The Savage Siblings Podcast

Not Gonna Be Able To Do It

This episode discusses the benefit of working hard even when you feel you are not going to be able to do what is required. The Savage Siblings take a dive into the appeal of what is easy in life.  Andre and Anitra connect this concept to the sibling experiences and responsibilities that they didn’t want to do from simple chores to complex decisions.  They discuss the consequences of choosing the easy way rather than the “right” way.  They share examples of the importance of ethical choices in life that have a direct impact on your future.  This episode is for you if you’re struggling with learning to embrace the challenges that life brings and are tempted to find an easy answer rather than building courage, fortitude and patience.  If you find that your ethics were shaped by negative childhood experiences that you find difficult to change, take a listen!  If you reflect on how you enjoy meeting the challenges, don’t go anywhere, this is the episode for you. The Savage Siblings give you hope and incentive to meet the challenges of life in spite of the appeal of easy. Memorable quotes: * When life feels at the heaviest, we are close to our breakthrough so God can make room from distraction. ~ Andre * Destiny comes through the hardship of pressing through. ~ Andre * Sometimes the hard choice means putting yourself at risk, and still is the “right choice”. ~ Andre * We seek achievement without great effort. ~ Anitra * Cognitive dissonance is based on fear to meet the challenge to deal with your weaknesses. ~ Andre * Ethics is a lifestyle as an adult; because I realize what easy gets me. ~ Andre * Your beliefs line up with your actions when you value ethics. ~ Andre * Too many of us are taking the path of least resistance or low hanging fruit. ~ Andre * Easy may look good, but it’s less valuable. ~ Andre * Society inundated us with the expectation to do everything quickly and easy. ~ Anitra * Society will push us to be urgent, but the choice may not be the most important. ~ Anitra * If you focus on completion, you miss the journey. ~ Anitra * Thinking about, “I want it off my plate” is problematic. ~ Anitra * Rewrite your habit to choose easy so you can reach your potential. ~ Andre * Taking the easy way out, traps all your potential inside. ~ Andre * Your ethic is who you are, not where you are. ~ Andre * You can’t reach your potential sitting on the couch. ~ Andre * Meeting the challenge means you question muscle memory or auto pilot mode for actions that are impactful. ~ Anitra * Auto pilot mode is a false friend related to laziness. ~ Anitra Keywords:  #MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Cantdothis, #Meetthechallenge, #Ethicsinlife, #Takingtheeasywayout, #Destinythroughhardship, #Sacrificetodoright,  #Accountability, #TheAppealofEasy, #Cognitivedissonance, #NoShortcuts, #Effectiveandefficient, #Valueethics, #Gettoyourvalue, #Getoffthecouch, #Curbappealonly, #Noautopilot,  Call to Action:  * Post comments! Leave us a review! * Share your thoughts on the appeal of easy.  Give us examples of cutting corners or avoiding the harder pathway! * Any topics you want us to discuss? Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

