The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon

How To Approach Girls (Why You Keep Getting Rejected)

Most guys think approaching girls is a skill problem. It's not. The skill falls apart because what's underneath it is rotten. Before you ever open your mouth, there's a layer of work that has to be done. Get that wrong and everything else is just performance. She'll feel it. You'll feel it. And nothing will come of it.This video is about what actually has to be in place before any of this works.In this video I cover:-Why intention determines everything before the approach even happens-The three types of guys and where you actually fall-Where to find the kind of woman you're actually looking for-How physicality, composure, and dress change what you communicate without saying a word-The calibration problem that kills good guys in conversation-Why "what to say" is maybe 10% of thisThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 How to Approach Girls0:13 Intention Before Everything1:37 The Guy Must Lead With Clarity4:25 No Intention Leads to Disorder5:39 Living Intentionally Without Dating7:00 Ready to Find a Spouse8:33 Where to Actually Find Her10:46 Be Jacked Dress Well Speak Well13:42 Be Yourself and Stay Calibrated16:23 Practice the Art of Conversation18:15 Intention and Confidence Do the Work19:30 Legion Community and Outro

Biblical Proof of Retardmaxxing

Previous video introduction to retardmaxxing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVB_aIXMEgE&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=6&t=426sIf the last video landed for you, this one goes further.The world has a word for the man who fasts, prays, detaches from possessions, and orders his whole life toward God. That word is fool. St. Paul knew it. The saints knew it. And if you're serious about your faith, you're going to know it too. This is part two of the retardmaxxing series, and this time we're going into the scriptural foundations of the concept. It's not a modern internet phenomenon. It has deep roots in the tradition of the Church, and once you understand the theology behind it, the whole Christian life starts to make a different kind of sense.The world's wisdom and God's wisdom are not the same thing. What looks like weakness is often where the real power is. The incarnation itself is the clearest proof of that. This video gets into what St. Thomas Aquinas says true happiness actually is, why retardmaxxing is not anti-thought but anti-overthinking, and why Our Lady is the model of everything this concept is pointing at.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 Holy Fool Scripture Foundations0:42 Fools for Christ in 1 Corinthians1:03 The Absurdity of the Incarnation2:07 Why Christian Life Looks Foolish3:14 The Happy Man the World Mocks3:56 God Makes Foolish the Wise4:26 Weakness of the Cross as Victory5:03 Becoming Like a Child5:34 Simplicity and United Desires6:29 True Happiness Defined by Aquinas7:37 Anti-Overthinking Not Anti-Thought8:47 Mary the Model of the Interior Life10:24 Living and Dying as a Holy Fool11:27 Disclaimer on Worldly Duties11:55 Faith Integrates Everything

Plato's Solution to the Masculinity Crisis

Plato split men into three classes. Bronze, silver, and gold. Most men are chasing silver. Strength, success, status. And there's nothing wrong with any of that. But if that's where it ends, you get tyrants, not kings.The philosopher king is the integration of all three. A man who has mastered the exterior but understands that mastery flows from the interior. A man who has seen the good and is fixed on it, which means the world stops having the kind of grip on him it has over everyone else. You can't bribe a man who doesn't want what you're offering.This video gets into why kingship alone produces disorder, why philosophy without strength produces basement dwellers, and why only the man who holds both has the capacity to actually lead. Plato gives us the framework. Aquinas develops it. And Christianity completes it through the baptismal commissioning of priest, prophet, and king. That's what every Christian man is called to. Most have never heard it framed that way.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones 0:00 The Philosopher King1:04 Plato's Three Types of Men1:47 The Golden Class Sees the Good2:37 Leaders Must Be Like Doctors3:28 Why Kingship Alone Falls Short5:04 The Modern King Movement5:32 Marcus Aurelius and True Wisdom6:50 The Philosopher Without Physicality8:02 Low Testosterone and Moral Cowardice9:44 Cannot Be Bribed by Shadows10:06 Christ Perfects the Philosopher King10:39 Epictetus and the Interior Kingdom12:31 Priest Prophet King14:37 The Legion and Final Thoughts

The 10 Years That Determine Everything (Most Men Waste Them)

Most men are waiting for a clear calling before they start becoming who they need to be. They want the vocation, the mission, the direction, before they commit to the work. But that's not how it works. Capacity comes before calling. The man who waits to be ready will never be ready.This video is about what you're supposed to be doing right now, before the vocation, before the clarity, before you know what God is asking of you. There is a specific kind of work that belongs to the years in front of you, and most young men are throwing it away.The graveyard image in this video says it all. All throughout a good man's life are gravestones marking the noble deeds that went undone, not through bad intentions, but through lack of energy, lack of vigor, lack of capacity. That is the quiet tragedy of a generation of men who were never taught to build.In this video I cover:-The difference between having capacity and knowing what it's for-Why the years of your youth are the most important years of your formation-What building capacity actually looks like in prayer, body, skill, and career-The low-energy dad problem-Why you don't need a clear calling to start doing serious work todayThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mone0:00 Capacity Is Not Enough0:46 Why Young Men Need to Build Now1:26 Prayer Body and Skills2:24 Grind the Years Before Marriage3:43 Most Men Waste Their Days4:15 The Low Energy Dad Problem6:12 Gravestones of Undone Deeds7:04 Build for What God Will Ask7:53 Train Today Build Today

Male Leadership (Will Save The World)

Most men today chase strength, money, and status but still feel lost. They miss the actual core of masculinity, the non-negotiable call that biology, history, and Christ Himself make crystal clear.In this raw, no-fluff breakdown I lay out what real masculine virtue looks like, why it’s never in competition with femininity, and how the culture’s zero-sum lie has destroyed both. Men are wired for hardship and leadership. Higher cortisol tolerance, thumos that drives conquest and protection, a life that isn’t about self but sacrifice for wife, family, and society. Thi headship that creates safety, order, and room for women to actually flourish in their own vocation of love and nurture.And feminism doesn’t free women, it trades one form of slavery for another. When men step up and lead rightly, everything changes for the better. It’s a positive-sum game, not the war the world pretends it is. If you’re tired of weak, directionless masculinity and want the real standard, this one cuts straight through the noise.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Masculinity and Femininity0:44 Feminism Versus True Femininity1:10 Career Over Family Trap2:22 Two Sexes Biological Differences3:17 Thumos and Sacrifice4:29 Christ Models Masculinity5:02 Strength Serves Family6:37 Masculine Vocation Is Leadership7:01 Lead Yourself First8:09 Zero Sum Lie of Feminism9:25 Men Lead Women Flourish11:45 Complementary Positive Sum Game13:05 Embrace Leadership Vocation13:52 Society Lies to Women15:31 CTAs