The Real Kiz Podcast

Own Your Follow Experience - How to enjoy and make the most of every dance event

When you step into a dance event or festival, do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of expectations, or are you able to embrace the moment fully? If you're looking to enhance your festival experience, understanding how to take responsibility for your own enjoyment can be transformative. Cristina emphasizes that a festival's success isn’t solely measured by the number of dances or the length of your dances. Instead, she advocates focusing on your mindset and attitude. Her approach involves being open to surprises, embracing imperfections, and recognizing that the journey of learning and socializing enriches the experience far more than just the dance itself. Your festival experience is what you make of it. Focus on attitude, connection, and enjoyment rather than only counting your dances. One of Cristina’s most inspiring habits is proactively asking leads to dance — and training herself to accept “no” without taking it personally. She believes that every “no” is a step toward greater resilience. She suggests that the more you ask, the more your confidence grows, and the fear of rejection diminishes. Even when a dance doesn’t go perfectly, each experience contributes to your growth and enjoyment. Courageously ask for dances, accept rejection with grace, and recognize that every interaction is an opportunity to learn and improve. Cultivating Kindness and Friendliness on the Dance Floor Cristina’s approach to dance and social interaction is rooted in kindness. She encourages dancers to smile, show good attitude, and focus on creating a relaxed, friendly environment. When leaders and followers embrace positivity, it relaxes the whole room, making dancing more enjoyable for everyone. Focus on the Collective Experience She stresses that dancing isn’t just about technical perfection but about shared joy. Making small gestures, like giving a genuine smile or encouraging a nervous beginner, can make a significant difference. A good attitude can turn a potentially awkward moment into a memorable, bonding experience. Share Good Vibes Find a balance: prioritize your own well-being but also foster a supportive attitude towards others. That means not just seeking out “quality” dances, but appreciating every person you connect with — they may surprise you. Kindness breeds better connections; focus on shared joy rather than perfection. Creating a Long-Term, Rewarding Dance Community Cristina highlights that spectators and helpers often underestimate the importance of genuine, supportive interactions. By being kind, approaching others proactively, and offering encouragement, you create a ripple effect — fostering a community that’s welcoming and enriching. A single positive interaction can lead to long-term friendships, memorable moments, and even future opportunities to dance and grow. Staying Open and Curious Cristina’s experience underscores an essential truth: the quality of your dance experience is more about your attitude than external circumstances. Whether you’re new or experienced, forgiving yourself, embracing imperfections, and sharing positivity can turn any dance event into a memorable journey. Practical Steps for You: 1. Focus on your feelings and intentions rather than external validation. 2. Practice asking confidently and accepting rejection gracefully. 3. Smile, be kind, and support others on the dance floor. 4. Respect boundaries and prioritize your well-being. 5. Remember: your attitude can inspire others and shape a welcoming community. So, are you ready to own your dance experience? Start today by approaching each event with kindness, curiosity, and confidence.

My Story - Meet Giorgia Di Lorenzo

From Dance Floors to DJ Booths: The Journey of DJ Neiken Tune in to discover the inspiring journey of DJ Neiken from an urban hip hop dancer to a sought-after Kizomba DJ. Learn about her challenges, mentors, and the passion that fuels. In the world of music, few stories are as captivating as that of DJ Neiken. How does someone transition from a passionate dancer to a renowned DJ in a niche genre? In this episode, we’ll explore Neiken's journey, the challenges she faced, and the pivotal moments that shaped her career. Whether you're an aspiring DJ or simply a fan of her sets, there’s plenty to glean from her experiences. The Early Days: A Dancer’s Path Neiken’s journey into the world of DJing began with her love for dance, particularly hip-hop. Growing up, she was heavily involved in the urban dance scene, participating in competitions and teaching young children. This background laid the groundwork for her musical journey. Inspired by the hip hop DJs she met, Neiken was intrigued by the art of mixing music. Yet, her path wasn’t straightforward. After trying dancing Kizomba for the first time, her initial experience was less than pleasant, causing her to step back from it for a while. Many aspiring DJs make the mistake of underestimating the importance of their initial experiences. Neiken’s story reminds us that setbacks can lead to greater determination. The Turning Point: A Fateful Festival Neiken’s breakthrough came during a festival in Italy where Neiken found herself captivated by DJ Stefanio Lima, who was performing at 8 a.m. in an empty room. This moment changed her trajectory. When Stefanio invited her to touch his controller, it ignited a spark in Neiken. This interaction marked the beginning of her quest to become a Kizomba DJ herself. The importance of mentorship in the arts cannot be overstated. Neiken’s experience highlights how a single moment can shape one’s career. Overcoming Challenges in a Niche Scene As Neiken transitioned into DJing, she faced several challenges, particularly due to the small Kizomba community in Italy. Despite her talent, she encountered skepticism because of her age. Neiken recalls the doubts cast upon her, with some questioning her legitimacy as a DJ. However, she used this as motivation to prove herself. Finding mentors like David Ruella and DJ Ghostface helped guide her through these challenges. Their support was crucial in navigating the male-dominated DJ scene. The Rise to Recognition With perseverance and dedication, Neiken’s hard work began to pay off. She started gaining recognition, posting her mixes on SoundCloud, which quickly garnered attention. Key Strategies for Success: Neiken emphasizes the importance of consistent practice and engaging with audiences through social media. Her live streams during the pandemic further amplified her reach. Impact of Community: Building a supportive network was vital. As she connected with other DJs and dancers, her confidence grew, leading to more bookings and opportunities. DJ Neiken’s journey from a hip-hop dancer to a celebrated Kizomba DJ is a testament to the power of passion, mentorship, and resilience. Her story is a reminder that every setback can lead to a triumphant comeback. So, whether you're an aspiring DJ or someone chasing your dreams, let Neiken's experience inspire you to embrace your journey. Want to learn more about DJ Neiken? Follow her on SoundCloud and Instagram @dj_neiken and watch the full conversation on Youtube or Spotify.