Get In Where You Fit In ~ Part Two

Welcome to part two of Get in Where You Fit In.   This episode emphasizes the importance of enjoying who you are and what you’re doing to be your authentic self.  Andre and Anitra evaluate examples of unique people who refuse to conform to the norm, but have the confidence to embrace their individuality. This episode analyzes the need to be appreciated in our partnerships and relationships and how that appreciation can lead to positive self-awareness and personal identity. Dre unpacks how the position of the older sibling has inherent expectations that limit choice and can create frustration and Anitra speaks from the perspective of the younger sibling and the difference between “have to” versus “get to.”   If you wonder why you didn’t feel like you belonged to your family, you will relate to this episode.  If you wondered how your family felt overwhelmed with family expectations, take a listen.  The Savage Siblings reflect on the difference between being needed and belonging to the family. Understanding these dynamics creates safe strategies to meet the needs of your family and partners in a healthy way.  This episode gives the listeners an opportunity to evaluate their relational value, which should create a healthy situation where you belong. Memorable quotes: Don’t dilute your relational value by morphing everywhere you go. ~ Andre Understand who you are, but be flexible to protect your independence and help others when necessary. ~ Anitra Don’t show vulnerability trying to protect your independence. ~ Anitra Give the gift of vulnerability, and don’t let pride keep you from achieving your authentic self. ~ Anitra You can kill a relationship by being extreme on either need or independence. ~ Anitra Being needy has an expiration date, don’t set yourself up for failure. ~ Anitra Grow when you are in a situation where you belong. ~ Andre Belonging is intentional, needing is temporal. ~ Andre You don’t find success, drive, passion alone. ~ Andre Belonging means the picture is bigger than me. ~ Andre Keywords:  #MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Mytribe, #Beingauthentic, #Belongingvsneeding, #GetIn, #FitIn, #SeekingtoBelong, #Transitiontoindependence, #Passingonthemantle, #RelationalValue, #Diversesyndrome, #SelfAwareness, #Beyourself, #IntentionalBelonging, Call to Action:  * Post comments! Leave us a review! * Share your thoughts on the need to be needed versus the belonging.  What’s it like to be the middle child? * Any topics you want us to discuss? Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon Music: Maxwell Music Photography: K.Cross Photography Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

Get In Where You Fit In ~ Part One

Get in Where You Fit In is an episode that emphasizes the importance of enjoying who you are and what you’re doing to be your authentic self.  Andre and Anitra evaluate examples of unique people who refuse to conform to the norm, but have the confidence to embrace their individuality. This episode analyzes the need to be appreciated in our partnerships and relationships and how that appreciation can lead to positive self-awareness and personal identity. Dre unpacks how the position of the older sibling has inherent expectations that limit choice and can create frustration and Anitra speaks from the perspective of the younger sibling and the difference between “have to” versus “get to.”   If you wonder why you didn’t feel like you belonged to your family, you will relate to this episode.  If you wondered how your family felt overwhelmed with family expectations, take a listen.  The Savage Siblings reflect on the difference between being needed and belonging to the family. Understanding these dynamics creates safe strategies to meet the needs of your family and partners in a healthy way.  This episode gives the listeners an opportunity to evaluate their relational value, which should create a healthy situation where you belong.  Memorable quotes: * Enjoy being the best of who you are. ~ Andre * People can undergird you while the second wind is coming. ~ Anitra * I can never have two bad days, because on the first day my tribe shows up and beats the drum. ~ Daniella * God puts people in your life that are instrumental to help you get going. ~ Anitra * We as human beings need to feel needed. ~ Anitra * Belonging never ends, but being needed ends. ~ Andre * The older sibling is the walking litmus test. ~ Andre * The innate desire to be needed puts us in times of transition. ~ Anitra Keywords: #MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Mytribe, #Beingauthentic, #Belongingvsneeding, #GetIn, #FitIn, #SeekingtoBelong, #Transitiontoindependence, #Passingonthemantle, #RelationalValue, #Diversesyndrome, #SelfAwareness, #Beyourself, #IntentionalBelonging, Call to Action:  * Post comments! Leave us a review! * Share your thoughts on the need to be needed versus the belonging.  What’s it like to be the middle child? * Any topics you want us to discuss? Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon Music: Maxwell Music Photography: K.Cross Photography Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

