can’t I stay calm? In this episode of The Courageous and Confident Christian Mom Podcast, Marci Owen introduces the Reactor Part in Conflict and explains why your intense reaction is not your identity. Whether you snap, shut down, get defensive, cry, over-explain, or say something you later regret, your behavior may be giving you important information about your nervous system, protective parts, and unmet emotional needs. So many women carry shame after conflict, especially in marriage, motherhood, parenting adult children, or family relationships. They believe their reaction means they are too much, immature, unloving, broken, or failing. But what if your reaction is not proof that something is wrong with you? What if it is a signal that something inside of you felt threatened, overwhelmed, criticized, dismissed, or unseen? Marci teaches that you are not your behavior. Your reaction matters, and repair matters, but shame is not the path to lasting change. Through the lens of the Inner Relationship Method, you’ll learn how the Reactor Part tries to protect you, why pressure builds before emotional reactions, and how to begin responding with more self-awareness, compassion, and emotional steadiness. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why conflict can trigger intense emotional reactions * How nervous system dysregulation affects communication * What the Reactor Part is trying to protect * Why you are not your behavior or your reaction * How to stop shaming yourself after conflict * Simple ways to repair, regulate, and return to your Resourced Self If you have ever felt guilty after snapping, shutting down, getting defensive, or reacting strongly in a relationship, this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and begin creating change from love instead of shame. 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better  Scroll to the bottom of this page [https://marciowen.com/] for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose.   👉 Click here to enroll or learn more [https://selfloveyouniversity.com/] 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk.   🎯 Schedule your free call here [https://claritycallwithmarciowen.as.me/?appointmentType=21310230] 💌 Get Marci’s Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded.   📬 Click here to join the list [https://www.subscribepage.com/l9n7l9_copy] 🔗 Visit My Website:  To learn more visit www.marciowen.com [https://marciowen.com/] 🙏 Love the Podcast? Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I’d love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions. 📲 Stay Connected Email: marci@marciowen.com     Instagram: @marci.owencoaching [https://www.instagram.com/marci.owencoaching] Facebook: Marci Owen Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/marciowencoaching] Episode Website [https://marciowen.com]

Stop Measuring Your Life by the Wrong Things

After attending two funerals one day apart, Marci walked away with unexpected treasures about life, love, faith, family, service, and what really matters in the end. One funeral was for a dear friend who died at 60 after battling brain cancer. The other was for her husband’s 98-year-old aunt, a woman remembered for her love, humor, faith, and the way she made every person feel special. In this reflective and heart-centered episode, Marci shares the powerful lessons she took from both lives — not as a way to compare, shame, or measure herself, but as an invitation to live more intentionally. You’ll hear about the beauty of owning mistakes, repairing relationships, checking in with adult children, sharing what you love, serving quietly, laughing often, saying “I love you,” and remembering your divine identity. This episode is a tender reminder that people are not remembered for their weight, appearance, perfection, or worldly accomplishments. They are remembered for who they were, how they loved, and the mark they made. If you’ve ever used someone else’s goodness against yourself, this episode will help you shift from comparison to inspiration, from self-criticism to reflection, and from pressure to purpose. 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page [https://marciowen.com/] for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose.   👉 Click here to enroll or learn more [https://selfloveyouniversity.com/] 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk.   🎯 Schedule your free call here [https://claritycallwithmarciowen.as.me/?appointmentType=21310230] 💌 Get Marci’s Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded.   📬 Click here to join the list [https://www.subscribepage.com/l9n7l9_copy] 🔗 Visit My Website: To learn more visit www.marciowen.com [https://marciowen.com/] 🙏 Love the Podcast? Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I’d love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions. 📲 Stay Connected Email: marci@marciowen.com     Instagram: @marci.owencoaching [https://www.instagram.com/marci.owencoaching] Facebook: Marci Owen Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/marciowencoaching] Episode Website [https://marciowen.com]