Dancing on the Spectrum - Confessions of Neurodivergent Dancers

Dancing is often seen as a joyful and liberating form of expression. But for neurodivergent individuals, social dance can present unique challenges. This conversation between Annabelle and Sarah, explores their insights as they share their experiences as neurodivergent dancers. This discussion sheds light on the complexities of dancing while navigating neurodivergence and offers valuable perspectives for both dancers and their partners. Understanding Neurodivergence in Dance Dancing is a deeply social activity, but for many neurodivergent individuals, it can be a source of anxiety and miscommunication. Annabelle introduces the topic by reflecting on her own experiences and those of her guest, Sarah, a dancer from Dubai. Together, they discuss how neurodivergence can affect one’s experience in the dance scene. The Experience of Being Neurodivergent in Dance Sarah shares her journey of navigating dance as a neurodivergent individual, highlighting how her late diagnosis of ADHD brought clarity to her previous struggles in understanding her body’s responses during dance. She explains that neurodivergent dancers may face challenges such as fatigue, discomfort, and difficulty with social cues, which can make social dancing feel overwhelming. Navigating Social Dynamics One of the main challenges discussed is the social dynamics inherent in dance. Both Annabelle and Sarah emphasize the importance of communication in ensuring that partners understand each other’s needs. When a dancer feels overwhelmed or fatigued, it’s crucial for them to communicate that to their partner to create a more enjoyable experience. Key Insight: Establishing a mutual understanding can significantly enhance the dance experience for neurodivergent individuals. Example: Annabelle shares her practice of asking for specific types of dances based on her energy levels, which helps her enjoy the dance more fully. The Importance of Individuality in Dance Dancers often find themselves conforming to specific styles or expectations, but neurodivergent individuals may struggle with this conformity due to their unique processing styles. Sarah talks about her experiences of feeling rejected and sensitive to others’ perceptions, emphasizing that each dancer's experience is valid. Embracing Authenticity Both Annabelle and Sarah encourage neurodivergent dancers to embrace their individuality and express themselves freely in their dancing. They discuss how it’s essential to honor one’s unique rhythm and style, allowing for a more genuine connection with the music and dance partners. Actionable Tip: Dancers should feel empowered to express their needs and preferences, whether it’s asking for a slower dance or suggesting a different style. In conclusion, the conversation between Annabelle and Sarah sheds light on the often-overlooked experiences of neurodivergent individuals in the dance community. By fostering understanding and communication, dancers can create an inclusive environment that celebrates diversity in movement. If you’re a neurodivergent dancer or partner, take the insights shared here to enhance your dance experience and connect with others on a deeper level. Key Takeaways: - Embrace individuality in dance. - Communicate openly with partners about needs and preferences. - Recognize the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face in social dance. As always, subscribe, follow, leave a comment and a review and join us on the socials!!!!