I Got Five On It ~ Part Two

Welcome Back to Part Two of "I Got Five On It!"   This episode discusses the art of fair partnership, reciprocity, and negotiation between siblings and the impact that understanding reciprocity has on future relationships. Reciprocity and fair partnership are valuable and foundational for healthy adult relationships and building a healthy future. Join in on the laughter and inspiration with the Savage Siblings as they discuss the pros and cons of reciprocity and how that is connected to the spirit of negotiation. The episode asks, what do we both bring to the table of our relationships, business partnerships and human interactions? Learn the difference between healthy reciprocity and transactional relationships and get better to reach agreement and harmony through the value of reciprocity.   Memorable quotes: * Reciprocity in family isn’t a space to get paid, but a space where you say thank you for what the family provides. ~ Anitra * Healthy reciprocity is trust to give and receive so you can keep pushing forward. ~ Anitra * Healthy reciprocity gives you knowledge of how to add value and is rooted in openness and honesty. ~ Anitra * People don’t have glass foreheads, and can't show scars if reciprocity isn’t healthy. ~ Anitra * Reciprocity is harmony over balance, knowing what is required for the well being of the relationship. ~ Anitra * You want the victory, you must make the investment, accept the struggle and reveal your vulnerability. ~ Andre * Reciprocity is awareness and investment that requires work.  Anitra * Effective reciprocity may require more for one member during one season, but not enabling.  Anitra * Transactional relationships are negative or selfish reciprocity. ~ Anitra * Stop giving when the other person isn’t inclined to contribute to promote growth. ~ Anitra * Reciprocity is sometimes sacrificial.  Andre * Forgiveness doesn't require both parties to participate; but anybody involved is given space for reciprocity. ~ Anitra Keywords:  #MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Negotiation, #Fairpartnership, #Reciprocity, #Comingtothetable, # Knowthetable, #Reliability, #Harmonyoverbalance, #Transactional/antireciprocity, #ParasitenotReciprocity,  #Sacrifice, #Takermentality Call to Action:  * Post comments! Leave us a review! * Share your thoughts on how you define reciprocity.  Have you developed excellent negotiation skills from your siblings? * Any topics you want us to discuss? Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon Music: Maxwell Music Photography: K.Cross Photography 00:00:00 ~ Introduction 00:02:00 ~ Savage Segment: How I learned reciprocity? 00:20:50 ~ Savage Segment: How do we use reciprocity? 00:24:43 ~ Savage Segment: You Owe Me! 00:31:22 ~ Savage Segment: When to stop giving. 00:48:38 ~ Transformational Perspective: Know who to bring to the table. 00:52:52 ~ The Quick Shot: Encourage People to Reciprocate 00:58:52 ~The Final Blow: Everybody gets more! 01:00:55 ~ Closing: Thanks for joining us! Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

I Got Five On It ~ Part One

This episode discusses the art of fair partnership, reciprocity, and negotiation between siblings and the impact that understanding reciprocity has on future relationships. Reciprocity and fair partnership are valuable and foundational for healthy adult relationships and building a healthy future. Join in on the laughter and inspiration with the Savage Siblings as they discuss the pros and cons of reciprocity and how that is connected to the spirit of negotiation. The episode asks, what do we both bring to the table of our relationships, business partnerships and human interactions? Learn the difference between healthy reciprocity and transactional relationships and get better to reach agreement and harmony through the value of reciprocity.   Memorable quotes: * Reciprocity is about siblings feeling appreciated for their role and respected for their skill. ~ Andre * When you understand what you bring to the table,  you have reciprocity and value each other. ~ Andre * If we share, we all become better and bless the future generation.  ~ Andre * Your gift is only a gift when you give it for others to be better. ~ Andre * Flow of energy or effort and understanding that it has to be in both directions. ~ Anitra * In reciprocity, the other person should feel the value and/or love, I give, we give, you give. ~ Anitra * Core of reciprocity you have to learn both sides of the relationship. ~ Anitra * Reciprocity for givers sometimes is difficult and for receivers, giving may be difficult. ~ Anitra * In reciprocity, you must learn how to stop giving away free samples, and realize what you have is valuable. ~ Andre * Trust your judgment on who you bring to the table so you aren’t manipulated. ~ Andre * Don’t let everybody come to the table! You are about to eat on when it comes to reciprocity. ~ Andre * Cultivate the table so you don’t depend on impulse, ask critical questions before you invite others to the table. ~ Andre Keywords:  #MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Negotiation, #Fairpartnership, #Reciprocity, #Comingtothetable, # Knowthetable, #Reliability, #Harmonyoverbalance, #Transactional/antireciprocity, #ParasitenotReciprocity,  #Sacrifice, #Takermentality, Call to Action:  * Post comments! Leave us a review! * Share your thoughts on how you define reciprocity.  Have you developed excellent negotiation skills from your siblings? * Any topics you want us to discuss? Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon Music: Maxwell Music Photography: K.Cross Photography Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.