The Gay Teachers Lounge

Keira: I Got a Concussion Teaching—and Admin Told Me to Stay Quiet

What really pushes a teacher to leave the classroom? In this episode I sat down with Keira, a nonbinary lesbian, who formerly taught elementary school in Texas for 8 years. They navigated constant school changes, grade-level shifts, and increasingly toxic work environments. From teaching Pre-K to 5th grade, their experience reveals what instability in education actually looks like behind the scenes. We talk about everything—from being reported for wearing a hat backward to being told to stay quiet after a student gave them a concussion. This is an honest, unfiltered conversation about burnout, lack of support, workplace culture, and the moments that finally push great teachers out of the profession. If you’ve ever wondered why so many teachers are leaving, this episode will give you some answers. Topics We Cover: Constant job instability in teaching Toxic team dynamics & workplace gossip Discrimination and bias in schools Lack of principal support Student behavior & safety concerns If this episode meant something to you, the best way to support the podcast right now is by buying me a $5 coffee— https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge [https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge] It genuinely helps me keep this going. ( ꈍ◡ꈍ) Listen on your favorite podcast platform: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gay-teachers-lounge/id1816730838 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gay-teachers-lounge/id1816730838] Let me know in the comments: Have you experienced something similar in your workplace? I sure did. Info about the T-TESS! https://teachfortexas.org/Teachers/EvaluationProcess [https://teachfortexas.org/Teachers/EvaluationProcess] Info on Texas Project First! If your young child has a disability and you need help navigating the school system in Texas: https://texasprojectfirst.org/3-5/ [https://texasprojectfirst.org/3-5/] Keira's book rec! Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo https://www.malindalo.com/lastnight [https://www.malindalo.com/lastnight]

Robbie, a 5th Grade Teacher: Identity, Conflict, and Hard-Won Triumph

If this episode meant something to you, the best way to support the podcast right now is by buying me a $5 coffee— https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge [https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge] It genuinely helps me keep this going. In today’s episode, we have an honest and unfiltered conversation about what it really means to be a teacher right now. From the moments that make the job deeply meaningful to the ones that leave a lasting impact, nothing is held back. We talk about navigating identity in the classroom, including Robbie’s experience of being reported by parents for being gay, and what it feels like to show up authentically in a system that doesn’t always feel safe. He also shares a shocking incident involving a parent confrontation that escalated further than anyone would expect—and what that reveals about the current state of education. At the same time, this episode holds space for the moments that remind teachers why they stay: the connections with students, the growth, and the small wins that mean everything. This conversation is for educators, future teachers, and anyone who wants a real look at the challenges—and purpose—behind the profession today. Robbie also shares that he reads My Shadow Is Purple by Scott Stuart at the end of every school year as part of a unit centered on self-acceptance and authenticity. It’s a powerful read—but it’s important to know your school and district context before bringing it into your classroom. Katie Rinderle was dismissed from her 5th grade teaching position in Cobb County, Georgia, after reading the book aloud to her GATE students.

Sky, 9th Grade Teacher, and the First Gay Person His Students Have Ever Met

Today, I am sitting down with a high school English teacher who is navigating what it means to be openly queer in the classroom today. He shares what it felt like when students told him he was the first gay person they had ever met, and the unexpected responsibility that comes with being visible for young people who may have never seen queer adults in their lives. But visibility also comes with challenges. We talk about identity-based harassment from a student, how schools attempt restorative justice when harm happens, and the complicated balance between compassion for teenagers and protecting yourself as an educator. We also dive into: • Why English teachers may face more pushback than teachers of other subjects • How accusations of “flaunting” identity show up in schools • Why GSAs are important • Why representation still matters more than many people realize If you care about education, LGBTQ visibility, or what’s really happening inside classrooms today, this episode is for you. If you're enjoying the podcast, we'd love and appreciate your support! https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge [https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge] We love supporting queer creators! Listen to Izzy Arden's latest single, Loaded Gun wherever you stream your music! https://izzyarden.com/ [https://izzyarden.com/] And here's the book Sky mentioned in today's episode: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12000020-aristotle-and-dante-discover-the-secrets-of-the-universe [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12000020-aristotle-and-dante-discover-the-secrets-of-the-universe]

"Do You Listen to Girl in Red?" : Tina, a Queer Teacher’s Story from the Front Lines of Education

Tina, a special education elementary school teacher in the south is my guest today! At 21 years old, fresh out of college, she was asked a simple question by a seventh grader: “Do you listen to Girl in Red?” In that split second, she had to decide whether she was going to out herself to an entire classroom. She said yes — and from that moment on, she became “the gay teacher.” In this episode, we talk about what it’s really like to be a queer educator in a conservative Southern district — from safe space stickers being banned to a megachurch's influence on a school board, scripted curriculum surveillance, and year-to-year contracts with no permanent status. We also discuss: • Teaching special education in a moderate-to-severe classroom • Being moved into roles you aren't licensed or credentialed for • “Nook and crook” curriculum walkthroughs • Teachers quitting mid-year • Why burnout is hitting harder than ever This is a raw, honest conversation about identity, integrity, and what it costs to continue working in public education in the United States right now. If you’ve ever wondered why teachers are leaving — or what it takes to remain — this episode is for you. Sorry for the abrupt ending! Tina and I began talking about something else, and we never said goodbye to you all! ^~^ If you are enjoying the podcast and would like to help support it, you can do so here: https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge [https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge]

Teaching While Queer in Texas: Alex, a Lesbian Band Director on Care, Fear, and Quiet Resistance

In this episode, I’m joined by Alex, a lesbian band teacher in Texas, for an honest conversation about teaching while queer in a political climate that often feels hostile to both educators and LGBTQ+ people. Alex talks about what it means to love and care for students who may not accept her if they knew she’s married to a woman, how she navigates visibility and safety in her school, and the quiet, creative ways teachers protect kids while staying within the rules. From the emotional weight of being “out” in a red state to moments of clever resistance inside the classroom, this conversation is thoughtful, grounded, and deeply human. This episode isn’t about outrage — it’s about care, integrity, and showing up for students even when the system makes it hard. 🎧 Topics we cover: – Being an out lesbian teacher in Texas – Loving students amid fear and uncertainty – Teaching in the South as a queer educator – Quiet resistance and “malicious compliance” in schools – Why care is not political — but still feels radical – Our own memories from middle school! Here is a link to Human Rights Initiative of North Texas https://hrionline.org/ [https://hrionline.org/] If you’re an educator, a queer person navigating unsafe spaces, or someone who believes public schools should be places of care and dignity, this conversation is for you. If you'd like to support the Gay Teachers Lounge, you can here: https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge [https://buymeacoffee.com/thegayteacherslounge]