WOW - Why We All Need a World Of Women

In 2022, Pidjay and her co-founder Bianca realized that many women were struggling with a lack of representation in dance spaces. They shared stories of their experiences and recognized the need for a supportive environment where women could thrive. Since its inception, WOW has made waves in the Kizomba community, attracting a group of participants eager for growth and connection. The festival is not just about dance; it’s about cultivating a community that understands and uplifts women. The festival integrates programs that focus on mental, emotional, and physical well-being, ensuring that attendees leave feeling inspired and empowered. For those interested in exploring the WOW Festival further, visit their website for upcoming events and insights. @wow.kizomba my.weezevent.com/world-of-women-4 PIDJAY @pidjay_ @pidjay.enora Winner of the Olympiades of Kizomba 2025 (Solo Styling category), Pidjay is a powerful dancer and dedicated teacher based in Paris. Starting her journey at the heart of the UrbanKiz scene, she had the opportunity to learn and train with some of the very best artists from the beginning of her UrbanKiz path. Today, in partnership with Enora, she is recognized as one of the leading female dancers, both as a leader and a follower. Through her innovative concepts, “Ladies Can Lead Too” and “Kiz n Swap,” she shares her knowledge and experience with dancers worldwide. As the founder of the WOW Kizomba movement, Pidjay has empowered many women across the globe to take the lead not only in dance, but also about their own role in the kizomba community and overall happiness on the dance floor. MARIA MALUCA @mariamalucahh Maria began dancing at a young age, exploring various dance styles before discovering Salsa at the age of 16. This sparked her passion for partner dancing and eventually led her to Kizomba, a dance that soon became a life-changing experience. In 2011, she founded tudokizomba, an organization dedicated to Kizomba events and courses and creating a kizomba community in North Germany. Since then, her journey has developed into a successful international career as a teacher and dancer alongside her first dance partnership with Arnold Bunda. Maria focuses primarily on Kizomba and Semba, sharing her knowledge with high energy, joy, and a deep understanding of the dances and their cultural roots. Maria’s work is characterized by precise pedagogical methods, extensive knowledge of the dances and culture she teaches, and strong event management experience. Over the years she has choreographed numerous projects and supported many dancers and event organizers by mentoring in 1on1 sessions or her own teacher training concept. As an organizer, Maria runs events in Hamburg and across Europe, ranging from workshops and social parties to larger festivals such as the Ginga Kizomba Festival. The focus of her events goes beyond presenting great dancing; she aims to promote strong teaching skills, professionalism, and a healthy development of the community. Among her latest projects is A Bailar – Dance School Hamburg, a collaboration between SalsaDiversion, El Chevere (Cuban Salsa schools), and tudokizomba. The school is located in a beautiful venue with six dance rooms and offers weekly classes and events for the local dance community. Maria’s mission within the kizomba community is to share her vision and experience through a positive attitude and professional work style. She maintains a strong connection to the authenticity of the dances while creating joyful and memorable experiences for dancers. Her goal is to contribute to a sustainable, respectful, and thriving future for the local and international kizomba community.

Every Dancer’s Hero Journey

In the dance world, confidence is not just a desirable trait; it's essential. But how do you cultivate this confidence? In this post, we’ll explore five essential strategies to help you build a strong sense of self-worth and resilience as a dancer. With insights from Anita, a sovereignty and integration coach for dancers, we’ll uncover the deeper issues that affect our confidence and how to address them. Dancing is not just about technique; it’s also about the relationship you have with yourself. Often, dancers struggle with comparisons and self-doubt. Recognizing that these feelings are more about your personal relationship with yourself rather than just your dancing skills is crucial. As Anita explains, "Confidence is a byproduct of knowing your own worth." Embrace Your Unique Journey *Why This Matters: Each dancer has a unique path filled with challenges and triumphs. Embracing your journey can help you appreciate your growth. *How to Do It: Reflect on your experiences and how they have shaped you. Acknowledge your progress, no matter how small. *Common Mistake: Many dancers focus solely on their shortcomings. Instead, celebrate your achievements. Develop a Sovereign Mindset *Why This Matters: A sovereign dancer is resilient and self-aware. This mindset helps you navigate challenges in dance and life. *How to Do It: Practice self-acceptance. Understand that it’s okay to be where you are right now while still striving to grow. *Common Mistake: Avoid equating confidence with perfection. Accept that growth is a continuous journey. Set Boundaries in Dance and Life *Why This Matters: Setting boundaries is crucial for your self-respect and well-being. *How to Do It: Learn to say no when something doesn’t feel right. Prioritize your comfort and safety on the dance floor. *Common Mistake: Many dancers fear rejection and avoid asserting their boundaries, leading to discomfort. Shift the Focus from External Validation to Internal Fulfillment *Why This Matters: Seeking approval from others can undermine your confidence. *How to Do It: Focus on what makes you happy in dance. Seek joy in the process rather than external accolades. *Common Mistake: Don’t tie your self-worth to competition results or external feedback. Practice Mindfulness and Self-Reflection *Why This Matters: Mindfulness helps you stay present and aware of your thoughts and feelings. *How to Do It: Incorporate meditation or journaling into your routine to reflect on your experiences and emotions. *Common Mistake: Many dancers neglect their mental health in favor of physical training. Building confidence as a dancer requires a deep understanding of yourself and a commitment to personal growth. By embracing your unique journey, developing a sovereign mindset, setting boundaries, focusing on internal fulfillment, and practicing mindfulness, you can cultivate a lasting confidence that enhances not only your dancing but your overall life. Check out Anita’s work for more insights on building a sovereign relationship with yourself @risingdancerscoaching on IG. Anita is a Sovereignty & Integration Coach for dancers and founder of Rising Dancers Coaching, based in Amsterdam who’s been coaching dancers for 5+ years. With 20+ years across competitive ballroom, contemporary, jazz and bachata, she built a methodology addressing what most dance training skips entirely. She works with dancers stuck in comparison, approval-seeking, and never feeling enough, and helps them build something the dance world rarely teaches: a sovereign relationship with themselves. A Sovereign Dancer is stronger, more resilient, and harder to manipulate, abuse, or keep silent. That's not a side effect of her work. That's the point. She is also a vocal advocate for a safer, healthier dance culture, because the two are inseparable.