When Mother’s Feel Forgotten, Disappointed, or Unappreciated

Mother’s Day can bring up more than we expect. For some moms, it feels sweet and meaningful. For others, it can feel tender, disappointing, complicated, or painful long after the day is over. In this compassionate and empowering episode, Marci Owen speaks directly to the mother who felt forgotten, unseen, unappreciated, or let down after Mother’s Day — and gently helps her come back to herself with strength. Marci explores why Mother’s Day can feel like an emotional report card and how a missed call, lack of visit, short text, or unmet expectation can stir deeper questions about motherhood, worth, love, and whether we’ve done enough. But this episode does not leave you sitting in the ache. Instead, Marci invites you to step into a more grounded and self-led way of mothering. Through her “Release and Return” practice, you’ll learn how to release resentment, silent expectations, emotional gripping, and the need to measure your motherhood by other people’s actions — and return to your values, your voice, your self-respect, and your strength. This is a message for the mom who is ready to stop waiting for imperfect people to validate her worth and start mothering from strength. Marci encourages you to speak up for what you want, honor your own heart, stop abandoning yourself, and step into your role as the mother, woman, and matriarch you are becoming.  Inside this episode, you’ll learn: * Why Mother’s Day can trigger anxiety, disappointment, sadness, guilt, resentment, or old wounds * How to separate what happened from what you made it mean * Why your children’s thoughtfulness, maturity, or effort is not the measure of your motherhood * How to release what is not yours to carry and return to who you are * How to ask for what you want without feeling selfish or needy * How to mother from strength with love, truth, and self-respect * How to stop waiting to be celebrated and begin honoring yourself If Mother’s Day hurt, this episode will help you feel seen, steady, and empowered. You are still here. You are still loving. You are still learning. And you are allowed to come back to yourself. As mentioned on the podcast: Redefining Success as a Mother [https://portal.selfloveyouniversity.com/courses/offers/a9f5e4e6-1baf-4c1f-8c2c-21a2da4ee2e0] is a $17 perspective reset for moms who are ready to stop measuring their motherhood by guilt, outcomes, expectations, and things they cannot control. Click HERE [https://portal.selfloveyouniversity.com/courses/offers/a9f5e4e6-1baf-4c1f-8c2c-21a2da4ee2e0] to get it now for $17 before the price increases to $49 in 48 hours. 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page [https://marciowen.com/] for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose.   👉 Click here to enroll or learn more [https://selfloveyouniversity.com/] 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk.   🎯 Schedule your free call here [https://claritycallwithmarciowen.as.me/?appointmentType=21310230] 💌 Get Marci’s Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded.   📬 Click here to join the list [https://www.subscribepage.com/l9n7l9_copy] 🔗 Visit My Website: To learn more visit www.marciowen.com [https://marciowen.com/] 🙏 Love the Podcast? Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I’d love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions. 📲 Stay Connected Email: marci@marciowen.com     Instagram: @marci.owencoaching [https://www.instagram.com/marci.owencoaching] Facebook: Marci Owen Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/marciowencoaching] Episode Website [https://marciowen.com]

