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04. When Good Moms Feel Bad: Befriending Your Anger & Healing Your Parts

27 min · 30. apr. 2026
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Your baby is precious… so why do you sometimes feel panic, regret, or a flash of rage that scares you?  In this conversation, I sit down with Jessica Tomich Sorci, a level three IFS certified therapist specializing in maternal mental health, to name the feelings many mothers hide and to explain why they actually make sense. Jessica shares her own turning point in early motherhood, when love for her child lived alongside insomnia, terror, and the feeling that her old self was gone. From there, we get practical about support. Jessica breaks down why postpartum depletion is normal, why new moms are meant to be held by a village, and what to do when you are far from family or your “help” is complicated. We also dive into Internal Family Systems therapy and the Mom Parts Method, including how “parts” differ from emotions and why labeling parts as bad fuels shame.  Jessica explains common mom parts like self-doubt, regret, and the devoted caregiver, then goes deep on mom rage as a protective part that shows up when boundaries and needs have been ignored for too long.  If you’ve been wondering whether you’re failing, this conversation offers a kinder frame and a clearer path forward. Learn more about Jessica and her work: https://www.jessicatomichsorci.com/ [https://www.jessicatomichsorci.com/]  Jessica's Downloadable Resources, including "Survival Kit For New Moms": https://www.jessicatomichsorci.com/learning/downloadable-resources [https://www.jessicatomichsorci.com/learning/downloadable-resources] If this resonates, subscribe for more honest motherhood conversations, share the episode with a mom who needs it, and leave a review so more parents can find this support. You can learn more about my work here: https://remotheringmamas.com/ [https://remotheringmamas.com/] Let's connect on IG: https://www.instagram.com/remotheringmamas [https://www.instagram.com/remotheringmamas]

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