Why I No Longer Call Myself a Self Love Coach

What if nothing is wrong with you? What if the part of you that overreacts, shuts down, spirals, people-pleases, or tries to control everything is not broken — but actually trying to protect something tender inside of you? In this meaningful and illuminating episode, Marci Owen unveils her Inner Relationship Method™ and shares why she is no longer calling herself a Self-Love Coach, but an Inner Relationship Coach. Self-love is still at the heart of her work, but Marci explains that true self-love is not just affirmations, bubble baths, or thinking positive. It is the way you relate to what is happening inside of you. Marci introduces the core pieces of her Inner Relationship Method™: the Wounded Child, protective parts, protective patterns, the nervous system, and the Resourced Self. You’ll learn why so many women feel stuck in cycles of self-criticism, anxiety, emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, control, overthinking, shutting down, or trying to carry everything alone — and why those patterns are not proof that you are failing. They are signs that something inside of you learned how to survive. In this episode, Marci also explains why mindset work alone can only take you so far. If your nervous system is dysregulated, your protective parts and patterns get louder, and your Resourced Self becomes harder to access. That is why nervous system regulation is such an essential part of healing. Marci teaches how Calm Center, Team Hyper, and Team Hypo help you understand what is happening in your body before you react, spiral, or shut down.  You’ll also receive a simple Inner Relationship Check-In and Safety Reset to help you pause, connect with your body, notice what part or pattern may be trying to protect you, and begin meeting yourself with safety, compassion, and love. This episode is for the woman who has spent too long asking, “What is wrong with me?” and is ready to begin asking, “What is happening inside of me?” You are not broken. You are beautifully complex. And you can learn to lead your inner world with compassion, safety, and love. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why Marci is shifting from Self-Love Coach to Inner Relationship Coach * What The Inner Relationship Method™ is and why it matters * How the Wounded Child, protective parts, and protective patterns work together * Why people-pleasing, controlling, escaping, overthinking, and shutting down may be protective patterns * Why your nervous system determines who is leading inside of you * How Calm Center, Team Hyper, and Team Hypo affect your reactions * Why your Resourced Self can lead with calm, compassion, curiosity, clarity, confidence, and connection * A simple Inner Relationship Check-In you can use this week * How to begin coming home to yourself instead of judging yourself 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page [https://marciowen.com/] for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose.   👉 Click here to enroll or learn more [https://selfloveyouniversity.com/] 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk.   🎯 Schedule your free call here [https://claritycallwithmarciowen.as.me/?appointmentType=21310230] 💌 Get Marci’s Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded.   📬 https://www.subscribepage.com/l9n7l9_copy Episode Website [https://marciowen.com]

If a Part Is Driving, Your Body Knows First

Before the shutdown, your body knew. Before the overexplaining, your body knew. Before the snapping, spiraling, or people pleasing, your body knew. In this episode, Marci Owen takes the conversation one step deeper into nervous system regulation, protective parts, and the body’s early warning signs. If you have ever wondered why you overreact, go blank, get defensive, shut down, people please, or feel the urge to fix and control everything, this episode will help you understand what may be happening underneath those reactions.  Marci explains how the body often detects stress and threat before the mind has words for it. Tightness in the chest, a dropped stomach, buzzing energy, flushed cheeks, urgency, numbness, defensiveness, or the need to explain yourself may all be clues that a protective part has stepped in. These reactions are not random, and they are not proof that something is wrong with you. They may be intelligent survival responses formed years ago to help protect a wounded part of you from pain, rejection, criticism, embarrassment, or loss of love.  This episode also explores the connection between the wounded child, protective patterns, and the nervous system. Marci shares how awareness creates space for your Resourced Self to come back into leadership, so you can stop reacting on autopilot and start responding with more compassion, clarity, and intention.  If you tend to: * overexplain yourself * people please even when you do not want to * shut down in hard conversations * get defensive quickly * spiral in your thoughts * feel confused by your own emotional reactions This episode will help you make sense of those patterns in a loving, grounded way.  In this episode, you’ll learn: * how the body signals activation before behavior shows up * why protective parts are not the enemy * how old emotional wounds shape present-day reactions * why awareness is the first step toward healing * 4 powerful questions to help you slow down and understand what is happening inside of you 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨  3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page [https://marciowen.com/] for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose.  👉 Click here to enroll or learn more [https://selfloveyouniversity.com] 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let’s talk.  🎯 Schedule your free call here [https://claritycallwithmarciowen.as.me/?appointmentType=21310230] 💌 Get Marci’s Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded.  📬 Click here to join the list [https://www.subscribepage.com/l9n7l9_copy] 🔗 Visit My Website: To learn more visit www.marciowen.com [https://marciowen.com/] 🙏 Love the Podcast? Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I’d love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions. 📲 Stay Connected Email: marci@marciowen.com    Instagram: @marci.owencoaching [https://www.instagram.com/marci.owencoaching] Facebook: Marci Owen Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/marciowencoaching] Episode Website [https://marciowen.com]